A New Pups Journey

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Aftercare

Aftercare 101

Aftercare For Dominants

Aftercare Kits

Coping With Emotional Subdrop

Different Kinds Of Aftercare

Dom Drop

How To Make A Sub Drop Kit

Online Aftercare

Providing aftercare to your Dominant/Top

Some thoughts on aftercare

sub/Dom Space, sub/Dom Drop and Aftercare

Subdrop and Aftercare

Subspace and Aftercare

Consent

50 Facts About Rape

Consent & BDSM

CONSENT IS MANDATORY AND NON-NEGOTIABLE

Guide to Consent

Stoya’s guide to sexual consent in porn

What Is Consent (video)

Dommes/Doms, Daddies & Masters

7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dom

10 Considerations for Aspiring Dominants

10 Reasons you Suck as a Dom

10 Things About Littles

10 Things We Subs Need From You But Won’t Say Out Loud

12 Characteristics Of An Ideal Submissive

25 Things Daddies Should Do For Their Littles

30 Rules For A Modern Gentleman

45 Things A Girl Wants, But Won’t Ask For

50 Rules for Daddies

50 things a Caregiver could do for their little!

100 Sweet Things You Can Do For Your Princess

101 Things To Do To Make Your Slave Feel Owned (loved)

Alternative Names For “Daddy”

Alternative Domme Titles

Aspects Of Control

Asserting Ownership - Rules

Conditioning Submissives

Daddy Up!

Defining A Daddy Dom

Dominance and Self-Control

Dominants Need Training Also

Fun Tasks Daddies Can Give Their Littles

Help For New Doms

How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive

How to Find a Submissive

Knowing when to be a Dom and when to be her Man

Long Distance Help For Submissives

Neglect Of A Little

New to DDLG - A Daddy Dom

Observations On Doms By A Submissive

Punishment Management: A Guide To Unruly Submissives

Qualities of A Successful Dominant

Rewards Of Having A Submissive In Your Life

Rules For Owning A Catgirl

So You Think You Are A Daddy Dom?

So you want to be a Dom?

So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate her

Some Little Rules All Daddies Should Know

The Daddy Dominant’s Creed

The Dominants Creed

The Dom Commandments

The Gift Of Dominance

Things for Daddies to Keep in Mind

Things You Can Do to be a Better Daddy

Tips for Taking Care of a Little When They’re Sick

What Being A Dom Is About - A Submissive’s Perspective

What does the title Daddy mean?

What is a Daddy Dom?

What is a Daddy Dom Mentor?

What is a Dominant & how to be a good one

What It Means To Be A Dominant

What Makes A Good Dominant

What To Do When Your Little Has The Grumps!

Littles, Subs & Slaves

6 Questions Every Submissive Needs To Ask Her Potential Dominant

7 Common Types of Submissives

10 Tips For Living With A Sadist

10 Things A Dominant Needs From A Submissive

11 Red Flags Of An Abusive Dominant

12 Things Every Submissive Should Know

12 Traits of a True Dom

16 Things That Make Me Feel Little

26 Baby Girl Jobs

40 Things To Do With Your Stuffies

50 Great Rewards For Your Little Princess

50 Things You Can Do For Your Daddy

101 Little Space Activities

A Bottom’s Responsibility

A Dominant’s Advice To His Submissive

A Little’s Masterpost

A Man Who Knows You…

A Good Dom vs. A Bad Dom

Acid Test For Subs

Ask A Million And One Questions

Attraction to DD/lg: A Little’s Perspective

Baby girl or little? A brief introduction

Becoming A Sub: The Starter Guide

Bedtime Stories For Littles

Care and feeding of Daddies

Characteristics Of A Good Daddy

Coaxing The Daddy Dom Out Of Your Partner

Daddy Is NOT Always Right

DDlg Masterpost

Feminist Submissive

Finding Your Dominant

Fun Bentos To Try

Good Rules For Middles and Littles To Live By

Guide For Young Newbie Sub Girls

How a Dom Behaves Shows How He Will Behave Towards You.

“How do I find Daddy?” A guide to help you safely find the Daddy you’re looking for.

How Does A Submissive Ask for Something from Their Dominant?

How To Find A Dom

How to Interview a Dom/Master Prospect

How to Take Proper Care of Your Dom

I Solemnly Swear I Will Not Do This To Daddy

Littles vs Ageplayers: Why they aren’t the same

Novice Submissives

On Being a Woman and a Little

Pet Names For Littles

Physical abuse of littles - it is never OK

Phrases that little me loves to hear

Signs Of A Fake ‘Dominant’

So, What is a ‘Little’? An Essay…

Stuff no one tells you about submission, until the spreader bar is on and you are trapped.

Submissives, Learning to Trust Your Instincts

Submissive’s Owner Manual

Submissive Pride

Submissive Traits - Intelligence

Submissive Traits - Leadership

Things My Dream Daddy Would Say To Me

What is a Little?

What is a Middle?

What is the definition of a Baby Girl?

What do you do when a submissive says a safe word?

When newbie subs, with asinine “doms,” need to run away.

When your Daddy is having a bad day

Why I call him Daddy

Wonderful World Of Littles

Your Rights As A Submissive

Long Distance Relationships

10 Ways To Survive A Long Distance Relationship

Getting The Most Out Of A Long Distance Relationship

How To Make Long Distance Relationships Work

Kink And The World Of Warcraft

Long Distance Relationships Ideas

Long Distance Relationships - Tools To Cope

Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Contemplation: Sticking with plans

Meeting For The First Time

The Long Distance D/s Relationship

Things To Help Long Distance Relationships

Relationships

10 Habits of Happy Couples

10 Old Fashioned Dating Habits We Should Make Cool Again

10 Signs You’re in a Healthy Relationship

10 Tips For Keeping Your Love Alive

10 Top Communication Mistakes

10 Types of Emotional Manipulators

12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget

50 Best Ways To Say “I Love You”

BDSM Breakups: All Good Things Must Come to an End

BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways

Building Trust in Relationships

Collars and Collaring - A Personal Perspective

Communication Is Key

Concept Daddy Dom/Little Girl Relationships

Crucial Ingredients for a Great Relationship

Daddy Doms and their little girls

Daddy Doms, Baby Girls, Little Boys And More

Dangers of Dom/Sub Gravity

Date Night In A Jar

Depictions of D/S as Unromantic

DD/lg In Public

D/s and Domestication

Factors That Make A Relationship

Finding Love When You Least Expect It

Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests

Forming A D/s Relationship

Great Idea For All DDlg & CGl Relationships When You’re Together

Green Flags For Relationships

Importance Of Communication

Is Your Partner Having A Bad Day? Here’s How To Help

Help for When a Relationship Ends

How To Be Present In Your Relationships

How To Build A Healthy Relationship

How to Create a Winning Relationship

How To Get What You Want In A Relationship

How To Know When You’ve Found “The One”

How to Recover from a Broken Heart

How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level

Importance Of Confidence In Relationships

Importance Of Trust In A Relationship

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner - Part 1

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner: Part 2 - My Partner is Not Interested

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner: Part 3- My Partner is Interested!

Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship

Managing decreasing libido in D/S

Needy Girls Are Daddy Dom Bait

Perfect Date Check List

Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore

Searching for a D/s partner?

Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships

Science Behind A Happy Relationship

Stop Arguments Before They Start

The Faces of D/s

The Rewards of a Submissive

Types Of Relationship Insecurity

Unusual Date Ideas

Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship

What Is Real Love?

When He Doesn’t Call

Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better

Rope Tutorials

Shibari Tutorial: Box Tie

Shibari Tutorial: Coin Basket Harness

Shibari Tutorial: Consequence Collar & Cuff

Shibari Tutorial: Corset Harness

Shibari Tutorial: Dragonfly Sleeve

Shibari Tutorial: Frog Tie

Shibari Tutorial: Hand Ties

Shibari Tutorial: Hitachi Harness

Shibari Tutorial: Hog Tie

Shibari Tutorial: Lover’s Harness

Shibari Tutorial: Pearl Harness & Wrist Cuffs

Shibari Tutorial: Rope Ladder

Shibari Tutorial: Side-arm Harness

Shibari Tutorial: Samurai Tie

Shibari Tutorial: Tortoise Shell Body Suit

Safety

Another life ruined because of the morality police

BDSM & the Law

Bondage Basic Safety: Crops, Paddles & Bondage!

BREAKING BONES AS PUNISHMENT IS NOT KINK, IT IS ABUSE

DEFINED: SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) & RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink)

Guide To Choking

Infographic: Difference Between BDSM & Abuse

Kinks, Risks, How To And Why Sometimes You Shouldn’t

Limits in BDSM

Red Flags in BDSM

Safety when looking for a Potential Dom/me

“Tumblr dom” versus Daddy Dom

What is Emotional Abuse?

Self Improvement

21 Tips to Keep Your Shit Together When You’re Depressed

7 Tips for Being a More Likeable Person

7 Tips for Leading a Fulfilling Life

8 Powerful Steps to Positive Thinking

10 Tips for Creating a Happier Life

10 Steps To Positive Body Image

10 Steps To Self Care

10 Truths To Live By

10 Ways To Be Happy

10 Ways To Show Love To Someone With Depression

15 Important Life Lessons

35 Practical Tools for Men to Further Feminist Revolution

Alternatives To Negative Feelings

Anxiety and BDSM

Avoid Some of the Main Brain Damaging Habits

Battling the complications of varying emotional states

BDSM practitioners ‘healthier and less neurotic’ than ‘vanilla’ peers

Body image & BDSM

Characteristics of Genuinely Low Self-Esteem

Dalai Lama’s Guide Rules For Living

Dealing with Feelings of Shame and Worthlessness

Do You Love Someone With Depression?

Good Habits to Develop

Guaranteed Ways To Be More Attractive

How to be Yourself

How to Cope with Test Anxiety

How To Deal With Mental Illness

How To Deal With Your Enemies

How to Get Over Feeling Sad

How To Ignore Haters

How To Increase Your Patience

How to Let Go of Fear of Abandonment

How To Make A Gliitery “Calm Bottle”

How to Overcome Apathy

How to Recognize a Toxic Friend

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser

How to Succeed at School

How To Take Care Of Yourself

Is BDSM normal?

Kinky Sex And Bondage Tips For S&M First Timers

Living a Life that is Meaningful

Love your Vulva – a self-esteem guide to your sensitive bits!

Managing bipolar disorder in a D/S relationship

Meditation And Mindfulness

On Cutting

People You Need In Your Life

Qualities of a Winning Personality

Quick and Simple Guide To Anxiety Disorders

Science Of Happiness

Self-Care Masterpost

Self Help Masterpost

Slut Shaming Explained

Steps For Letting Go of Painful Memories

Taking A Look At Depression

Tips for Getting What you Want out of Life

Tips for Healing a Broken Heart

Tips for Overcoming Shyness

Tips for Recovering from Codependency

Tips for Showing Kindness

Tips For When You Feel Angry

Things to Do When You’re Anxious, Scared, or Just Need a Distraction

Things To Do When You Are Sad

Very Brief Guide To Self Care

What are the Signs of a Jealous Friend?

What Are Anxiety Disorders? (Infographic)

When You Feel Fed Up

Why Do I Feel Unloveable?

Sex

10 Traits of a Blowjob Queen

50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women

Anal Sex - An Owner’s Manual

Basics of Breath Play

Butt Stuff - A FAQ For Anal Play

Changing the way your cum tastes

Comprehensive Sex Ed: The Basics

Contraceptive Masterpost

Disability and Sexuality Resources

D/s or Kinky Sex?

Fetishes Explained

How to Have a Female Orgasm That Lasts 15-Minutes

How To Make A Girl Squirt

How To Tell Your Son About Sex

Intersection of BDSM and Queer Heterosexuality

Managing decreasing libido in D/S

Sensual Biting

Sex: Myths & Stereotypes

Sex: Practical Details

Sex: Pregnancy and Birth Control

So You Want To Try Anal? A Practical Guide For Women

Squirting Educational Video

Squirting Notes

The Neurobiology of BDSM

Why Some Pain Helps Us Feel Pleasure

Toys

Advice on Dildos and Buttplugs

All About Violet Wands

Basic Types Of Ball Gags

BDSM on a budget

Bondage Rope: How To Choose Yours (And More)

How to make an ice dildo

Kink On A Budget

Safety Guide to The Violet Wand

Vaginal Juicers: A Buyer’s Guide

Training

10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs

15 Points of a BDSM relationship

30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten

40 Very Important DD/lg Facts

An Instructional Guide to Kinks, Fetishes and the World of BDSM

Age Play: A Short Guide

Asserting Ownership - Posing

Basics of Domination and Submission

BDSM Contracts

BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play

BDSM Roles

Collar of Consideration

Common BDSM Roles

Direction and Acceptance

Discipline & Punishment

D/s and Kink

Etiquette in BDSM Part 1

Etiquette in BDSM Part 2

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 - Beginnings

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 - The Dominant Mind

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 3 - Structure and Discipline

Glossary of BDSM Terms

Guide to Behaviour Modification

Guide To Blood Play

Guide To Bruising

Guide To Jelqing

Guide To Spanking & Impact Play

Guide To Subspace

Guide To Talking Dirty

Guide To Wax Play

Hazards of Ignoring in a D/s Relationship

How Do I Get Started In BDSM?

How to Choose and Use a Safeword

How to Lace Up Your Corset - A Helpful Infographic

How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest

How To Make A Comfort Box

Ignoring your sub is an act of abuse

Infographic: Anatomy Of A Spanking

Infographic: Tips On Breath Play

Introducing your partner to a new fetish

Introduction To BDSM

Learning To Trust Your Instincts

Matters of the D/s Heart: A Serious and Long Overdue Conversation

Mixing Vanilla with the D/s Spice - Opening Pandora’s Box of the Heart

Newbie’s Guide To Vaginal Fisting

Pet Play: How Kittens Can Annoy Their Owners

Pet Play: How To Make Pet Food For Your Pet

Punishments in BDSM Relationships

Rape Fantasy & Resistance Play

Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships

Remission, Revitalization and anchoring of life through D/S

Safewords and Safesigns 101

Safeword Basics

S&M for beginners: Easing into a new situation

SF’s Guide To Safewords

Should you mix personal fetishes into punishments?

Some Thoughts On Rules

SubmissiveFeminist’s Guide to Behaviour Modification

The Leash Has Two Ends - Responsibility

The Need For Rules and Discipline

Thoughts on Correction

Thoughts on Protocol - “The Invisible Leash”

Topping from the bottom

Trust and D/s

Wax Play Tips