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The Believer Does Not Get Stung In The Same Hole Twice!

Question to Imaam Abdul Azeez Bin Baaz [رحمه الله]: “The believer does not get stung in the same hole twice”. Is this a hadeeth?

Answer: “Yes, it is an authentic Hadeeth and its meaning is that it is obligated on a believer that he is cautious if he was harmed by a person. If Zayd once deceived him, then he is cautious so that Zayd does not deceive him again. If Amr committed injustice against him in a mutual dealing, he is cautious in another mutual dealing. This is what the affair is, meaning that it is obligated on him to prevent the evil of the one who deceived or harmed him the first time.

❝When a husband sees his wife obeying Allah, his eyes become comforted; and when a believing wife sees her husband obeying Allah, her eyes become comforted.

Thus, the righteous husband is a comfort to the eyes of his wife, the righteous wife comforts the eyes of her believing husband, and the good offspring comfort the eyes of their believing father, mother, and relatives.❞

“The one who fears Allāh is not he who weeps and his eyes overflow with tears. Certainly, the one who fears Allāh is he who abandons [his] desires which are unlawful [unto him], whilst being able to perform it [i.e. the unlawful act(s)].”

Majmū’ Rasāʼil, 1/163 | Al-Imām ibn Rajab [may Allāh have mercy on him]

Scholars from the early generations of Muslims categorised Tawheed into three parts for ease of understanding and study. This does not mean they have made Allah into the trinity or that they have innovated something new, rather each category has its basis within the Qur'an itself.

The 3 categories of Tawheed are:

1) Tawheedur-Ruboobiyyah (Oneness of Allah in His Lordship) - this is to affirm that Allah is the Lord, the Master, the Creator and Sustainer of everything. It is to affirm that Allah is the One who gives life and death, the bringer of benefit and harm. He is the only One who ultimately decides the affairs of the creation and He has power over all things. He has no partners in His Creation, His sustaining all things and His ultimate Command of matters. Or in a very succinct way - to recognise the Oneness of Allah in HIS actions.

2) Tawheedul-Asmaa' Was-Sifaat (Oneness of Allah in His Names and Attributes)- this is to affirm the perfect names and attributes that Allah has given Himself in the Quran and that the messenger 'alayhis-salam mentioned about him in the authentic sunnah. It is to negate any weakness from Allah and not to compare Him to His Creation. It is to have firm and unwavering faith in the attributes of Allah without distortion, denial, interpretation, saying "how" or resemblance.

3) Tawheedul-Uloohiyyah (Oneness of Allah in His Divinity) - this is to direct all forms of worship to Allah alone without any partners. It is to worship Allah out of love, hope, reliance, longing, dread and supplication. All acts of worship, both inward and outward, in speech and action, must be directed to Allah alone, not to an angel or a prophet, stone, idol, scholar or anything else from the creation. It is to be sincere in worship of Allah alone. Or in a very succinct way - to recognise and maintain the Oneness of Allah in the actions of the slave.

These are the 3 categories of Tawheed, here is an ayah which contains all 3 categories of Tawheed:

"Lord of the heavens and the earth and whatever is between them - so worship Him and have patience for His worship. Do you know of any similarity to Him?" (Sura Maryam - 19:65)

Allah says: "Lord of the heavens and the earth and whatever is between them" - This is Tawheedur Ruboobiyyah - The Oneness of Allah in his Lordship.

Allah (subhanahu wa-ta'ala) then says: "So worship Him and have patience for His worship" - This is Tawheedul-Uloohiyyah - The Oneness of Allah in His Divinity.

Allah (subhanahu wa-ta'ala) ends this ayah by saying: "Do you know of any similarity to Him?" - This is a rhetorical question to emphasise that there is nothing like Allah - This is Tawheedul-Asmaa' Was-Sifaat - The Oneness of Allah in His Perfect Names and Attributes

It is due to this Tawheed that everything was created and the messengers were sent and the books were revealed. It is due to this Tawheed that the people are divided into believers and disbelievers - the blessed people of paradise and the wretched people of Hell

Please share and spread these posts on Tawheed so that we can all benefit and remind one another - as our Creator has told us:

"And remind, for indeed, the reminder benefits the believers" (51:55)

❝Remember Allāh in times of ease and prosperity, and He will remember you in times of hardship and adversity. And know; that which has passed you by and missed you, was never going to befall you, and whatever has befallen you was never going to miss you. And know that victory comes with patience, relief comes after affliction and ease comes after hardship.❞

[Reported in Tirmidhī And Also Found In Imām An-Nawawī's 'Forty Hadith' | Translated By Abu Khadeejah]

And so, Allah diverted him away from you for whichever reason it was; He removed him from your life as a friend, neighbor, wife, partner, or a teacher.

So do not bemoan an affair that has passed, rather hold good thoughts about what was decreed for you [and that it] is better than that which has left you.

- Via Dr. Mohammad bin Ghālib @m_g_alomari_eng

1. There is nothing that threatens the security of a wife than the thought of another woman competing for the attention and affection of her husband.

Nothing is more painful. Nothing is more disrespecting. Nothing is more insulting. Nothing is more belittling and degrading.

2. Marriage flourishes when the couple works together as a team; when both husband and wife decide that winning together is more important than keeping score.

Good marriages don't just happen. They are a product of hard work.

3. Your children are watching you and forming lasting opinions on love, commitment, and marriage based on what they see in you. Give them hope. Make them look forward to marriage.

4. Husbands: The reason why other women look attractive is that someone is taking good care of them.

The grass is always green where it is watered. Instead of drooling over the green grass on the other side of the fence, work on yours and water it regularly. Any man can admire a beautiful woman, but it takes a true gentleman to make a woman admirable and beautiful.

5. When a husband puts his wife first above everyone and everything except Allah and His rasul ﷺ, it gives his wife the sense of security and honor that every wife hungers for.

6. A successful marriage doesn't require a big house, a perfect spouse, a million dollars or an expensive car. You can have all the above and still have a miserable marriage. A successful marriage requires honesty, undying commitment, and selfless love and God at the center of it all.

7. Pray for your spouse every day; in the morning, in the afternoon and in the evening.

Don’t wait until there is a problem. Don’t wait until there is an affair. Don’t wait until something bad happens. Don’t wait until your spouse is tempted. Shield your spouse with prayer and cover your marriage with the fence of prayer.

8. The people you surround yourself with have a lot of influence on your marriage.

Friends can build or break your marriage; choose them wisely.

9. One spouse cannot build a marriage alone when the other spouse is committed to destroying it.

Marriage works when both husband and wife work together as a team to build their marriage.

10. Don't take your spouse for granted. Don't take advantage of your spouse's meekness and goodness. Don't mistake your spouse's loyalty for desperation. Don't misuse or abuse your spouse's trust. You may end up regretting after losing someone that meant so much to you.

11. Beware of marital advice from single people.

Regardless of how sincere their advice may be, most of it is theoretical and not derived from real life experiences. If you really need Godly advice, seek it from God-fearing, impartial and prayerful mature couples whose resolve has been tested by time and shaped by trials.

12. Dear wife, don't underestimate the power of the tongue on your marriage.

The tongue has the power to crush your marriage or build it up. Don't let the Devil use your tongue to kill your spouse's image, self-confidence, and aspirations. Let Allah use your tongue to build up your marriage and bless and praise your spouse.

Marriage is teamwork which works best without third-party influence. Don't let others predict the fate of your marriage. Create a relationship that is unaffected by the false presumptions of others*

WISHING YOU ALL A HAPPY MARRIAGE❤

❝Every time you get a heartfelt feeling to repent, the troops of your desires attack and overcome your intentions. Slaughter the throat of desire with the knife of firm resolve, because so long as desire remains alive, you are never safe from the relapse

2. of an ever-changing heart (from good to evil). Let the tears you shed in the darkness of the night be your intercessors for when you make mistakes.❞

[Kitaab Al-Lataa’if Fil-Waa’iz, p. 51]

- Via AbooZaahidMeekins @AbuZahidMeekins

Translated By Abbas Abu Yahya...⬇️

From Abdullaah bin Amr bin Al-Aas –RadhiAllaahu anhu – that he heard the Messenger of Allaah -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- saying:

‘Indeed all the hearts of the sons of Adam are between the two Fingers from the Fingers of Ar-Rahmaan (The Most Merciful) like one heart, He turns it whichever way He wants.’

Then the Messenger of Allaah -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- said:

مُصَرِّفَ الْقُلُوبِ صَرِّفْ قُلُوبَنَا عَلَى طَاعَتِكَ

‘O Turner of hearts, turn our hearts to Your Obedience.’

[Collected by Muslim]

Shaykh AbdurRazzaq bin AbdulMuhsin al-Badr -HafidhAllaahu- said:

‘The Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- explained the strong call to this Dua ‘O Turner of hearts, turn our hearts to Your obedience’ and the obligation to have concern for it and to say it a lot, because of what he said before it: ‘Indeed all the hearts of the sons of Adam are between the two Fingers from the Fingers of Ar-Rahmaan (The Most Merciful) like one heart, He turns it whichever way He wants.

What is also similar to this is in the hadeeth of Anas – RadhiAllaahu anhu – who said: ‘the Messenger of Allaah used to say a lot:

يَا مُقَلِّبَ القُلُوبِ ثَبِّتْ قَلْبِي عَلَى دِينِك

‘O Turner of the hearts, make my heart firm upon Your Deen.’

I said: ‘O Messenger of Allaah, we have believed in you and with what you have, so do you fear for us?’

He -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam– replied:

‘Yes, Indeed the hearts are between the two Fingers from the Fingers of Allaah, He turns them whichever way He wants.’

[Collected by Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah & authenticated by al-Albaani in ‘Saheeh Sunnan Tirmidhi’ 2/444]

Likewise, from the hadeeth of Aeysha –RadhiAllaahu anha – who said: ‘From the Dua that the Messenger of Allaah -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- used to supplicate a lot with was:

يَا مُقَلِّبَ القُلُوبِ ثَبِّتْ قَلْبِي عَلَى دِينِك

‘O Turner of the hearts, make my heart firm upon Your Deen.’

She said, I asked: ‘O Messenger of Allaah, you supplicate a lot with this Dua?’

He replied: ‘Indeed the heart of a person is between the two Fingers from the Fingers of Allaah Azza wa Jal, if He wants He will cause it to go astray and if He wants He makes it steadfast.’

[Collected by Ahmed & authenticated by Al-Albaani with supporting narrations in Saheehah no. 2091]

Al-Bagawi -Rahimuhullaah- said:

‘This hadeeth is an explanation that the worshipper has no authority over himself in regards to the matter of his happiness or wretchedness. In fact, if he is guided then it is because Allaah guided him. If he is firm upon Eemaan then it is because Allaah made him firm upon it. If he is misguided then it is because he turned away from guidance.

Allaah -Subhanahu wa Ta’ala- said:

<< Nay, but Allaah has conferred a favour upon you, that He has guided you to the Faith >> [Hujaraat: 17]

Allaah -Subhanahu wa Ta’ala- said about the praise the people of Paradise send:

<<“All the praises and thanks be to Allaah, Who has guided us to this, never could we have found guidance, were it not that Allaah had guided us! >> [Al A’raf: 43]

Allaah Azza wa Jal said:

<< Allaah will keep firm those who believe, with the word that stands firm in this world (i.e. they will keep on worshipping Allaah Alone and none else), and in the Hereafter. >>

[Ibrahim: 27]

It becomes clear from this that Allaah Ta’ala is the One who is in command of the hearts of His slaves, He turns them as He wants. There is nothing at all that which can refrain Him from that, nothing can escape what He wants, Allaah does not give the responsibility of the hearts to anyone from His creation.

It is upon the slave of Allaah to seek refuge and turn to Allaah Ta’ala and to say this Dua a lot, just as the Messenger of Allaah -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam-used to say this Dua a lot.

This Dua is a notification for the Ummah that if a purified soul [that of the Prophet] is in need of seeking refuge and turning to Allaah -Subhanahu- to make his heart firm then how about the matter of the person who is lesser than him, all of the slaves are lesser than him [the Prophet].

How great is the need of the Muslim in that Allaah makes him firm upon His upright and true Deen, which is the means for success, prosperity and a prevention from sins and its calamities.

Allaah says:

<< Allaah will keep firm those who believe, with the word that stands firm in this world (i.e. they will keep on worshipping Allaah Alone and none else), and in the Hereafter. And Allaah will cause to go astray those who are Zalimoon (polytheists and wrong-doers, etc.), and Allaah does what He wills. >> [Ibraheem: 27]

Along with all this the worshipper is in need of making beneficial efforts and to follow righteous paths to obtain the pleasure of Allaah, His guidance and for Allaah to give him success.

<< While as for those who accept guidance, He increases their guidance, and bestows on them their piety.>> [Muhammad: 17]

[Fiqh al-Adeeyah wal Adhkaar 4/p.483-485]