I am not uptight about privacy because I'm hiding something. I'm uptight about it because the people who dismiss my right to privacy are dangerous to you and me and our families, personally, all the time.

say it with me:

a crush is not limerance

lying is not gaslighting

a connection formed during a bad time is not a trauma bond

something you enjoy is not a special interest

confidence is not narcissism

affection is not love bombing

talking less is not going nonverbal

getting uncomfortable is not overstimulation

introversion is not avoidance

Being nonviolent is an important part of their character, and while it's interesting to ponder what could drive them to feel vindication or relief through violence, them doing so can't truly be construed as a positive development

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People are so quick to assume that the way you present is automatically how they should perceive you when that simply is not true.

Gender, being a social construct, means you should be able to control how you apply yourself to that social construct. Instead of others deciding that for you.

I wouldn't say I'm agender, nor do I fall under any specific genderqueer umbrella. I'm not truly anything, in my eyes. Since this definition of 'me' shifts nearly everyday, I can't really find the energy to assign myself a label knowing that it will be wrong. I don't have a clear sense of self which extends to how I present myself. I wear baggy clothes, trousers, dress shirts, and so on. I'm masculine, but not male. Other times I reject masculinity fully, feeling absolutely nothing towards it.

I've just been thinking over and over, "how can I find a label that feels right?" But, I can't. Because I don't feel like a person.

However, because of this, people are quick to make assumptions about me. I can't tell people that I have a specific set of pronouns, a label, anything to indicate what makes me comfortable. The only thing I have is my rejection of femininity. However, because I am inherently perceived as female, I go on to be treated as if I am female. I can't say otherwise.

I think people reject anyone who is genderqueer because they don't fit into the known boxes they have for gender. Gender goes beyond the binary, but the only identities they'll accept is non-binary, mtf, and ftm. Most people don't even accept those identities.

I tend to present myself best online because I can use the identity of fictional characters as a way to present myself. I mean, I don't even call myself by my name. I've gone by so many different names, all being borrowed from different fictional characters that felt at least somewhat okay at the time. My most recent one was Es, but I no longer feel attached to that.

I've got no name I guess? That's a little silly.

I do wonder, if people accepted the existence of microlabels and these fluctuations in identity, would people be less inclined to see somebody and decide what boxes they fit into?