(Names have been changed) I NEED ADVICE
Context: I'm a gay boy. I went to a birthday party of a girl named Sara over the weekend. Sara lives with my best friend, Kate. Kate, Sara and I all went to a pre-party at a couple's house who are some of Sara's best friends (Anna and Mark). It was my first time meeting them. Kate's currently working her way into this friend circle too. They had a big group of girls over for the pre-party.
We then went to the party, was fun - drinks, some other substances, everyone was on a good buzz. Sara ends up a little too wasted to stay out, but still wants to hang with everyone. We decide to return to Sara and Kate's flat for the afterparty, but the only person who came back with us was Mark and all the others stayed out at the clubs.
We continue to have drinks, do some lines, smoke some weed, etc. until Sara gets too sleepy and goes to bed. It's about 4:30 in the morning at this stage. Kate gets tired next, and I say that we'll finish our drinks and leave - but Mark chimes in and asks if we can smoke another joint (I am the one who brought the weed and can roll joints). Kate says she'll go to bed and we were good to hang longer, just to keep it down and lock up after we're done.
Kate goes to bed, Mark and I smoke another joint, and then are chilling back on the couch. Mark suddenly reaches over, and starts playing with my hair, and says "I want you" (just like that). In my intoxicated state, I'm intreagued, and rather than rejecting him, I leant in - and ended up giving him head, then he went home. I had the impression this was the first time he'd done anything with another guy. I am aware that I did the wrong thing in this situation - not a question about that.
The question to the poll is the following: Do I have a responsibility to share this information to any of the friends listed in the story - and who should be told? Or is this better to keep to myself? I don't want to out anyone, nor cause a massive rift in a friend group, or end a relationship unnecessarily.
a) Keep this to yourself - don't tell anyone.
b) You should tell Kate, and she can decide what to do with the information
c) You should tell Sara, as she's better friends with both of them, and she can then decide what's best
d) You should tell Anna, as she is the victim in this story and deserves to know what her boyfriend has done
e) You should tell all the girls, and let them make their mind up about it
f) Another different option - please elaborate
Context in the ask above.
The question to the poll is the following: Do I have a responsibility to share this information to any of the friends listed in the story - and who should be told? Or is this better to keep to myself? I don't want to out anyone, nor cause a massive rift in a friend group, or end a relationship unnecessarily.
Keep this to yourself - don't tell anyone.
You should tell Kate, and she can decide what to do with the information
You should tell Sara, as she's better friends with both of them, and she can*
You should tell Anna, as she is the victim in this story and deserves to know**
You should tell all the girls, and let them make their mind up about it
Another different option - please elaborate
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Remaining time: 6 days 19 hours
* then decide what's best
** what her boyfriend has done
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