Map Of Reality
Your map of reality is basically the sum of your perceptions of reality condensed into a "big picture". Its where your expectations come from. If you think life is a bitch and then you marry one, and that life is going to be full of difficulties, you're going to live like it. A lot of the time you'll be pleasantly surprised, but you won't focus on that, you'll be busy worrying about the next thing that’s coming. Blowing things out of proportion is normal for these guys, we call them pessimists. Then we have the idealists, they think life can be beautiful and perfect and everyone should and can get along perfectly. Now they're optimists so they're expecting great things to happen at every chance. So when their "perfect" "twin flame" "soul mate" cheats on them, their life is shattered and they become alcoholics etc etc Now your map of reality dictates more than your expectations of reality, it controls your self image, your expectations for yourself and controls that little voice. That chattery voice that pops randomly into your head sometimes with the most absurd worries or "brilliant" schemes Now when you're compulsively thinking/overthinking especially with anxiety, that little voice runs fucking rampant. If you're anxious, it's probably spitting out a million reasons for you to worry, reasons you're going to fail, things you have to "prepare" for. Now when these thoughts happen to a positive healthy person in a bad period of life they see it for what it is. Fear. Maldaptive thoughts generating themselves at a stupid rate. Now most psychologists see them for what they are, the brain. It's just the brain doing what it's supposed to. If it didn't, we wouldn't be here, because instead of stressing the fuck out about saving food for the winter, we'd be enjoying autumn dancing around the fire trying to get laid while smoking weed! Now the saddest thing I've ever seen is a kind, good intentioned person being driven insane by their thoughts. They wouldn't hurt a fly yet their mind is bashing them in with thoughts like "what if you don't make it" "what if you can't pay the bills" "you dont even know what you want to do with your life" "what if what you truely want to do requires a degree or even a doctorate" "you wont be happy till 50 at this rate" "what if the interviewers don't like you, you're too shy". These thoughts break down even the strongest of people. Ever notice when you're making a decision and someone makes one motivating comment, just one logical reason you have a good chance at succeeding and suddenly you're already convinced you're going to do it. One little comment often barely thought through and you're confident! Now turn around that logic and think what 50 self doubting thoughts a minute would do to someones confidence. I don't see how this isn't common sense. How can you expect to not be anxious as fuck if there's a little cheerleader of doubt whispering all the reasons you can fail. Yesss you're brain is trying to protect you by recognising threats, but when left unchecked, it'll run you into a hopeless hole. This is where you have to take control of your thought life. This is why mindfulness and the whole "detatching from your thoughts" is so old and still so popular. If someone was spreading bad advice 1000 years ago, surely by now with all this education and information on the internet it would be phased out and forgotten. But it hasn't and its increasing in modern culture. Distance yourself from all of these thoughts and you'll begin to see the real you. Because whether you know it yet or not, you are not your thoughts. They're just a random mechanism of your mind spitting out shit it thinks is relevant based on your map of reality. Have a map of reality that you're perfect and invincible and you'll get the confidence of a narcissist. Which can get to the point of having irrational confidence where they think they can fly etc. Now I don’t wanna think I can fly, but it's hella lot better than doubting you can take care of yourself in AUSTRALIA. The land of fucking opportunity. If worse comes to worse, become a garbage truck driver and you still earn 50k a year!!!
