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Spilling my tea •I reconnected with a childhood friend on Instagram, who herself was married, and told her I was looking to get married. She recommended her brother, whom I already knew of because our families had been friends years ago. Although I remembered him as having a rebellious attitude, I agreed to get to know him since we have both matured (or so I thought). we were both discussing marriage seriously. His mother and grandmother supported the match and even visited my family and indirectly asked about me. His father wasn’t present so it wasn’t official. We went on one date and he was normal but did have mean energy regardless I had a good time. This was my first date with a boy. At one point I caught him smoking on FaceTime after he told me he didn’t smoke. I asked him if he remembered my birth date which he confidently answered wrong. He told me he liked my blue dress on the day he came over but I wore a black dress. Those were minor red flags that I should’ve questioned. My parents were immediately uneasy about him, and after asking around, my father heard nothing but negative things like hard drug use, an overdose hospitalization, and a hate-crime incident that was covered in the news. I found the news article myself with video proof!! When confronted, he dismissed everything as rumors. One morning, I received a call with a number from his state. Of course, it was his girlfriend, shehad been with him the night before. I ended the relationship, realizing that my strong desire for marriage had caused me to rush things and romanticize someone who was not right for me. The entire experience lasted only two and a half months, but it taught me the importance of taking my time, paying attention to red flags, and valuing the insight and research of trusted family members. What advice do you have for me? *I would appreciate if this was deleted within 24 hrs* btw my so called childhood friend and that boy made a bet with each other, if my friend could convince me to talk to him, he would buy her (his sister) loubotin red bottom heels. She KNEW he was a drug abuser with a gf but convinced me still. The whole family is a scam! I cut them alllll off.