My elderly father started talking about how frustrating he finds âthe pronouns thingâ and I was like. Oh no. He had such a good stand on this, heâs been they/them-ing his cishet siblings for godâs sake! Is he regressing?? And he was talking about how difficult it is to remember, and how onerous it feels to expect strangers to keep track of it, and Iâm like oh no oh no.
Then he says, âI mean, the problem isnât the gender thing. The problem is four words: she, her, he, and him. We got rid of stewardess and turned it into flight attendant. It doesnât matter if the flight attendant is a man or woman, so we got rid of it. We just need to get rid of those. I donât need to know.â
âYou donât need to know⌠peopleâs gender?â
âNo. I donât care, I donât need to know, and I donât want to remember it.â
So we can relax. Itâs just a continuation of his crusade to they/them the world. He doesnât want to remember anyoneâs gender. Heâs abolishing the genders.