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to the last anon who sent me the message about eugenics/mens behavior being rooted in biology, if you wanna message me and talk about it i wont post your account publicly or anything. i just am feeling too crazy lately. back when i was on tumblr as a teen i had thousands of followers and i'd get an anon like once a year so im just confused why now my inbox is flooded with controversial discourse stuff. if you wanna discuss a topic with me i will almost always want to but id rather do it directly with someone not hiding their account.

yeah i know women have male partners on here and as long as theyre safe and happy thats all good with me. i trust their judgement and maybe only feel suspicious of men being feminists because of how ive been duped by men pretending to be into it to gain something from me. and yeah it seems like very few people read theory books and i feel like its easy to tell the ones who have. this might be a controversial take but i feel like you need to read theory to be a radical feminist at least in the political movement/liberation sense. im not desperate to find a male feminist for my own enjoyment of him i literally just need a glimmer of hope

also wdym by real feminist activist circles? like irl or online or both? i dont think ive run into a single man in any of my feminist online groups but maybe in person it'd be different. I don't believe the whole doomer narrative either. I'm really hoping its a nurture thing and not a nature thing ykno.

i have to believe that men can change and theres good enough ones out there that would ally with radfems and then change the other one's minds. cause if thats not true i don't know what the point in trying is. like i wont get all doomer black pill or whatever but its just so disappointing. is it really all men to that extreme and i was being too optimistic? does anyone have experience finding me who are truly Good or like Good Enough lol

thank you that sounds right up my alley <333

i dont think people don't know that there are other options. i think people are saying theres a pressure to be dressed in the sexualized outfits to appeal to men and at the same time be shamed for it. either way i know its dependent on where you live. Spend a year living in los angeles and then get back to me lol

thats ok my experience with womens clothing and what i see women wear in the cities i live in aren't universal the same way your experiences aren't. i know theres mostly normal womens clothes too and im not that pressed about what people want to wear. i just dont get it personally and i see the over-sexualized misogynistic female beauty standard a lot. i dont like makeup or beauty industry because it profits off of manufacturing insecurities in women and then selling them the solution. i dont think anyone should financially support an industry like that and i think people should normalize a womans natural face. theres a book called Beauty Sick by Renee Engeln if you're interested in the subject. I think if makeup was focused as an art form and went into the weird/avant garde it would be cooler and i'd be less against it. but the argument made that alt makeup isnt for the male gaze annoys me its like yea it is its just for the alt male gaze who fetishizes alt/goth/emo/egirls lol (i know u werent talking about that im just rambling now)

thanks for your kindness and empathy and advice. It really is so hard to figure out sexuality when you have OCD. I think its also really hard when youve been abused as a child in that way. People dont understand that it impacts your relationship with sexuality really severely for some people. Or at least it did for me. And then u add my family being extremely homophobic and me wanting my family to love me lol. I'm having an OCD moment trying to "figure out" something I probably will never have certainty on. I'll try to take care of myself and not be too hard on myself. but i'm still sorry if i annoyed anyone or caused unnecessary drama. I'm trying to find ways to lighten my mental load but to be real with yall my mental problems have reached a new low and im struggling to crawl out of the hole im in. I'll be fine but if anyone has a good show or movie recommendation i'd appreciate it cause i could use a distraction right now.

ok thanks for explaining it for me. im not trying to stir shit im just trying to hear some perspectives. you can read my reply to the previous anon if you wanna know why im inquiring so hard lol. you don't need to apologize i know you're just answering a question i asked, which i appreciate.