queer as in fuck this

additionally, antagonism like this can lead to people becoming paranoid or feel bad, for no real reason really other than to make a FunnyMan Joke on tumblr for.. uhh. reasons, i guess?

but yeah, even if these jokes aren’t outright bigoted or horrible, you can’t say they’re morally justified either. also, i notice a lot of these jokes are targeted at groups that are often bullied and made fun of already…

and that can be pretty shitty to people who were bullied for their style, interests, and what not.. it’s definitely another one of those “let’s normalise bullying!” mentalities tumblr has.

and it’s like, people always thinking jokes about oppression is only bad when it’s oppressors joking about people they can marginalise.. but like, it’s also bad if you turn it into a joke on others’ behalf, and also encourage bullying and what not.

also, for example, when people talk of Oppressing certain sub-cultures, and say that it isn’t bad or whatever because only whiny privileged people would bring up being bullied for their sub-culture.. seem to forget a lot of sub-cultures are often safe ways for particularly autistic or trans people to express themselves.

The term you’re confusing a-spec for is probably ASD

Autism Spectrum Disorder

Because, yes, autism is a spectrum

But it’s always been called the autism spectrum and literally no-one says “a-spec” to refer to the autism spectrum

Much like autism, asexuality and aromanticism are ALSO spectrums

So together they are “a-spec” and individually they are “ace-spec” and “aro-spec”

the same can kind of be said for autigender. when you combine your neurodivergency with your gender, youre effectively limiting how much youre able to do in regards to coping because you grow attached to the label and want it to fit. you suddenly stop trying to remove yourself from stressful environments because your discomfort feels validating. you stop trying to cope because your symptoms become a part of your core being, rather than just something you need to live with

exclusionists always do this when they have to backpeddle bc they contradict themselves in public and tbh it’s hilarious and gets funnier every time

anywho, I’m super happy to answer your question for you!

if you’d have clicked on my “about” (you know, the linked text directly below where you found my age listed, which you definitely saw and definitely read) you would have all the answers you needed lmfao

had you only done that, you might have been able to say something of substance in reply to me instead of flexing your insult skills in the tags to cover up for your back-to-back contradictory posts about whether or not the A in the LGBTQ acronym actually exists, according to you

but more importantly than my boring-ass adult life, why in the world are you speaking to minors like this? why are you using this sort of sexually-charged language on a sixteen-year-old? why are you assuming anything about their anatomy, and speaking about them in a sexually explicit situation like this?? with an adult, no less. 

they’re underage, what on earth is wrong with you?

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although I’ll say the most bizarre part of this whole shitshow is that just a few days ago, fuckmogai was actually complaining to me about how inclusionists were a collective mess bc “they’re all pedophiles”

you know what? i’m just gonna say it.

people tend to forget that terfs are feminists??! like, they’re vile and revolting and demonic but they’re feminists, and therefore tend to… well… agree with many of the things that non-terf feminists say. they talk about sexism, lesbophobia, rape culture, misogyny, etc. when there’s a post that is completely unrelated to trans exclusion and there are many terfs reblogging it, that doesn’t mean that it’s ~~~terf rhetoric uwu~~~, it just means that terfs agree with it, and while this may come off wrong, not everything that terfs say is bad.

before you decapitate me, let me explain. i hate terfs as much as the next guy. they piss me off and make me want to cry out of frustration and rage. i love my trans sisters and would defend them with my life. HOWEVER. i am also a feminist, and therefore i tend to reblog/make posts that some terfs will agree with, as much as i don’t like it. take for example a post about how casual sexism affects women on their daily lives. we can agree that this isn’t “terf rhetoric”, it’s basic feminism. however, terfs are gonna agree with it, not because it’s fucking “terf rhetoric” but because it’s about feminism and TERFS ARE FEMINISTS. shitty ones, but they’re feminists.

so when you see a post that has nothing to do with excluding, belittling, misgendering or mistreating trans women, and it has several terfs interacting with it, you should think critically before saying something stupid like “wow op this is terf rhetoric because a lot of terfs agree with you :/” in a post about like, lesbian issues. “terf rhetoric” (note the misuse of the term rhetoric but whatever) means “excluding and mistreating trans women”. anything that isn’t about excluding or mistreating trans women isn’t terf rhetoric.

believe it or not, terfs don’t sit around all day plotting the ultimate demise of trans women, they also have concerns about things that are Not Bad. i just saw a post where a lesbian talked about her negative experiences with mogai identities and some dumbass said “hey op… notice all the terfs in the notes??” one time i made a post about misogyny and a lot of terfs were interacting with it, so when i added something like “terfs fuck off” some dumbass replied “well this is Terf Rhetoric™ so…”. and just… no. nope! learn to think critically before saying this kind of senseless bullshit. bye!

When a cis man tries to imagine what it would be like to be trans, invariably that man imagines what it would be like if he “wanted to be woman,” because that’s what many people think trans women are.

Instead, he should be trying to empathize with trans men. He should be thinking about his own childhood and relationship to manhood, and then asking himself how it would have felt if he’d grown up being told he was a girl, forced to wear dresses, never recognized by other boys as a boy, and then experienced the horror of going through the wrong puberty and becoming a giant estrogen factory.

Many cis women, particularly in LGBT spaces, will fall all over themselves trying to empathize and identify with trans men, because the same transmisogyny that tells them that trans women and cis men are connected tells them that cis women and trans men are connected.

Instead, cis women should be asking themselves what it would have been like if they had never been allowed to have their womanhood acknowledged. How would it have felt to grow up being told you were a boy, not allowed to deviate from male stereotypes (often with violent repercussions if you did), always viewed by other women as an icky boy or predatory male, exposed to the utter horror that is being a woman in male spaces where they think no women are around, and had testosterone distort your body irreparably only to have everyone around you use your anatomy and appearance to forever deny your womanhood and where your best possible outcome is to transition and live your life in abject poverty fighting loneliness and dysphoria and surrounded by people who think you’re a disgusting, subhuman monster who should be locked away or put down?

If you want to worry about men pretending to be women, pay more attention to trans men. They are men who are forced to pretend to be women, and while that is immensely fucked up for them to go through, it doesn’t change the fact that they are MEN in WOMEN’S spaces, and many of them take advantage of transmisogynist ideas about gender to stay in those spaces even after coming out and transitioning. Just look at all the trans men at women’s colleges – schools that in most cases will not allow trans women.

Trans women have always been women. Trans women have always been female.

Trans men have always been men. Trans men have always been male.

So many people have no idea how true this is.  Almost no statement I have ever read has resonated with me more than this.

One of the arguments certain people (mostly terfs, but dishearteningly often well-meaning feminists who have accidentally been corrupted by terf rhetoric) make about trans women is that we experience “male privilege.”  This is a muddy topic, because there are certainly some situations where being socially read as male is a convenience (it is much easier to apply for jobs pre-transition and then transition while employed than it is to apply for jobs during or after the more awkward and difficult parts of transition, as an example).

There can be benefits, here and there.  But to call it privilege, especially with the term “male” attached to it, is horribly misleading.

Trans women can, in the earlier parts of our lives, EXIST in male spaces.  That does not mean we belong in them.  Or feel comfortable anywhere near them.  Even if you look outwardly male, being in male spaces is terrifying.  Even being in NEUTRAL spaces is terrifying.  You are in a constant state of panic around men.  And you fear rejection and ostracization from other women – the people you most empathize with and understand, whose personalities and ways of thinking most closely match your own, whose communities you desperately crave to be a part of because that’s where you belong – almost as much as you fear breathing the same air as any man you aren’t comfortably out to, including friends and family.  We NEVER feel safe.  And we are firsthand witnesses to all the reasons we SHOULDN’T feel safe around men.  They’re horrifying.  What was so frustrating about the “Locker Room Talk” scandal during the 2016 election, as a trans woman, is that you know from personal experience that it was “anywhere and everywhere outside the earshot of a woman” talk.  Dozens of sports teams came forward and said no, we don’t talk like this, we would never say things like this, we would never disrespect women like this.  I have never been an athlete.  My only experience with locker rooms was required as a high school credit, and made me extraordinarily uncomfortable.  I ASSURE you, I have heard talk like this OUTSIDE of the hypermasculine world of sports.  The level of total disregard that men have for women’s most basic humanity is STAGGERING.  Men don’t see women as less than human.  They see women as less than ALIVE, nothing more than usable, disposable objects.  

Trans women’s great “privilege” of existing “safely” in male spaces is being exposed to this world and these people up close, alone, (if in a locker room, without most of your clothes, and with all the added shame about your body that comes from that) in a state of absolute terror that ANYTHING about your personality, your mannerisms, your body language, the way you don’t quite fit in with the way they talk, will tip them off that you’re not one of them.  Your LIFE depends on whether they notice.  That’s not safety.  That’s Russian Roulette where you don’t get the option to stop playing, and not only do you not know if or when you might get the bullet, you don’t even know how many bullets are loaded in the first place.  Every single interaction with another human being is a trigger being pulled in slow motion, in overwhelming, agonizing detail as you can only wait to find out if you drew a blank.

We spend our lives pretending, often badly, to fit in with these people.  Not because we have or want any god damn thing on this earth in common with them, but because the alternative – that they will know we aren’t – fills us constantly with a paralyzing, spine-chilling terror that is almost impossible to describe.  Even when real benefits that do come from being read as male (again, this is usually socioeconomic factors), we are constantly, inescapably aware that all of these things come at the expense of our own authenticity.  We have to lie to get them.  We live in unbearable discomfort with the fact that everything good that happens to us is because other people are making these massively incorrect assumptions or judgments about the kinds of people we are.  We live with the fact that everything good could be taken away the second anyone finds out we’re not what they wanted based on our appearance, because often it’s the only way we can survive at all.

Let me rephrase that last part for emphasis, because it’s integral to understanding the core of this issue, and the core of the argument that OP (and the excellent addition) wanted to make.  If your takeaway is just ONE part of my addition to this post, let it be this:

Every single interaction we have with another human being is based solely on the value assigned to us based on our physical appearance, and how well we can conform to those expectations, which leaves us feeling suffocatingly, deeply uncomfortable and often terrified for our personal safety and livelihood.  

Think about that before you put the words “male privilege” anywhere in a conversation about trans women.

For parts of our lives, we can exist in male spaces.  But even in them, we are still always, at our core, women.  Everything else is social.  Everything else is acting.  Trans women pretend to be men until we just can’t take it anymore, and we either live as the women we always were, or one way or another, we die.  We can never really be anything other than female.

its the same shit as ppl have been doing to make fun of nb n pan ppl for years now.

same shit, “special snowflakes”, made up identities, and mocking others’ identities.. like u all make no effort to distance urself or distinguish urself from the previous bunch of anti-mogai ppl.

i’ve seen this shit for years now, largely from anti-sjws and anti-tucutes.. and i’m meant to just put up with it now that another group is targeted?

also, i’m noticing a huge pattern of binary trans and cis people doing this shit too.. even reusing the arguments used against nb people or to mock em.

talks of oppression fetishes, tainting our image, just so much respectability politics and identity policing? i can’t believe you all just thinking we gotta put up with this.

Cis and/or straight people are not going to take you any more seriously, if they’re transphobic, homophobic, biphobic, etc. etc., then they will be no matter what. If it was not for that teenager using bunself pronouns, do you seriously think they would be giving you rights and championing you when they still dead name famous trans folk and think you can catch queerness? You think they respect YOU any more?

It’s a lousy argument that completely misses the point entirely. 

Cultivation theory, at it’s baseline, doesn’t say that consuming, say, violent media makes you wanna kill or hurt people. What cultivation theory IS is saying “the proliferation of excessive violent media can influence how the people who consume that media perceive about the world” ie a person with already violent tendencies might be more likely to act on those violent tendencies because, due to the sheer glut of violent media, violence might seem more acceptable than it actually is culturally. 

And this shit is subconscious, you can’t say you’re not affected by it because “you know the difference between fiction and reality”, because often time you don’t actively register that it IS influencing you. Or, in the case of many ads, you do know it’s trying to influence you and you put up guard walls - but that burger on screen DOES look delicious and the Burger King is only down the road so why not grab something to eat? The decline of sharks due to Jaws is people perceiving the sharks as inherently dangerous to human and, thus, to keep people safe, need to be culled. The rise of the KKK in the late 1910′s and early 20′s was due to Birth of a Nation portraying the KKK as sympathetic and cool. The decline of the KKK in the 40s can be attributed to their mocking portrayal Superman radio serials. This shit all matters.

everyone: ..

an inclusionist: exclusionists should maybe read my posts before responding to them

Not to mention, this is incredibly US centric and an illogical spot in history to mark as “if you weren’t here you aren’t part of the community,” considering it was completely different in other parts of the world.

and it also down-plays the significance of the fact that many people in the greater community do not in fact identify with any english word at all, though because of sentiments like you just mentioned, a lot of people feel forced to do so even outside of speaking english.