Poppytwat

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"I cannot tell you the complete, fundamental shift that I have felt in the year since having surgery. I knew that I wanted top surgery for a decade; it's the longest I've ever thought about doing anything. The place where I went, I had that clinic's website open on my laptop for five years. It was this impossible mountain: I want that, but I'm never gonna get it. No one's gonna let me, blah, blah, blah. To have that be in the past now... I stand differently, I walk differently, I carry myself differently. It feels different in my body than it ever has. I have just never been happier. I've never been more centered. I've never felt more stable and present and alive. It's the best thing I've ever done for myself. It’s taught me a lot. The recovery process taught me about rest, accepting help, and caring for my body as something connected to me rather than separate from me, that I’m in opposition to: This is mine and I want to take care of it. I feel good in it and good about it. Part of cis people's fear around gender-affirming surgery is the fear of surgery at all — 'Oh, my God, but that's painful and scary!' My reaction to that is, 'No, no, you misunderstood. It was painful before. Your worry has kicked in at the wrong time. The right time to be concerned was about the pain I was in before this. I'm great now.' Everybody else's concern for me has been on a delay. There's no need to be concerned anymore. That's so freeing."

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- but what about cis men (if a cis man feels a connection to lesbianism he’s probably not a cis man)

- they’re invalidating themselves (do u think trans men are stupid)

- lesbian is nonmen loving nonmen (literally a tumblr definition from like 2014)

- trans MASCS can but not trans MEN (there is no objective line between man and masc)

- trans men are just trying to invade lesbian spaces!!!!!!!!! (terf)

- why can’t they just identify as straight (relationship dynamic is different with straight women than it is with queer women)