AS A DOM. YOU DESERVE CARE TOO.

aftercare is often times sub-focused, and while that’s always great, it’s often seen as “only subs need aftercare because they’re the ones that took the brunt of the acts.” and as a disabled dom, that’s absolutely not true.

dom drop is very real. I often experience it as guilt for hurting someone, or being “too aggressive,” as trans women are often seen. especially for doms that take care of subs, pretty please take the time to take care of yourself too!!

and for all the subs out there, if you’re able, please please please go get your dom some water or a snack. even if neither of you can walk, it’s imperative that you *talk to each other.* in my past, even the smallest things made me feel so much better. I’m going to list off some great things to say to your dropped dom here (feel free to add in reblogs!!)

“I’m okay. You didn’t hurt me too much.”

“Thank you for doing (self care act) for me, do you need anything?”

“I liked everything you did.”

“everything was within my boundaries.”

“you did great, (name/nickname).”

“do you need anything?”

“would you like (self care act)?”

“can I help (task: clean up, get water, etc.)”

just doing something like talking, showing physical affection, kisses, comfort, etc, is so so so important, and everyone deserves it!

are you moaning right now? whats your problem.. we're just watching a movie. while your whole lap is wet with their juices and your fingers are drilling them through their third orgasm... what are you squirming for? sit still.

what, are you horny?? from this?? awhhhh that's so pathetic... when you're dragging them over your thigh or teasing their clit

giving a sub more than they can take-- when they've given a dozen orgasms and can't focus their eyes, they're writhing and sopping, and instead of slowing down, you just... tsk tsk you're making such a mess... and dont even acknowledge what you're doing to them...

faking innocence and concern to a sub, just to be unfair.. ohmygods... ohh no, it's all wet down here... why is it wet, baby? what happened? when you've been teasing them for ages... punishing them for making a mess-- punishing them for being so horny, and still not acknowledging that you did it to them

gagging a sub and edging them for hours, just to say awh, i think this pussy wants to cum... hm but that can't be right, my little sub would have to beg for this pussy to cum. i haven't heard a word. poor little pussy... must be soo hard.

reading their every reaction and knowing just how to break them, how to make them submit deeper and deeper, how to make them cum over and over, all while pretending that you're not doing a damn thing, chiding them for being soooo desperate...