HOW TO HELP YOUR LITTLE GET INTO LITTLESPACE: 10 USEFUL TIPS!
1) Accept that little-space is a mindset, so it might not appear the minute you want. Some days itâs harder, some days itâs easier. The more you learn about your partner, the more successful youâll be in understanding their littlespace tendencies.
2) NO ONE, and I mean NO ONE has the exact same little space. Understand that. But Iâm talking generalities, so letâs pretend they do for the rest of these numbers. And that means being dominant, powerful, confident, caring, sweetâŚthose are good ways to help. But the REAL trick is to accept that no one has the same exact experience, and to tailor your actions and behaviors towards your partnerâs needs and desires.
3) TREAT THEM LITTLE. Yeah, I know, obvious, but please let me explain! They might kind of doubt themselves, they might struggle to feel little, they might be scared. Being accepting, open, using words like âLittle oneâ and offering to help them get dressed, opening doors for them, fetching their stuffies when theyâre sad, etcâŚthose help.
4) Be honest about your caregiving side. Faking it makes it obviously bad. So if youâre a caregiver who is completely aggressively sexual? Learn to bring it to the level your partner likesâŚbut also donât deny yourself. If your partner ISNâT sexual though? Recognize the place where your two desires meet and work towards that area, that realm of action. And recognize that if your caregiver side treats them like they need to be in chargeâŚmaybe youâre less dominant. Maybe youâre working towards DISCOVERING your caregiver side. A whole other issue, sure, but useful to know! Just be honest with yourself.
5) Use the tools you have. Stuffies, pacifier, diapers, special clothes, cartoons, coloring? USE THEM. Using tangible objects HELPS your little recognize their needs and desires. And it shows them you understand, are playing along, actively invested, and happy.
6) Speaking of toolsâŚwhy not set it up FOR your little. When you want to help them be little, ask if they want to draw you a picture, and be excited, SHOW your interest. Let them sink into the mindset because it SHOWS how much you are supporting them, caring for them, understanding their need.
7) TREAD LIGHTLY. Once your little starts to show you their little side, itâs easy to make a small mistake that has nasty side effects. Forgetting to treat them little, making them feel dumb, making them refuse to show you their little side because of negative responses once or twiceâŚit happens. So while you might not think itâs always fair, recognize that littlespace is NOT a fair mindset. Itâs about them letting go completely, feeling raw, feeling open and emotional, allowing a regression based mindset or a mental space that holds great significance for them showâŚand that means trusting, being open, and probably being more emotional than usual. Respect that.
8) Never Say SPECIFIC things: âGrow upâ or âStop being annoying and littleâ or âI hate when you get super littleâ or crapâŚyou might say them flippantly when annoyed, maybe you are even being sarcastic. Kind of like step 7âŚtread lightly. And AVOID those statements like the plague.
9) Rules and structure matter: Bedtime, naps, rules about holding hands, or making sure they pack their stuffies when going on a trip, or bringing a little reminder of their caregiver in their briefcaseâŚ.those things are amazing. And they reinforce the littleâs acceptance and feelings of comfort even OUTSIDE of littlespace. What that does, then, is it helps maybe to bridge that confusing emotional gap between being big and being little. And it is a CONSTANT reminder of the relationship and dynamic that might make them feel more wanted, accepted, understood, and as a direct resultâŚlittle!
10) Last but not least, LANGUAGE! That means tone, that means your word choice, your nicknames, how you refer not just to your partner but to yourselfâŚcalling someone little one, baby, sweety, or cute nicknames is great. Them calling you a nickname back and you being able to call YOURSELF that makes them melt. Papa, papi, daddy, mister, sir, a variation of your name, Mr. Turtle, etcâŚthese reinforce in the most basic form of communication and structure that youâre letting them be little and taking on your role as a big. EXTREMELY AWESOME! And it works like magic, believe me. Itâs downright CRAZY!
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