The experiences of conventionally attractive people and conventionally unattractive people can be so jarringly different and it really deserves some conversation. But I hate how the only mention of this comes from incels or anti-feminists or other right aligned losers with not an ounce of nuance in their bones lmaooo

Like, your physical attractiveness can shape not just your interpersonal experiences but also real tangible things such as but no limited to whether or not you get a job or being believed as a victim or what kind of roles you can get as an actor or perhaps the length of a sentence or how much help is offered to you in a time of need etc. etc.

i think part of the reason this doesnt get talked about is that people are often more concerned with telling people “oh youre not ugly! everyone is beautiful!” instead of “your worth shouldnt be determined by how conventionally attractive you are” which like. is well intentioned but misses the point entirely. obviously not everyone is conventionally attractive–thats as obvious as the fact that some people look different from other people. the issue is that when someone isnt conventionally attractive, theyre considered lesser for it, which shouldnt be the case!