Cass

men have got to go

So I’ve really gotten into what I suppose is the dom version of free-use lately, I’m calling it free-worship. My boyfriend can basically pleasure me whenever he likes as long as he doesn’t expect me to do anything, sometimes I won’t even stop playing video games or scrolling my phone or doing work. And I kinda realized that I’m really into this. It’s not really “free use” cause literally his pleasure doesn’t matter. He hungers to please me. And I realized I’d actually be pretty happy to have this relationship with a lot of people in my life. I think it would be really fun to be the goddess of a friend group. Everyone gets to caress me and turn me on and get me off, so long as they don’t expect me to do anything in return, I don’t even have to acknowledge they’re there, and they can’t use my body to obtain physical pleasure for themselves. They can only make me feel good. That should be enough for them.

Obviously if I don’t want it I just tell him politely to fuck off, cause free-worship or not I’m still the one in control. Sometimes the temple is closed y’know. The point is is that he can try whenever he wants without asking first.

Shout out to the (many) times I got called an elitist gatekeeper for saying that the only real way to fully understand a work of fiction is to experience it firsthand and that summaries and reviews are not a replacement for that

To quote what a friend of mine said after she watched Jerry Maguire (1996) for the first time, having thought she knew what it was about because of its cultural ubiquity: “you miss a lot of a movie when you don’t watch it”

eating disorders and abortions are two things that are like, spoken about in most mainstream discourse as though they are pretty rare and aberrant, but then when you’re actually friends with a lot of women you come to find out that they are extremely extremely common and kind of banal & mundane

my number one advice for trans women both on this shitass platform and in real life is: you do not have to answer that question. people are so used to exploiting transfems' collective low self esteem that they will just expect you to answer questions that are best responded to with an openly disgusted stare. you do not have to answer these motherfuckers' questions. you don't owe anyone an explanation. "who do you think you are to ask me that" and "what makes you think that's an acceptable thing to say to me" are good, but most of the time you can just say nothing and look at them like they just offered you a spoon and a bowl of shit to eat. you'd be amazed how fast people start backtracking if you just say nothing and let their idiot question grow stale in the air

and needless to say you do not need to answer anons. yes this includes if they tell you everyone is saying something about you and can you explain. it is a trick. let them refresh your blog in vain

irl this doesn't work on people who have made up their minds to be openly hostile but it works on just about everyone else. most people have less-than-unshakable social confidence. practically everybody is secretly afraid of that moment where they realize they did something socially wrong. and no version of that moment is as jarring as when the flow of interaction just. ends. nobody is ready for the script to just stop. consequently, if you can project a passable lack of uncertainty during the brief, lurching silence that follows when you just don't respond to someone's weird question, in a way that is clearly deliberate, it only takes about 3-4 seconds at most before the other person will assume they fucked up bad even if they're not sure how. you just stare at them with perplexed disgust. they will backtrack and apologize. you still don't have to say anything. if you know them and you want to let them off with a warning, you can let them squirm for a second and then say "anyway," and change the subject like they were just being weird and you're doing them a favor. if you don't know them, or don't want to, just say say nothing, look at them like they're gross, and then ignore them

there's no trans women because it's segregated

"now it exists for them too" not for trans women and girls it fucking doesn't @aruddyduck

yeah okay ill reblog that

Everybody say "thank you south america" for the humble potato