Motherhood Journey

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Story begins

I decided to take a shower, so I went to my bathroom. I wouldn’t want to wake up my one-year-old. I said to myself,’’ finally I made it.’’

If you have little ones you can relate to my situation. I turn on my shower, and start rubbing soap all over my body with music playing inside me.

But a few seconds later I realized that there was not even a single drop pouring out of my shower. Suddenly, I got all those thoughts of getting late to work. I tried to convince myself that everything is fine. All I need is some patience. Darling, not to worry……..

Nothing worked ,not even the positive affirmations.

I was standing in my bath with soap all over me and on some parts of my skin, it started drying itself. 

I asked myself, "what option do I have?” and the answer was…..

The only thing that I don’t want to try .....is to call this person to help me out from this terrible situation.

In such situations, I guess this is the only option that we usually have.

Our Husbands 

Thus, mommy screams like anything

And wakes everyone in the house, even the little one. Until my husband tapped me several times and told me to calm down. He offered me a glass of water. This is when I felt that it was a dream. A bad dream. Oh! So it was a nightmare, we have our Water”, I said holding my glass.

HOWEVER,this is not the end to my worry

What I ask myself every single day

 How long do we get access to this water? With a bulletin telling every other day that water is drying.

Am I lying to myself that this will never happen?

Every single time I drink water from a glass or a bottle,

I remind myself not to throw even a single drop of water in the kitchen sink.

How do we use our water supply?

We sometimes buy bottled water whenever we are traveling but we rely on tap water when we are home.

Water use for  household purposes:

washing clothes, cooking food, taking showers, and flushing our toilets

Also, we utilize it for cleaning the kitchen, mopping the floor, watering our garden, and washing our cars.

Do you know how much water we consume on these activities per day?

800–1000 gallons per day per person

And we only have .3% of water for human use.

Tap water has dried up in many parts of South Africa and has become the first country with Zero Water. So, how they are managing things.

they take bath in the shower while standing in a small tub and then reuse it 

to water their plants

for mopping

They do not even flush their toilets all the time 

Yes, they do flush when someone poops in the pot.

We have the responsibility 

If you have not faced something like this yet,

You are lucky like me, but what about our future generations?

And it is our responsibility to leave a better place for them, not worse of course.

Life lessons from Coronavirus

Covid-19 has taught us the value of Air. The Oxygen that keeps us Alive. We all know what we have gone through. I am starting this chain because I know somewhere deep down you also want to contribute to your planet.

Let us do it this time.

My Request — Use your bucket this time

I request whosoever reading this article to take a pledge not to waste our water at all.

So, next time, you go to the bathroom to shower, fill a bucket of water and take your bath. If any part of the water is left, keep it safe for the next person or you can also use this water for your plants.

If you do not have water in your shower, use your bucket next time.

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 My life in 2020 begins with a special chapter on December, 19th, 2019. It was the month when my daughter was born. I still remember when I first held her in my arms. She was so tiny while holding her I was thinking that hurt her.

 Pinak (my daughter) and our exams

 I had my finals in December 2019 starting from the 18th. I went to give my first exam and the next day I was in labor.

 Now, I have to resit my exams which were in January 2021.

As my 4 exams were left. An exam board decided that the students had to come to the university itself for their exams.

 Our four day routine

So, every morning, we started at 6 o’clock and reached the university in three hours as my exam was at 10 am. And yes, Pinak was with me during all four exams. She was only a month old so I could not leave her at home. She only depends on breastfeed and I cannot stay away from her for that long.

 I used to leave her with her dad for 3 hours- exam timing in a car. It was not easy for me as a mother because you feel like you are not a good mother. How can you leave your daughter behind for your personal benefit. I still remember how many times I controlled my tears everytime I left her behind.

 Inside the examination hall I was giving an exam ,but I also know that outside the building Pinak was also giving a life exam waiting for her mother.

 Earlier, I was having this misconception that our children make us weak. And our situations become difficult since we have more responsibilities. But it is untrue.

 My Exam Preparation with my daughter

 She hardly slept at night and sometimes I did feel like I failed my exam because I was not able to focus on my subjects. She wanted to be with me all the time and I also wanted the same.

 Cholestasis of pregnancy

 When she was inside me I was not able to study due to nausea, dizziness, and excitement. I also developed a sort of itching problem called cholestasis of pregnancy. Less than 10% of women in the world experience it during pregnancy.

 Don’t take me wrong. I do not want to scare you that pregnancy is a nightmare. It is a blessing.

 But everything is normal in pregnancy. 

 For example my kaki, in other words, my aunt, every time I complain about my itching she laughs and replies  “it is normal baba don't worry”. In some countries, women around you  often advise you that even severe itching is normal.  I will share my whole experience about it in my next post.

 This is how I managed to give all four exams with Pinak on my side all the time.

 Unleash my strengths

 Pinak actually gave birth to a new me. Within a month, I cleared all my exams.

I appeared for my IELTS and scored C1 level with 8.5 in Listening in March, 2020.

I took admission in the TESOL Postgraduate program in August, 2020.

Learn how to drive a car in October, 2020. 

 People say that women become weak after a child's birth but here I got extra strength. Now we are two.

  A daughter’s message for her mother

 Every time I look at her innocent face, she crosses each milestone like she is saying to mom," I am here for you. I know all your pains. I am your true admirer. Do it for me."

 Today I am writing this article and I am not worried about what people will say about me.

 Because I know many out there in the audience are mommies from inside like me irrespective of gender.

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