What advice would you give someone that likes a trans guy?
Some days heβs gonna be on top of the world. Some days he will walk into a bar like he owns the place just because youβre on his arm. But other days he wonβt be able to get out of bed. Some days he will need you to guard the bathroom door in public so he can pee in peace. Some days he will need you to tell him heβs handsome a hundred times as he gets ready to go out. Some days youβll have to point out that his arms look bigger from working out. Some days he will be angry for no reason because fighting his body takes a toll on him. Some days he may cry in your arms and you have to just let him. Some days he will hurt from binding, rub his shoulders. Some days youβll have to learn his body, and relearn his body. Some days you wonβt be able to touch him there, some days it might be okay. Some days he wonβt be able to have sex because itβs too much and his body doesnβt feel right, donβt give him a hard time. Some days he will want to have sex all day, and he will want a blowjob even if he canβt feel it, indulge it. Some days a little βyouβre my manβ can go a long way. Some days he wonβt see a single thing about himself that he likes and you might have to disagree, and he might not care, but insist on what you like anyway. Some days he might be scared, assure him itβs normal. Some days he might have doubts, about himself, about his gender, about life, and it can be hard to stand beside. It can be a lot, and if you canβt handle it you need to try to know that going in. But if youβre up to it, every day he could be your man and you have the opportunity to date someone that is learning to love themselves and grow and change and thatβs a unique journey that very few people get to be a part of.
