oh god oh f

I just can't wrap my head around it.

(chapter 5 spoilers) imo people are kind of taking this line more literally than it was intended. the point is that the old kris is gone, with their voice being completely replaced by the soul's so long as we're possessing them. even when what we say theoretically lines up with what kris wants, so it comes out of their mouth as genuinely as possible, it still isn't them. it is not the "old kris" that she was so happy to see just the other day

so at least personally, i took the line less to mean that kris used to tell her "stop" a lot (which i think its unlikely just from what we know about them), and noelle was more so just using the word as an example to make her point. i've seen people jumping to insane conclusions because of this one line, and like you said, everything we know about their relationship as kids points to the opposite being true. if it were really something of note, we'd probably have seen more examples by now (things that dont need to be semantically twisted to fit the argument, like active instances of noelle being pushy either as a teen or child).