I catch flights, not feelings

Learning to live in your dark feminine energy allows you to reclaim your power and enables you to move through the world as the strong, smart, seductive, and socially intelligent individual you're meant to be. Here's a general guide on the principles, mindset shifts, and behaviors to internalize to embrace your dark femininity.

Set Boundaries: In your work life, family life, social life, and intimate relationships. "No" is a complete sentence. Don't overextend yourself for the sake of others' approval.

Practice Self-Care: Indulge in the activities and habits that enable you to be your best self. Eat well and exercise. Practice proper hygiene. Establish a consistent skincare routine. Find books, music, and movies, a yoga practice, or meditation that relaxes you at the end of the day.

Invest In Your Appearance: Presenting yourself well is a sign of self-respect and social awareness. Find clothes that fit well, are stylish, match well together, and are clean/pressed whenever you wear them out. Establish a consistent, flattering beauty routine (makeup, hair, nails). Discover your signature scent. Maintain good posture and composure during interpersonal interactions. Learn social skills. Practice emotional intelligence. Figure out how to read social cues.

Embrace Your Sexuality: Let go of any shame. Wear lingerie daily to make yourself feel irresistible. Dress in a way that empowers you to subtly embrace your sensual side. Self-pleasure to learn about and feel confident in your body. Speak up to get your needs met with a partner. Explore this aspect of your life and personality.

Cultivate Confidence: In every area of your life (career, family, social, intimacy, etc.). Learn what you want and find out how to get there. Hold your head up high and know you're deserving. Be the woman who holds her own in any room or conversation.

Remain Educated & Well-Read: Being smart and worldly is incredibly seductive. Knowledge is power when it comes to learning how to advance in every area of life, gain a deeper understanding of your interests and goals, and makes you into a better conversation partner (a skill that opens many opportunities if you allow yourself to stay in this confident headspace without letting imposter syndrome or fear get to you).

1. Acknowledge to yourself that you’re having a hard time.

2. Don’t beat yourself up for struggling.

3. Let go of the drive for perfection.

4. Ask for support from those who care about you.

5. Make sure you enforce healthy boundaries with others.

6. Drop some commitments, and give yourself more space.

7. Take time to relax, and do the things you like.

1. Ignore your feelings when they say to put walls … and actively decide to build a bridge instead.

2. Don’t compare yourself to others, or attack yourself. Appreciate your talents and the things that make you “you.”

3. Pay attention to your thoughts when you feel anxious or afraid. Imagine being successful, and relaxed, and popular.

4. Focus on what’s best in others; validate their gifts and strengths.

5. Avoid touchy topics; don’t be boring or offensive; and notice when it’s time to let another take the stage.

6. Try to focus more on others and the things that interest them. Avoid the trap of talking about me, me, me!