How To Interact With Pro Ana in the Coquette Tag
Pro anorexia, pro bulimia, and pro disordered eating can be advocated for in different ways, whether it's photos, text, videos, or gifs. Not only does this sort of self harm glorification have no place in the coquette tag and has nothing to do with the community, it also encourages people to hurt themselves in terrible ways and for prolonged periods of time. But there are ways to intervene if you're willing to do so!
First, determine if the content tagged coquette is actually pro anorexia. The easiest way to do that would be to look at the tags! Content tagged with thinspo, pro ed, nothing taste as good as skinny feels, bonespo, skeletonspo, not pro just using the tag, UGW, a moment on the lips a lifetime on the hips, sweetspo, meanspo, body check, restrictive ed, and any variant of the word anorexic and bulimic (4n0rexic, anorex!c, anarexic, anorexik, bolimia, bul1m1a, bulimi@, 8ulimia, etc) they're all examples of pro ana tags that are immediately obvious. If content has multiple of those tags then it's absolutely pro ed material, regardless if op tags that they're only pro anorexic for themselves. If they're looking to inspire people to be anorexic or inspire them with anorexia then they aren't pro ONLY for themselves.
Second, once material is identified as pro eating disorder the next thing you can do it write to the poster. You can comment in the replies, reblog with commentary, send op an ask, or write to them in private. All great options with different levels of formality. The best messages to write are always the ones that are polite, compassionate, yet firm. Just let op know that their support for anorexia doesn't belong in the coquette tag. It's a fashion tag afterall and many of use have or are suffering with disordered eating and users who glamorize anorexia are dangerous for the rest of us! A small message letting them know that their content is hurting people WITHOUT name calling, victim blaming, and anger is best. Some of the best interactions I've had with pro ana accounts has ended with them apologizing profusely and promising to post away from the coquette tag! And remember, even though they platform anorexia they're still mentally unwell. You don't have to sugarcoat everything, but it's not required to come at them with full force.
Lastly, report any pro ana content you see. That's definitely the most important part! On Tumblr there's a Report Something Else section. Under that you can report the content under Self Harm. Yup, self harm! Tumblr considers any sort of intentional harm to your personal as "self harm". After you click Self Harm Tumblr will ask you if the user is threatening suicide, answer yes or no accordingly. Then submit the report! (Usually I write in the section asking for my name "Look at their tags", the moderator has to look at your name if you fill it in and that will assure they look at the tags. After you finish submitting the content as self harm go back and report it again as Inappropriate Content. For that you only have to send it once and it'll auto report it. The goal is getting that content removed, but if op is excessively pro anorexia then you can go through their whole account and report any and all pro ed content you see (cool down time may be required in between multiple reports).
Disclaimer: Please recognize that some tags aren't necessarily pro anorexia or are dubious at best. Not everyone tagging their pics as skinny or posting their girlblogging as waif are doing it because they're pro ed. And just because someone is self identified as anorexic doesn't mean that they're content is pro. These are also only recommendations! If interacting with an anorexic person will trigger your eating disorder you can just scroll past. You can also do these steps out of order or omit steps if needed, everyone is different and if you feel like a pro ana mia girl will go off on you you can try to get ahead of it before it happens. Also be prepared to be blocked on site. Just do what you can before that happens and stay safe!
