Venting

Blog Intro

Name: Pastel

Pronouns: She/They

Age: 18+

This blog is my vent blog and I will talk about topics that may be uncomfortable to some. If any of the following is triggering to you, I’d recommend not interacting with this blog and blocking me:

•S//H

•E//D

•Sui Ideation

•Sex work

•Jirai Kei

•Pro-shipping/Dark-Shipping

•and potentially more

so at the con, there was an 18+ little hidden section and out of curiosity we all went in together. we were looking around and i found something called school girl milk or something along those lines and i picked it up out of curiosity because i honestly had no clue what that could even be (it was just sexy school girl themed mini figures). my friend starts going off about how they’re literal children and getting all weird about it. they aren’t even loli figures either, just school girls in uniform. keep in mind this friend’s favorite anime is my dress-up darling, a show with a shit ton of fan service of a 15 year old school girl, a 17 year old loli school girl, and a really busty middle schooler. This friend had been buying tons of merch of Marin from dress-up darling, including suggestive figures of her.

anyway, later we were eating together and we somehow got on the topic of how her and her girlfriend are into roleplay in the bedroom and how the roleplay as like a bully x victim and the victim was like yandere for the bully and like killed her and brought her back to life as like a frankenstein monster type things. that reminded me of a few months ago when we met this couple at the mall and me and a different friend had merch of andy and leyley with us and the girl in the couple was talking to us about it and at one point made a joke about her and her boyfriend looking like andy and leyley. the couple left and my friend turned to me and my other friend and was like “that’s weird. why is a couple comparing themselves to incestuous siblings? like what if they’re roleplay that in the bedroom”. i kinda just moved past it, even though it felt kinda shitty to hear since incest dynamics are sometimes i’m into in roleplay/fiction. but besides that, how are they into roleplaying abuse and necrophilia but they judge incest roleplay, lolis, and schoolgirls (but only sometimes)? i just don’t understand. like i could get if they were just uncomfortable and didn’t want to interact. that’s perfectly reasonable, but why are they so judgmental when people could very easily judge their kinks as well? they’re throwing stones from a glass house.

is there a single fandom that doesn’t have antis whining in your ear about pro-shippers 24/7? like i would think id at least be safe in fandoms that have “problematic” themes in the source material but apparently not.

i swear to god you could have a show titled “loli shota incest: proceed with caution” and there’d be a whole group of “fans” claiming that “i love the show but hate how the fandom is full of pro-shippers :/”

like i hate to break it to you but maybe you just need to find a different show to watch

(*cough cough* tcoaal, danganronpa, lads, nekopara, my dress-up darling, saya no uta, etc. fans *cough cough*)

in what world is age-play worse than actually abusing a child? this might just be the dumbest take i’ve seen on tiktok and i’ve seen a lot of dumb takes. once again, antis don’t actually care about victims, just their own subjective discomfort.

it is shocking the amount of people that consider it progressive to be blatantly racist and xenophobic. like so many people forget that you can criticize a government without taking it out on innocent people from that country.

yes, israel has committed war crimes. that doesn’t make it okay to say “all jews are zionist” or “any civilian casualties on israel’s side is good actually”. at this point, so many people hate israel more than they care about palestine.

yes, japan still hasn’t issued a proper apology for their atrocities during ww2 and they do have systemic problems with brushing SA under the rug. That doesn’t mean it’s okay to say “liking anything japanese makes you a bad person” or “all japanese people are pedophiles”.

and a lot of these things people criticize other countries for, are things that apply to their own country too. yet it’s frames completely differently. using america as an example: “korea has a toxic celebrity culture and beauty standard” so does america (and most the world for that matter). “japan has such high rates of CSA” so does america, even counting for the estimated unreported cases of both countries. “israel is committing war crimes” america is helping israel commit those crimes.

all of those things are worth criticizing but it crosses the line of criticism into outright hatred when someone starts generalizing civilians for the government’s actions. other countries aren’t monoliths. There are some that agree with their government some that disagree like every other place in the world. if it’s unfair to say “all americans and pedophilic war criminals who all deserve to die” because of the actions trump is doing, then don’t say that about citizens of other countries. if you don’t agree with every single decision your government makes, then you can’t stereotype everyone from another country as supporting every decision their government makes.

i feel like a lot of anti’s normalize harmful behavior irl. coming from a former anti-shipper, there were so many antis like still liked taboo fiction but tried to justify it. i saw so many instances of people, instead of just saying “hey i like this in fiction but don’t condone it irl” would try to make it seem like what they liked wasn’t actually problematic at all.

for example, antis that would read dub-con and justify it by saying it wasn’t actually dub-con at all and there was clearly consent there even if one of the characters was drunk or being coerced or something. another example i remember is when one of my former friends tried to say that because both characters in killing stalking were toxic, that they were equally abusive to each other so there wasn’t a power imbalance so that makes yoon bum and sangwoo actually not abusive at all.

i just find it a bit odd that some people think it’s somehow better to justify that these things are okay in real life instead of just saying they like it in fiction only.

ranking my favorite darkships from least to most liked because im bored

(not including my selfships)

parasocial relationships aren’t inherently bad!!

yes, it can easily turn toxic but people act like all parasocial relationships are just the obsessive, borderline stalker fans that don’t respect boundaries and think they’re actually gonna marry their favorite celebrity when that’s not actually what parasocial means. parasocial relationships can actually be very healthy.

for example, when i’m having a rough day i might think to myself “if (insert fictional character) was here, they’d support me and help me get through this” and it helps me to destress when i imagine it. that’s a type of parasocial relationship but it’s not harmful. if you’re watching a streamer, celebrity, youtuber, etc and seeing them happy and making jokes makes you happy, then that’s parasocial but not toxic.

there are certain hobbies, like yumeshipping and oshikatsu, that get a bad-rep for being parasocial because people assume any parasocial relationship is inherently unhealthy. in reality, if you have any person or character that you’re a fan of, that you don’t know irl, you’re parasocial. it’s normal and even expected to a degree to have a few parasocial relationships. as long as you aren’t crossing someone’s boundaries or prioritizing parasocial relationships over real relationships, it’s not a problem.