1. The Addict: Oy. Where to begin. Hereās the important thing to remember: The Addict will ALWAYS be looking for a high. ALWAYS. Even if he is sober from drugs/alcohol/gambling/food, if he hasnāt done āthe work,ā he may get hooked on you.
The woman he wants: Someone who gets him high. Heās looking for a feeling. Maybe itās the married woman, his crush from high school he never thought he would get, or the ex he dumped years ago. Itās all about the thrill for him. And once that thrill wears off ā¦ heās jonesing for the next.
What he really needs: To work through his co-dependency issues and learn how to cope with life on his own before involving anyone else.
2. The Mamaās Boy: The most important relationship a guy can have is with his mother. Thatās why itās bad news if that relationship has gone wrong in some way. The Mamaās Boy compares all women to his mother. Whether he hates her or is obsessed with her, he is blind to the fact that he is replaying his relationship with his mom with every woman he gets involved with.
The woman he wants: Someone who is exactly like his mother or exactly the opposite, depending on the nature of the dysfunction. If his mom was coddling and overprotective, he may want you to change his diaper and wipe his nose. If his mother abandoned him, he may be looking for a clingy lady. If his mother expected him to be āthe man of the family,ā he may be looking for a woman who is helpless and needs taking care of. You get the picture.
What he really needs: To realize that you are NOT his mother. And, more importantly, to understand the relationship dynamic with his mother. If he has issues to work out with her, he needs to do it before he invites another woman into his life.
3. The Flounderer: Heās unhappy in his career, either because he hasnāt advanced as much as he thought he would have or itās not what he wants to be doing, period.
The woman he wants: Someone to motivate him and stroke his ego all the time because heās not getting that kind of love in the workplace.
What he really needs: To go after what he wants hard and on his own initiative instead of whining to you about it all the time
4. The Insecure Narcissist: Initially, this gentleman comes off as exceedingly confident ā he thinks heās the best at his job, takes good care of his appearance, and is often the life of the party. But he also cannot take a joke at his expense, overstates how successful he is, and is never happy for anyone whoās doing ābetterā than him ā including the woman heās with.
The woman he wants: Someone who wonāt ever challenge him or give him grief, even as a joke. If she does, heāll find her insecurities and go at them with a hacksaw, so sheās brought down to his level, making him feel better about himself in comparison.
What he really needs: To stop pretending like heās Godās gift to the world and be OK being vulnerable, and realize that heās not fooling anyone with that act anyway.
5. The Career Obsessive: Hereās the thing about dudes: They are not all that great at multi-tasking, but The Career Obsessive is the worst of the lot. His sole goal in life is to rise to the top and itās not until he gets there that heāll actually be emotionally available.
The woman he wants: Someone who understands that being successful is the most important thing in the world ā so long as SHE is not more successful than him ā and will reward his hard work in the office with sexual favors at home whenever heās got a spare moment. The opposite of The Hero [see No. 6 below], he wants someone who does not need him emotionally at all.
What he really needs: To realize that a fulfilling life is all about balance and an amazing career doesnāt keep you warm at night.
6. The Hero: He loves to date a basket case, a woman whoās got many issues for him to help her overcome ā but thatās only so he can avoid dealing with his own. Once sheās more stable, the skeletons in his emotional closet emerge and he has to find someone new to save instead.
The woman he wants: A woman who āneedsā him and makes him feel strong, capable, manly, and, most of all, NOT CRAZY in comparison.
What he really needs: To find a therapist who can hold up a mirror and show him that his own problems should take top priority.
7. The Tragic Tom: Tragedy has befallen him and he hasnāt been able to recover. While being sympathetic to this guyās plight is understandable, trying to save him is a waste of time.
The woman he wants: A woman who will see his gooey marshmallow center underneath that hardened edge and will exhaust herself trying to save him from himself.
What he really needs: To gain perspective and to learn, on his own, that bad things happen to everyone in some form and the best you can do is move forward in your life with lessons learned.
8. The Commitment Phobe: This guy pretends to be happy on his own, living large as a bachelor, just like his hero George Clooney, but heās actually just terrified of letting a woman get to know the real him.
The woman he wants: Someone who will never expect their relationship to evolve past the casually dating stage, who will never expect to meet his parents or even necessarily his friends, and wonāt want to talk about pesky things like feeeeelings.
What he really needs: To face his insecurities head on, so he can figure out what heās so scared of showing to other people and to get over it.
9. The Eternally Brokenhearted: He hasnāt gotten over the chick who broke his heart and he holds what she did against every other woman he dates in subtle ways.
The woman he wants: Someone who reinforces his anger at his ex by committing the same āsinsā she did. That way he can punish her for his exās actions. Unfortunately for both of them, heāll never be able to work through his anger completely with that kind of black-and-white attitude in which heās the sole victim.
What he really needs: To find closure with the woman who āwronged him,ā but not necessarily through confrontation. Rather, he needs to look at the demise of the relationship objectively so heās forced to acknowledge his role and can move forward in a new relationship with no (or minimal) baggage.
10. The Eeyore: Thanks for noticing him, the dull, pathetic, dude in the corner who is not actually dull and pathetic. He just has the worst attitude of all time. Heās always whining about something. Every day is a bad day. Nothing ever works out for him. Everything seems completely impossible to The Eeyore, which makes being around him unbearable.
The woman he wants: His own personal Pooh Bear. That special someone who will be his personal cheerleader and spend all of her time trying to get him to look on the bright side even though he is completely incapable of seeing life that way.
What he really needs: To stop feeling sorry for himself and take responsibility for what happens in his life. The sooner he realizes that life is what you make it, the sooner heāll have some much-needed company in his bed.
(via cnn)
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10 Types of Women to Avoid
For this woman, her ideal relationship is less about compatibility and compromise and more about having someone do everything she says. The only way she can be happy is if she has complete control over circumstances which ruins all opportunity for spontaneity, romantic surprises, and, you know, a man to love out of his own free will.
Sheās the girl that wants all eyes on her and when theyāre not it becomes a problem. Remember Regine from Living Single? Sheās the same as her. Trying to build a relationship with a Narcissist is the same as trying to live in a sandcastle. Itāll take a lot of understanding and therapy sessions to develop a concrete relationship with her.
THE PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE ONE
The passive-aggressive woman spells danger. She is unable to tell you how she feels, so she acts out her feelings, which will surely confuse you. When sheās passive, it may seem alluring, but that passivity will eventually turn back into aggressive when she feels she isnāt getting what she wants.
She comes across as if she has a lot going on, yet you canāt really pinpoint what or who she really is. Itās more likely that she has an identity issue or Ā is too wrapped up in the lives of celebrities that sheās lost herself along the way.
Sheās the one that compares you to either her terrible ex or her father that you will never live up to. Itāll be very hard to feel appreciated by her because whatever you do will not measure up to her standards. She canāt see you for who you are, she only sees how things can be better or how wrong they are.
Regardless of the situations sheāll find something to complain about. If youāre late, if youāre wearing blue instead of red, if itās raining outside or sunny she will find fault in it all. Itāll be like walking on eggshells around her.
THE EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE ONE
There is no way to build a relationship with an emotionally unavailable person.The emotionally unavailable person refuses to express themselves and are so evasive that it becomes exhausting trying to get through to them. They are good at charm, seduction and sexual appeal, but when the relationship gets deeper they will bail or sabotage it.
Sheās a bit different from the narcissist. The attention-seeker is constantly on the lookout for attention and often does things to get attention. She may be loud in public or post pictures on Instagram and Facebook more times a day than anyone can keep up with. Her attention-seeking is a symptom, sometimes, of a lack of self-esteem or she believes she wonāt get attention unless she demands it.
From the beginning, sheāll be trying to understand why you do what you do because she feels everything has a deeper meaning. The need to know why you said one word over another will be the crux of your conversations. One-word answers annoy her and thatāll tornado into a huge argument. Itāll be like chemistry class with this one.
Her lip stays poked out ready to go off on whoever. There is no explanation as to why sheās being mean or why sheās mad. There isnāt much to do here unless you want to set her off and have her unleash on you. Thereās surely a way to get through to her, but only she knows that and she probably aināt trying to reveal that.
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