Spread Positivity Everywhere

We all deserve a break! You can make your own cozy corner too! :D I did my best to voiceact Chibird in the animated version of this comic- you can see it on my Instagram here!

🌸You are worthy

🌸 You deserve peace of heart and mind

🌸You deserve all the help and support you need

But the thing is that you didn’t have the knowledge or safety you have now. You were surviving with the tools and awareness you had. Hindsight makes everything look clearer than it ever felt in the moment.

Many of us hold ourselves to impossible standards. We think, “I should have seen the red flags” but trauma clouds your judgment. Survival mode doesn’t leave space for perfect decisions. And if you were a child or deeply isolated, expecting yourself to “just know” is especially unfair. I will also say that even if you did know and stayed, you still deserve to forgive yourself. 

Forgiveness isn’t about saying the trauma didn’t matter or excusing what happened. It’s about offering compassion to your past self. The one who got you here, who endured what they should never have had to endure.

Try the Double Standard Method: imagine a friend in your exact position. If they blamed themselves for not leaving, for freezing, or for trusting someone who hurt them, would you blame them or would you hold them with care? You deserve that same kindness.

I used to have those glow-in-the-dark stars in my bedroom, and honestly part of me is thinking of bringing them back so I can see where the light switch or door is in the dark. 😆

It’s a tough time right now, and I hope you all can stand up, be strong, and stay safe. ❤️️