Trinkets, Odds and Ends, That Sort of Thing

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Spy: A muscular man and woman beating a Nazi to death together naked, while covered in honey.

-ancient roman posca: water, red or white wine vinegar, honey, salt, herbs (coriander, mint, thyme)

-switchel: water, ginger, vinegar, sweetener, lemon, salt

-ayran: yogurt, water, salt, mint

-sees the reports of the heatwave in Europe-

"We know it looks like a butt plug, just drink the water, it's hot outside"

The more I think about it though, and maybe this was pretty obvious to some, the more I feel like that was intentional. Mary is not a good therapist. In the sense that she thinks she has to "help" her clients. Now maybe that's confusing. Isn't that the job of a therapist? Well, not exactly, as one of my previous therapists said to me: "I'm not here to help you. I'm here to guide you."

This all ties into her own trauma of dealing with her mother as a child. How she couldn't help her then and is still stuck up on that as a full grown adult. When Clark vaguely informed her that he was somewhere else via phone call, she couldn't have just called the police and request a welfare check like any sane and reasonable therapist would. No, she had to go search for Clark herself. She had to be the one to help him. She was breaching boundaries by personally going to the store.

So then we get to the dinner table scene where she yells at Clark. She does this out of frustration for Clark's behavior and inability to take responsibility of course, but she's equally frustrated that what she's been doing hasn't been working. Because she saw Clark as someone to she had to help instead of guide. To fix. To solve. To save. To bring up the same therapist again and paraphrase something they said to me regarding my mental state: "I do want you to get out of the shitbucket, but if you stay in there on your own choice, there's only so much that I can do." Mary basically went through one big wake up call in this movie.

"Behaviours that keep us walking in circles."

"Reaching for the same solutions over and over again."

"Thinking each time will take you somewhere new..."

"...but they don't."

"And still, it's the neural pathway of least resistance."

"A path you made."

"It's the one that kept you safe when you were a child."

"You learned to push people away before they could hurt you."

"And now, as an adult..."

"...you're still stuck right where you started."

"Alone."

Yes, it is finally summer, and yes, it's supposed to be hot too here. Except our hot temperatures are still way below that. The average temperatures at that period between 1991-2020 are 15-20°C below what we're experiencing. It's 41°C in Paris, Bordeaux, Toulouse, when it should be about 25, 42°C in Rennes when it should be 22.

On Tuesday 23rd, France was hotter than 99% of the planet. Only some specific zones in the Sahara, Arabian, and American deserts were hotter.

In the night between Monday and Tuesday, temperatures only came back down to between 21 and 28 degrees. Those are supposed to be the temps at day.