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Word for today: wisdom of repugnance

So some fanartist drew a “sexy” (read: booby) version of a (cartoon) character who is traditionally very non-sexualised. Fans of the character got mad about it because it’s kind of groundbreaking how that character is written and portrayed and this art totally ignores the entire point of the character. They demanded the art be deleted. In response to that other people said, well what the fanartist did may be distateful but they have every right to draw what they’re into. The two sides fight for days and each starts a harassment campaign and even report their “opponents’” accounts.

So far so typical. But things eventually come to a head and they decide that this will be settled by votes - not through a poll. Through donations to a children’s education charity via each side’s portal. Whoever can get the highest amount of donation wins.

especially when they are fat. especially when they are Black or Native or Asian or any racial/ethnic group that isn't white. especially when they are tall and broad and have a deep voice and a beard, and especially when they like themselves that way and still are hurt by misgendering. especially when they have gone on E and T blockers and have gotten facial feminization and vaginoplasty and have DD tits and like themselves that way and still are hurt by misgendering (even when people think they should be grateful for it, even when it feels like the lesser of two evils). especially when they transition in ways people see as "only halfway" and dress androgynous and use contradictory labels and call themselves femboys in the same breathe they do tgirls and they like themselves clockable as fuck and still are hurt by transphobia and exorsexism.

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There's so many bloggers I see that when you look between the lines of their discourse, when you try extra hard to put yourself into whatever nonsense they must've been told or forced to endure to make them think that way, it becomes obvious they're desperate to find something to cling to. Someone to hold responsible for their pain and find their power in tearing someone else down. Someone who they can expect to say "sorry I did this to you" instead of the intangible institutional powers that dignify their abuse with accusations and excuses.

So today regardless of stances, of opinions, of discourse and drama - whoever you are, out there reading this - you didn't deserve the harm put upon you. You didn't deserve to be isolated, to be abused, to be strung up on a stage and expected to dance for a jeering audience.

I hope for a day we can all come together and accept whatever differences we may have and celebrate them instead of existing in a digital realm that demands we perpetually be at each other's throats in the name of justice that may never come.

It has been literal years but every time I see Martin’s tweets posted somewhere and his word is shared as truth while her post is not shared it sort of reiterates the fact that we trust men to speak about feminism more than we believe women who experience it. 

Adding screenshots of her post. His whole post is there without needing a link. Hers should be, too.