learn to swim for none but oneself

It's harder, nearly impossible if they have a partner, to get them to act out certain personal feminist choices with me though. I'm basically talking to two people in one at that point, and the woman I'm talking to considers her man's feelings so hard she basically has his ghost following her around everywhere.

They'll tell me it's a free choice not to shave . . . but they do it because there's the concern of being unattractive to their man. Same with other cosmetic alterations. They'll agree with me about being able to say no to any sexual act for any reason . . . but might express surprise that at the claim you can have a happy healthy sex life that doesn't involve penetration. Because they can't imagine their man being accepting of that. It's a kind of "rules for thee but not for me" situation where they love to see other women be self-actualized but unfortunately don't hold themselves to the same standards.

And honestly, their concerns have merit. There's a legit chance the boyfriends/husbands WILL leave if these women choose to live naturally and enforce their boundaries. There's not a lot of men out there who would be cool with that, even among self-described liberal guys. It doesn't feel good to hear that one must accept the possibility of not having a romantic partner after a lifetime of being told such a thing is an expected milestone and realistically attainable for women who just try hard enough.

I wanted the birds to look like they were actually in the space so first thing after doing the draft was to do a lighting study

after that I covered the walls in letters in lieu of a projector/vr headset bc i have neither of those :) Then i take a picture of the section of wall and superimpose the lineart over top of it so I can pencil in the lines

et voila

yes, she is the abuser and the student is the victim. yes, it is also sexist and gross that they would assume young boys have those sexual feelings towards their abuser. so the RESULT of those comments is harm towards the victims and defense of the abuser.

but the SOURCE of those comments is less that they can't see boys as victims and more that they think women are sex objects, so how could a boy be victimized by a sex object? you can see that because mentions of the victim are always throwaway lines and projection like "eh, he probably liked it anyway" and the mentions of the abuser are rants about how hot the teacher is and how bad THEY want her.

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