Oh Fandom

we were both out with separate groups of friends being single and our groups merged and we started arguing about ____ (dc vs marvel, star wars vs star trek, etc) and our friends just left us thinking we were flirting. (we were)

dating site au

our plane got delayed on valentine’s day and I knew it’d be a crappy day but just wanted to go home until I struck up a conversation with you

our mutual friend just tricked us into a blind date but left us with their credit card so we should make the most out of it

eating cookies/treats that taste awful just to see the other person smile

“are you a pokemon because I choose you” (aka I’ve been crushing on you for a long time and my friend dared me to ask you out with the cheesiest line I could think of so if you said no I could brush it off as a joke but please say yes)

 trying to one up each other on valentine’s day things because we’re super competitive like that

my neighbour just dumped you and I heard all of it and you’ve been crying in the hallway for like ten minutes now, are you okay?

I wrote the number down wrong and started texting you but it all turned out okay

“what do you mean we’ve been dating for two months, who taught you communication?” (but hey I’m down for it)

I was so tired the other day and accidentally kissed you good-bye and didn’t realize it till this morning and we should probably talk about this

you went all secret admirer and I’ve been gushing to you about the gifts but haven’t figured out it’s you yet (but really want it to be)

“wow it’s like I’m stuck in a hallmark movie”

my cat/dog/pet keeps going over to your house and we’re meeting for the first time now

we were the third wheels for our friends who dragged us to a valentine’s day city scavenger hunt and got partnered together

somehow you convinced me to watch horror movies for valentine’s day so the least you could do is hold my hand/cuddle through them

insert soulmates au here

I’m the bartender and your date never showed but we’ve talking all night and it’s been fun

we’re in a long distance relationship and it’s valentine’s day so clearly something needs to be done (sending a box with gifts, showing up unannounced, literally running into each other at the airport because we both had the same idea of surprising each other and my flight just happened to be earlier and we got lucky, etc)

me:

a little while ago I was thinking of rewatching season one of musketeers. logically I know this could only end in heartbreak and renewed anger for what could have been for the characters I love while the other side of me reminded me how much I adored the first season of the show.

I’ve seen people talk about before how much this is much closer to the books or ‘historical accuracy’ etc. etc. and it’s not that season one didn’t have some rather terrible things happening but for the most part it was a much more enjoyable show in comparison to the graphic deaths and even beatings of women on the screen (which isn’t to say that season one didn’t to that as well, it just hardly had them last a full minute as we watched a man strangle a woman to death in his anger). because the show took a turn in season two, it needed to be darker, edgier, and prove that it belonged in that later time slot which no longer offered it as more family appropriate show.

it was for adults, that was the message, and fine I suppose, that happens. it’s just a bad state of media that ‘for adults’ and ‘darker, edgier’ is often akin to the rise of violence against women in a tv show. tragedy must occur there, after all it did in the books, right? why should I complain about it when it was honouring the source material even more? perhaps because I did want better than the source material, because in the first season it honoured parts of that while also making the show fun and the characters enjoyable to watch and get invested in. sure they got their happy ending in season three but there was no way for me to know that in season two and why invest in seeing characters broken down more and more for the ‘art’ of the show when there was no indication that it could get better in anyway.

haaaaaa oh i saw that post too, it's horrific, isn't it? for me the worst part of it was "the character with the strongest and most well established character arc on the whole show is a young woman who achieves everything she is destined for through her own strength and the support of her closest friends without having to compromise her integrity ONCE" i just. my god

I CANNOT BELIEVE YOU SLEPT WITH THE QUEEN THAT I HAD TO SEE THIS IN 2017.

what isn’t going on with fandom these days. so, two video game fandoms I’m in are having a lot of issues. (I think I told you about one? I can’t remember now)

Anyway, in a couple of months I’ll be 27, that’s about roughly the same age Cassandra Clare was when the plagiarism debacle got uncovered and it’s made me stop to think. This woman was my age, she had a lot of impact on younger fans and the fandom at large and I can still see that impact today passed down from older fans now my age to younger ones again. Because she was constantly raging on Ginny, declaring her boring and swearing the books shouldn’t end with her and Harry. And from there of course other fans came to hate Ginny and there were hate websites and other bullshittery and this woman was in her late twenties. 

That’s the thing that really gets me, because she should have known what she was doing, a) with the fucking plagiarism and b) with the way she talked to younger fans. because don’t get me wrong, she encouraged them but also talked down to them and she always struck me as very condescending. It was clear one day you could be her friend and the next she was siccing her lawyer on you.

this show still means a lot to me, it gave me the courage to speak in a fandom and make friends and I’ll always love that but on the flip side it pissed me off a hell of a lot. you win some you lose some, this is fandom after all.

i finally enjoyed constagnan precisely because she got to have a life that didn't directly revolve around him.