previously softspacekitten, but then I discovered I like to bark
32.
submissive / prey / pet
Dominant / Daddy / mutt
polyamorous / bisexual / genderfluid
mostly a they/it but you can call me whatever as long as you call me because gender is a scam and I'm an attention whore
open to being played with, 🥺🥺🥺 trans Dom/Dommes to the front (or sub4sub 👀)
New! on T & proud Daddy to my own little whore @malphor1a 💖
an auDHD chronically ill transmasc stoner butch. lol
here to be a slut for other queers, mostly.
not going to tag for hardcore/dark kinks, so please scroll responsibly. what little tagging system i have is for my own reference
this is a blog for hornyposting. sometimes taboo stuff makes me horny. super not sorry. I will however be keeping this blog mostly text based. gifs & overt hypnosis content get funnelled to a sideblog.
My limits include...
underage - holy shit seriously if you're under 18 this is not someplace you should be
raceplay with white people
feederism/weight gain, fat shaming
abdl, scat
assuming you can involve my partners in any of your kinks.
being expected to share photos or videos. don't ask, unless you're offering to pay $$$.
actual, genuine bigotry and violations of consent.
listen i enjoy degradation play & cnc as much as the next filthy degenerate but if you can’t/won’t differentiate between erotic fantasy and real life, then i want nothing to do with you. otherwise... hi 💖
You can fuck off if...
you don't respect people of colour & queer, trans, disabled or otherwise marginalized folks.
you believe consent is optional and/or think it’s okay to push hard limits
you are/agree with/tolerate cops, swerfs, or fascists
straight cis men are tentatively welcome but y'all are on thin ice. Respect the DNI's of people I reblog from. AND SERIOUSLY NO TERFS NO FASH
You're welcome to slide into my DMs if...
you're t4t or butch4butch or femme4butch 😍
you wanna tease me about things you’ve caught me liking 😳
you have recommendations for queer anarchist or smutty literature 👀
additionally please let me know if I violate anyone’s DNI, i’m usually pretty good about checking but i might miss things. in this house we LOVE and RESPECT boundaries.
On Consent:
I follow the ethos of Personal Responsibility Informed Consensual Kink (PRICK). I think hardcore kinks, edgeplay (physical, emotional, or psychological), and dark fantasy are ethical to engage in provided that participants (including voyeurs) are reasonably informed and are able to consent to the scene/content/activity with the knowledge of its inherent risks. I do not condone kink as a means of self-harm, and expect the adults involved in kink spaces to have the maturity and awareness to understand and enact their own limits. Minors are not able to fully understand the risks involved, and therefore cannot give meaningful consent.
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I wish kinky sex ed wasn't so stigmatized even among left-leaning "sex positive" circles. Everyone's all "uwu I'm a sub I'll do anything you ask" okay mommy wants you to read The New Bottoming Book so you learn how to sub without hurting yourself since your sex ed up to this point is porn and your ex boyfriend Jared who liked to choke you incorrectly
I’m so glad you asked! Let me list off what I’ve got for you:
Books I personally recommend:
- The New Topping Book and The New Bottoming Book, by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy
If you’re having kinky sex at all, you need to read at least one of these two books. Point blank. They’ll teach you the very basics of negotiating properly (which is critical!), and help you identify what you are and aren’t into.
- Mindfucking Mindfully, by Sir Ezra
Where this book really shines isn’t actually in helping you “mindfuck” people, it’s in taking a close look at how to do so ethically. It’s a great answer to the question “how do I get someone to consent to something and still surprise and shock them with it?”
- Real Service by Raven Kaldera and Joshua Tenpenny
This is a slightly niche pick but there simply isn’t a better book on the subject. It’s written from a 24/7 M/s perspective, which is not what I do, but the book itself is an indispensable guide to giving and receiving service. The phrase “if the Master doesn’t want it, it isn’t service” will be burned into my psyche for quite some time. I love this book a lot. Maybe my favorite out of all of these.
- Enough To Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation, by Princess Kali
This one’s high on my reading list; I’ve heard it recommended by a number of people whose opinions on these things I trust.
- Pretty Much Anything Midori Has Ever Done
Midori is a great resource for this stuff - I haven’t personally read much of her work, but she’s a well known sex educator and great at what she does. She’s known for bondage, but has a lot of range beyond that.
- This Negotiations Worksheet from Bex Talks Sex
This is what I default to using a lot of the time for negotiations. Forget BDSMtest, you don’t need that, it’s no good. Just look through this worksheet’s wordbank with your partner. Big fan especially of the “how do you want to feel?” section.
Books I can kind of recommend:
- The Ultimate Guide to Kink, edited by Tristan Taormino
This book is weird. There’s a lot of good info for experienced players, but some of what’s written here skeeves me out. I think if I had a top that thought the way some of the tops in here think, they would not be topping me for long. But there’s some good techniques and so on to pick up that I wouldn’t have otherwise. I liked the distinction one of the authors makes between being sadistic in the sense of inflicting pain and being sadistic in the sense of doing something your sub doesn’t “enjoy.”
- The Ritual of Dominance and Submission, by David English
Man, this book fucking sucks. The writing and editing are garbage, and the fear and protocol play described need way more careful negotiation than he ever lets on, let alone recommends. This is some 50 Shades bullshit. The only time I recommend this book is to tops like me who tend to be very affirming to their partners and need a guide on how to really scare them - when their partner consents and when you negotiate it, which this book sucks at teaching you. Really good content on fear, punishment, and protocol play, really terrible presentation of the topic though. Don’t read this if you don’t already know what you’re doing.
- Paradigms of Power, by Raven Kaldera
I love this book. Great book. Very focused on 24/7 M/s play though, and, being an anthology, some chapters are better than others. If you can’t read something and pick out what is and isn’t for you, don’t bother. But some really great inspiration, and generally pretty well written. Big fan of the discussion of leather throughout the book.
Hope some of these are helpful for people ^-^ for the average person reading this I recommend New Bottoming/Topping, but they’re all important parts of my library and I’ve recommended all of them to friends at some point or another.
May I also suggest Hell on Wheels and Kneeling in Spirit by Raven Kaldera, d/s companion books that address kink with a disability. They're a should read for everyone, imo. You never know when you or a partner are going to have changes in your body that affect what you can physically do. Temporary illness/injury and even just age can affect your sex life.
I'd like to suggest Better Bondage for Every Body! It goes really in depth on anatomy, pain processing, self-tying, and has chapters specifically focusing on how to do rope bondage on/for someone who is disabled or has chronic pain, which was really important to me.
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People who eat pussy poorly shock me. I am eating it like a feral animal. I am pressing myself as far into as I can. Pussy eating should be sloppy, wild, and messy. My face needs to be dripping by the time I’m done. I am desperate to devour the cunt of my prey.
Are you blushing, puppy? All because I called you a good toy? My good toy. You’re just a pretty fleshlight, barely have enough brains to be embarrassed. You like it when I pick you up and use your holes like a real toy? My hands tight around your waist, fucking you back and forth on my cock? Use your words, puppy. Good toy, thats it. Fuuck, sweet thing, you feel so incredible. Tightest little toy, oh my god, you were made to please me.
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basic fun and sexy way to ask for consent continuously if you're doing play with a dog sub: tell it to bark to ask for more. "speak, puppy!" is a cute continual prompt/command. it makes it easier for it to tell you what it can take without forcing it to use people words/get out of dog space.
impact play? i better get a bark after every hit, or puppy isn't getting any more. i'm railing you? i need to hear you barking your head off or how am i going to know you like it? dogs don’t use human words but that doesn't mean they can’t communicate. speak, puppy
this also works if you're forcefully puppifying someone. it's embarrassing and degrading to bark if you're not already used to it/are already into being a dog. they'll get over their embarrassment and barking will become second nature real quick
never seen anyone talk about this, does anyone else have a real sick excitement about intox, but *specifically* about getting your dom high so they can't hold back and can't tell how hard they're fucking and hitting you? get your dom so high they forget about the structural integrity of your bones. get them high and see if they mark you up too high on your neck. get them drunk and let them take advantage of you.
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