Silent But Deadly🥀

Sit up straight

Walk confidently

Speak slowly and don’t use slang, incorporate new vocabulary.

Think before you speak. Is that TMI? Is that negative? Words are powerful, use them wisely

When someone gives you a compliment, always accept it with a “thank you” even if you disagree

Compliment strangers

Drink a cup of warm water when you wake. It has the same effect as lemon water but it’s better for your teeth

Aim to drink 2L of water a day.

If you drink 30 min before your meal you will eat less. Don’t drink any liquids while you eat or until 30 min after your meal, it’s better for your digestion

Want a flat stomach? Don’t eat anything 4 hours before bed and only eat the size of your fist in carbs per day

Practice mindfulness, notice when your mind wanders and bring your attention back to the present

Meditate 5 min every morning or in bed at night

Charge your phone in the living room at night so you’re not tempted to look at it before bed or first thing in the morning. Plus, you’ll have to get up to turn the alarm off so you won’t snooze

Make your bed every morning

Clutter is mentally toxic, keep only what you need and keep it tidy

Aim to only clean your home for 5 minutes a day. You’ll probably end up doing more. This trick works for anything you don’t want to do

When shopping, don’t buy things the same day. If you still want them after a few days, go back

Always do your best. Always

Forget motivation. Count from 5 to 1 if you need to do something you don’t want to. It tricks your brain. You can also focus on how you’ll feel once you’ve completed the task instead of thinking of the task itself.

Buy fresh flowers for your home.

Pamper yourself. You can do it yourself at home

Get massages. You can get Groupons

Always have manicured nails and toes. Sèche Vite top coat is a must!

Buy nice pyjamas and lounge wear. Look good for yourself.

Listen to classical music when you study and when you clean your home

Listen to music when you drive. While others will be road raging, you’ll be too busy vibing to notice

Use the 50/30/20 rule for your finances. 50% on living expenses, 30% on entertainment and shopping and 20% in savings

Take advantage of banks offering money to open new accounts

Have an emergency fund: 3-6 months worth of living expenses in a high interest savings account

Celebrate every time you get money whether it’s in interest, pay checks or even money you find on the floor. You can just do a little dance. You’ll attract more wealth.

Leave money around your house. It will be a reminder that money is abundant.

Watch only 1h of TV a day and no reality TV

Don’t read gossip magazines/blogs.

Get a library card and read at least one book a month.

Cut out toxic people. If you can’t, try not to be around them as much

Socialize with loved ones a bit everyday even if it’s just a phone call. It’s good for morale

Treat everyone with respect. If someone disrespects you, know that it’s got nothing to do with you and everything to do with them and don’t get caught up in it, keep your composure, you’re better than that

Take up a hobby or two, you’ll be a more interesting, well-rounded person

Listen to podcasts

EYELASHES

Voluminous, long lashes can easily take someone from a 5 to a 10. There are a few ways to go about this:

Practice good eyelash hygiene. Treat your lashes like a silk garment. Use a proper mascara remover and don't rub your eyes harshly.

Lengthen your lashes. Castor oil, or any serum with prostaglandins and peptides will work.

Lash lifts / tints. This could be too harsh if you have sensitive eyes / very sparse eyelashes. But it is great for people who do not want to look like they are wearing makeup.

Extensions. This is the easiest way to achieve pretty fluttery lashes but it is also the most expensive and harsh option. (Just don't get super thick lashes or you will look cheap imo.)

EYEBROWS

I am going to be honest here, a lot of girls have bad eyebrows. But they're a very important part of your persona! Try to imagine Beyonce with huge bushy eyebrows, or Saweetie with sparse, tiny eyebrows. That wouldn't suit either of them!

Find the right shape for you. You might find that you look prettier with eyebrows that are farther apart/closer together or maybe with a higher arch. Ask a friend if you have no clue.

Microblading. This is an option for those who have overplucked or have a hard time keeping the shape they want.

Brow tinting. Literally just take a hair dye and put it on your eyebrows.

SKINCARE

If you want to never wear foundation and concealer again, you need to take care of your skin. Even, poreless skin dont come easily (for most)!

Use products that actually suit your needs. Look for ingredients high in linoleic or oleic acid, depending on your skin type. Avoid products with silicones / are comedogenic. Use a ph balanced cleanser (!!!).

Diet and exercise. Your skin is a reflection of your overall health. If you are breaking out, thats your body flushing the toxins out through your skin. This is why eating healthily and drinking water is important. Figure out if you have any vitamin deficiencies. Take care of your body and your skin will reflect!

Maintain a sleep schedule. Sleep is essential for good oxygen and blood flow aswell as reducing stress- meaning getting enough sleep on time will drastically reduce your dark circles and the puffiness around your eyes.

Lip Tint. I dont know about you but I personally like having some color in my face. I use a red tinted chapstick (from burts bees) every morning, even if I dont wear makeup. Permanent lip tattooing is also an option!

Self Tan. Yes, I am a woman of colour and yes I use self tan! You dont need to actually go darker than your natural skin color. I use it to smooth out my skin and enhance my glow year-round.

BODY & FACIAL FEATURES

Sometimes our nose or face shape etc don't match the rest of our face and the person we want to identify as. Plus, your face is not the only thing that contributes to your overall aura. Keeping up with your natural beauty stretches far over to the rest of your body too.

Plastic Surgery. Obviously this is the easiest route (if you can afford it). Theres nothing wrong with looking exactly how you want to look! Be honest with yourself about what you could benefit from, but DO NOT DO IT IF YOU DONT NEED IT. Kim K was a natural beauty before she overspent on surgeries. Before you pull the trigger, consult with a surgeon or friend you trust to get a second opinion without them being judgy.

Weight Gain / Loss. (TW: EATING DISORDERS) This can also improve or decrease your beauty depending on the person. Adele was gorgeous even before she lost the weight but that might not be the case for other people. Losing facial fat can bring out your cheekbones and jawline but losing too much weight will make you go in the other direction. My friends mom used to be anorexic, her face looked dull and hollow and she looks way prettier now that shes recovered and is at a healthy weight. My grandma feels more motivated to keep up with her beauty now that she has lost weight and is committed to eating better. Looking HEALTHY is the goal.

Always Smell Clean! I like natives body wash for everyday because it has good ingredients and its ph balanced, also I suggest using unscented so that the fragrance doesnt clash with your perfume (unless it matches). I recommend looking for body mists/hair mists that match your perfume too.

DETAILS

Eye Colour. You might feel compelled to wear contact lenses daily to change your eye colour but if you do, make sure they are hydrogel! I have lenses with subtle gold glitter in them that I adore and look stunning in the sunlight. I also recommend getting ones with a smaller diamater to make them look natural.

Nails. Unless you like extremely long acrylics I think everyone should grow out their natural nails! I used to be a chronic nail biter but one day I decided to commit to taking care of them and I feel so much more confident. Sheer pink polish is perfect and feminine for everyday (Essie hi maintenance, Chanel ballerina, etc. There are many swatch videos on youtube if you cant decide). ALWAYS use a base coat so they dont turn yellow.

Teeth. Having yellow/grimey teeth instantly makes you unattractive so keep them whitened and clean! Mewing might help straighten out your jaw and teeth if they're crooked too.

Hairline. This sounds random but seriously, filling in your hairline with hair dye/root tint or trimming it into place can make a huge difference. For instance, I used to think I had a pear shaped face but I realized my hairline was just growing in too close to my eyebrows. Use a peachfuzz facial razor to fix it. You can also trim back the sides of your cheekbones a little bit to give the illusion of them being higher/wider.