Love Hotwife Threesomes

Most interesting was the discussion, post-activity, about Maddie, Kyle, and Ben--separately and together as a topic. Started by him asking me about Ben and my experiences with him. Underlying it is a cute, maybe moderate amount, of comparison anxiety. As in, as I've written before, Ben's endowment. Turns out, Colin is more "at ease" (probably not the best phrase but let's go with it) when she's with Kyle. With Ben? "I'm totally ok with it...it's just a little intimidating", he said. Kyle has the same feelings about it. "Tell me honestly", he asked, "I mean, contrast and compare".

Ha. If there's one thing I know about men and their competitive spirit, that's a dangerous, if very honest, question. I told him that yes, of course, Ben's large. Is that the end all? Of course not. Is it nice? Yes...sometimes better to look at than feel, but not always. I know for a fact, having talked at length (pun intended) with Maddie that she enjoys it. Of course I do to. But that's not everything. I told Colin the truth--that if I had my choice and could only choose one other lover, it would be Colin every time. We're old friends. The decade-plus that we've been doing this has built a lot of memories and maybe even more importantly, comfort.

Some days ago she confessed she had an erotic dream “not with me” with a little of fear as I could go mad for that. I just ignored the thing during the day saying there is nothing wrong and that she cannot control certain things. The very same night we were having a stronger than usual sex session, very passionate and in the middle of the action I started asking questions about her dream. She did not understand at the beginning but then I insisted asking for details: how did she feel, how was “him” and what did he do, if it was rough and how many times she climaxed, which position did they do and where did he finish etc. she actually did not remember clearly but followed my game answering most of the questions and the whole thing ended in one of our best performances ever. I feel like for some minutes I teleported us in a virtual hotwife situation and myself in the reclaim process. Damn that was hot!

I don’t know how to explain this, we had no occasion to talk deeply about it later or where this will bring. I follow your blog and some others about the lifestyle and I don’t want this to influence my fantasies more than what is mature to open with her… I mean, I now understand the dynamics and the reasons why the lifestyle exists, she probably does not and I have no clue on how to explain the possibility without shock. I cannot just give her your blog link and ask to read it all from the beginning to “learn” how all develops in an healthy way… any advice is more than welcome!

A devoted italian follower!

What you're describing, from what I hear from people and from our own experience, is very common. It's basically exploring the "hotwife" lifestyle in a very safe and comfortable way. Honestly, that's how my husband and I started exploring it as well. For many couples, it probably ends there. Role-play all you want. It's safe, physically and emotionally. If at some point you want to take it a step further, try other "safe" ways--have her flirt with attractive men, or wear an anklet and see what happens.

To answer your question in the most direct way possible, open communication is best. Tell her you thought it was hot that she was thinking about another man while with you, and that you want to know more about that. Assure her you won't be mad. You're curious and a little turned on by it and need her help to better understand why.

But I also have a question for you--in her dream, who was the man? Someone she knows personally, or someone else like a celebrity or a random?

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However I just have to gush a little bit because my situationship (positive connotation) just came back into town from a work trip and I didn’t even realize how much I missed him!!! We and my nesting partner went and grabbed dinner and chatted and flirted with each other and ahhhhhh. We have a one on one in a few days and I’m really looking forward to it <3

did I say that “I love threesomes”? :))