phoebe

Four years… that’s incredible. Truly. That kind of commitment to yourself is no small thing, and you should be so proud of the strength and honesty it takes to keep choosing that path every day. I’m really happy for you — it’s beautiful seeing someone grow into themselves like that. My 2026 has been a bit of a slow exhale so far. I have some time on my hands before I'm off and running again.

There’s something so satisfying about finally tackling the watchlist you’ve been pretending doesn’t exist. Fire Country is such a chaotic little surprise, isn’t it? One episode and suddenly you’re emotionally invested in people running into burning buildings for fun. I’ve been trying to be better about my own list too. I keep saying I’m going to watch The Bear properly instead of just absorbing it through memes and people yelling ‘Yes Chef’ at each other.

Totally—sometimes living out of a suitcase is just the path of least resistance. You’ve been everywhere, doing everything, so giving yourself permission to keep it simple is more than fair. Honestly, procrastination feels less like a flaw and more like a survival tactic when you’re juggling that much. If it works for you, it works.

Exactly, it’s not procrastination—it’s prioritizing vibes. Relaxation always wins when the choice is between unpacking and curling up with a glass of wine. Boxes will wait, but self‑care can’t. Besides, half the fun is rediscovering what you packed weeks later like it’s a surprise gift.

That definitely counts! Letting yourself be spoiled is the ultimate birthday vibe—especially when you’re already giving so much of yourself every day. Motherhood is a full‑time celebration in itself, so you deserve the extra love without lifting a finger.

Exactly! It’s all about leaning into the cozy chaos. A little itch is a small price for peak lounge‑life. Snacks are non‑negotiable—holiday calories are basically imaginary anyway! Honestly, the real tradition is embracing indulgence—blankets, movies, and a snack lineup that looks like a grocery haul. Comfort first, rules second. If balance means chips in one hand and chocolate in the other, I’m thriving.

phoebe tonkin for veni magazine.

Hey, you’re allowed to forget your birthday when you’ve got that much going on! Honestly, I think birthdays should be about doing whatever feels easiest anyway. No party planning, no stress — just snacks, cozy blankets, and letting people spoil you. I say lean into the lazy celebration. As for me, I’ve been living in sweatpants and pretending that ordering cake counts as baking.