I originally did not want to touch on this as my first topic, as I figured that it would be an easy way to get people to view it. But as I kept watching these videos and hearing the different perspectives of those shown to both be in support and/or criticize Dhar Mann videos, there was a consistent issue that I noticed kept being brought up over and over again. And that's the one thing that a lot of these videos seem to ignore: the difference between a hater and someone who gives constructive criticism.
Note: This is just my perspective on this video and how I perceive the message based on my experiences. Again, this is just my opinion. This is not hate on Dhar Mann, this is just my interpretation. For those who enjoy his videos and completely agree with the lessons, than that's great. That means that his messages are reaching people. Also, do NOT harass Dhar Mann or any of his actors and crew, I don NOT condone that not do I think that it's right to leave negative comments on his videos. I mean it, this is my opinion not hate, do not hate on him on my behalf.
As a person who still struggles with insecurities and is still unsure about herself (as any young girl would), I can say that I have a hard time being able to take criticism myself, as I seek validation from others often and if that validation is being challenged then it makes me feel threatened. So I understand how Dhar Mann, while he (seemingly) laughs and "shrugs off" the haters, can actually be a little hurt and offended by people's comments. Since he wholeheartedly believes that he's changing lives with his videos and teaching important life lessons, hearing people say they didn't learn anything or his videos are cringe can feel pretty frustrating. But that's where my understanding of his view ends. Because while hearing these words are hurtful, especially coming from people who (may) have ill intentions, not all of these criticisms are bad or not valid. Even I have to acknowledge that sometimes, when people are saying that your content has flaws or needs to improve. If your on a platform in which millions of people with millions of different opinions and perspectives, and your creating content that is supposed to reflect on real life, you should know that there are bound to be people that will either enjoy it or dislike and/or criticize. And when you get feedback on your content that is not meant to be mean but help you to improve, you should at least (in my opinion) hear them out.
Now that I got that out of the way, on to the video in question I'll be discussing:
Dhar Mann Actor QUITS, What Happens Next Is Shocking
To start off the Dhar Mann actors are finishing up filming a scene in which Ayden, this video's protagonist, tells the other character in the scene that if you cheat you'll never get ahead. Then, the director says cut, and all of the actors start celebrating and talking about the scene. This scene was a little weird to me, since the actors in the video were using there real life names, but okay.
Ruben (who I think is the director) pulls Ayden aside and tells him Dhar Mann wants to discuss a new idea for a script. When Ayden gets outside, surprisingly Dhar Mann himself appears in the video to tell him how prod he is of Ayden and excited he is to work with him, then suddenly, Dhar Mann (coincidentally) gets a phone call that takes him away from Ayden.
While this is happening, a couple of fans come to him and tell him how much they love him and they happily get a picture together. Ayden, feeling pretty good from all of the praise, start to do his vlog. This is when the main focus of the video comes in.
Two men, who the video make sure looks like douchebags, come in and start coming in hard on Ayden, saying that his acting is terrible, the videos are cringe, and say that he'll never get two million followers. Bruh.
This really hurts Ayden, who becomes discouraged from doing his vlog, and he laments to Dhar Mann how those two men, along with multiple others on YouTube are constantly saying mean things about him online and that maybe he should quit YouTube. In response, Dhar Mann tells Ayden that these people are just haters to not focus on those that hate you, focus only on the ones that love you.
Now this is a good message, as people will always try to drag others that they see being successful down in order to make themselves feel better. So focusing on those that actually do support you is the right thing to do. However, this video fails to acknowledge that that focus should also apply to those who are offer valid feedback that can help you improve. Because even though their words aren't praise, it still can help you grow and become more successful. Criticism shows that the person not only cares about your success, but is actively trying to help you become even more successful.
Based on that little rant I did there, let's get to the most controversial part of the video.
When Ayden says that Dhar Mann wouldn't understand what this hate feels like, he says that "everyone loves him."(Yes that was written in the script of the video), Dhar Mann tells him that not true and that there are many people that are picking on him all the time.
He pulls out a video showing a YouTuber that called his content cringe. Then, Dhar Mann pulls out someone I think you might recognize.
That's right. Dhar Mann pulled out Pewdiepie, one of the kargest channels on the platform, showing him make of Dhar Mann's videos. Dhar Mann then goes on to say how he also gets hundred s of videos criticizing him and thousands of comments making fun of him all the time. But the lesson he's learned from it all is to only focus on the ones that love, not the ones that hate you because you can't make everyone happy. Ayden, understanding this lesson, then decides he's going to make a new vlog about mean comments, sharing his experience with his fans.
He, alongside the other kid actors open up about their painful experiences with criticism and those videos grow in popularity, eventually leading to him getting over 2million subscribers. A few months later, Ayden finds the same two guys that belittled him making fun of Sofia, another child actor at Dhar Mann studios and the videos she was in. Ayden finally stands up to them, telling them that he hit 3 million subs and that for people that dislike their videos, that they sure do watch a lot of them. (Where have I heard that before?) This shoos them off, and Sofi expresses how more and more people have been making fun of her online. In response, Ayden gives the beautiful lesson taht he learned: that you should only focus on the ones that love you, not the ones that hate you.
Even the people in this video were actually haters, I feel as though the message that only focusing on the ones that love might be problematic. This statement saying to only focus on the ones that love you implies that you should only listen to the praise the people give, and the ones that don't praise it or give feedback ae haters. Now, I'm not saying there aren't any haters out there, but not everyone who criticizes you is 1) trying to be mean and 2) does like your content. By saying that those who criticize are haters, it's like saying that they don't actually care about your success and only want to see you fail. But by receiving constructive criticism, it allows for the person to see what they need to work on in order to improve.
When I'm in school and were doing like an art project, the class gives grows and grows. The grows are criticism or feedback about what parts of your work need more tweaking. It doesn't mean the person does agree with the work or doesn't like it, it just means that found a part in you work that was either faulty, had mistaken or has weak points. If anything, the ones that criticize you actually are the ones that might care the most, because the ones that are willing to be honest about whether or not the quality of your work is actually good will help be able to reach your full potential and actually grow from your mistakes. This is where the problem begins with this video. This video, in my opinion, shows that Dhar Mann can't handle ANY criticism, even if it's by people who genuinely want to see the work improve and care about the content. Instead of taking these criticisms into consideration, it ignored in favor pf trying to eb less "cringey" and not addressing the main issue brought up about the videos, which is mainly the black-and-white morality and lack of realism in the execution of the lessons.
In the video, Dhar Mann made it seem as though PewDiePie was just belittling and bashing his video, but if you watch the whole video, while there is goofing around and some teasing, they do bring up valid points about the video itself. Here's the link if you want to see for yourself: (1) Being Shy is a Superpower.. - Dharr Man React - YouTube
All in all, this video proves that the characters themselves, as well as Dhar Mann can't handle criticism, and that they should only look for praise from their work. This message can lead to toxic thinking in which the person themselves will become complacent as no one will ever tell them that what they're doing may be wrong or that they're making mistakes; the person will also become hypersensitive to anyone that tells them what they don't want to hear instead of what they need to hear. Instead, the video should be to ignore the haters, but also be willing to open to feedback that might be valid with improve your skills. If constructive criticism is painful for you, then may be the type of work you're doing isn't for you.
Sorry, this went on a long rant, but I just felt as though this needed to be said. Again, this is just my opinion and how I interpreted the video. If you (completely) enjoyed the video and understood the lesson, then you don't worry about this post.