Seer of Hope

2) any vegetable is better than no vegetable

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I don't want a romantic partner with BM drama. I MIGHT be able to tolerate alot of bullshit, but dealing with the byproduct of a whole other relationship is just a gigantic dub from me. To me, thats a walking talking group of red flags. CoParenting/raising Step kids is not in the cards for me babe.

If he dubs the child for you, that's a tell tale sign he's gonna be a horrible dad for your future kids.

Even if you don't have kids together you'll have to live with the fact that you're in a committed relationship with a bum loser who doesn't take care of his children. Doesnt sound too bad you say? Well, birds of a feather flock together for a reason.

If he does choose to take responsibility for his crotch goblins, you have to be prepared to not be a main priority in his life. Date nights come after his visitation with the kids. Whatever presents he does give you depends on how much money he has left after getting presents for his kids. You will always be a second fiddle to the kids and the woman who he choose to inseminate due to his paternal duties to his kids.

And lets say for whatever reason you decide to get serious with this Dilf. You're on the road to becoming step mother material. Now you have to play maternal figure to children that arent even yours in the first place without overstepping the boundaries of what's considered acceptable discipline. You're probably third or even fourth wheeling how to take care of the crotch goblins with your spouse and the woman who he decided to coparent with (and her spouse).

Are the relations between this Dilf and the baby momma amicable? Do they have drama between them? It doesnt matter because theres already too many damn cooks in the kitchen when it comes to the buns that hypothetically comes outta her oven.

All the while you're risking the danger of falling into the evil step mother trope because the kids dont like you for trying to replace their mom. Or the mother doesn't like you and ropes the kids into not liking you.

Meanwhile you're just there trying to do right by this Dilf and his kids but now you gotta deal with possible behavioral issues, their academics, instilling healthy behaviors by either leading through example or through discipline to kids. That arent. Even. YOURS.

Parenting is already a thankless job, but to parent kids that arent even yours? Gtfo that is cuck shit. Yes, im including this as a reason. Its the Ultimate form of cuckoldry and im not with it.

The fact that the Dilf is deciding to "coparent" with his ex means they're gonna be communicating. FOR-EV-ER. Regardless of how they communicate, they're going to be in each others lives after the break up/divorce because of those ding dong crotch gobilns. And if you wanna be in his life, you gotta accept the fact that he's gonna be talking to his ex. FOR-EV-ER.

and for my tenth and final reason.... The fact that the Dilf is coparenting in the first place means he fucked up when choosing a spouse. Now, im not saying him choosing you in the present is a bad thing. I just think that sometimes we all make mistakes and some mistakes are more permanent then others. And having kids, then turning around and saying "Yanno what? This isn't working out, you simply are not the one, and i gotta express myself and-" BLAH BLAH BLAH....... That's fucked up. He fucked up. He should've used more discernment when choosing who the mother of his future kids are gonna be. And you (and me both) as a child free single woman shouldn't have to put up with that nonsense.

Regardless of how you feel on having kids yourself in the future, if you're childfree, do yourself a favor and dont fuck with Dilfs. Dilfs are the forbidden fruit that only other Dilfs and Milfs can handle.

POV: Your evening plans involve zero screens and thousands of gorgeous Victorian stickers. 📜✨

Started stitching the Milky Way in. Slowly making progress on it as I am hiding the travelling thread so the back will look nice.

Progress on the constellation quilt has come along quite a lot now. Finished the binding on the quilt over the weekend. I prefer to machine stitch the binding to the front then hand stitch the back side. It gives such a nice finish to the quilt. Took the time to measure it also and it ended up being 72" by 72" (183cm by 183cm).

Behold the stars of the constellations of the northern sky! I love how this quilt has turned out. It was a lot of fun to work on and the effect is so cool in person. Overall I would estimate it took about 90-100 hours to complete. Give or take 10 hours if you want to count the time I spent custom dying the fabric.

I made sure to get a nice photo of it in daylight. For once I also remembered to get a quilt label on it. The back really shows the difference in readability of the quilting on the ice dyed fabric compared to the solid front. Thank you everyone that has followed this. I am glad you all found joy in it.

love my pumpkin