i think to be in a happy longbig relationship you gotta be best friends first and foremost. like no matter how developed the romantic side gets, if youre not friends then its straightup over.... a husband is a friend first and a husband second..
i feel like a romantic partner should imperatively be someone you can trust just like you trust a friend , someone you can be a little hater with . someone you share interests with and someone you can see yourself continuing to share interests with even when interest in the initial thing you guys met about fizzles out ... & someone you trust to be supportive of ur interests even when they Dont get it. someone you can do stupid bits with .someone you could spend 6 hours in a car or waiting room with just fine. i think because there’s a lot of societal pressure to Get a partner, a lot of people go looking for a partner and get one without even considering that they should actually be friends with that partner as well. it sounds like its Not worth it.
to me romantic love is beautiful and joyous and lovely , but platonic friendlove is the glue within every relationship that bonds people together
