||Pågāŋ▪︎M¡ņđ||

The external is only meant to reveal the internal.

Pretty much everytime I get a compliment. My good traits feel more like a burden these days.

Light thrives in the dark

I'm a solitary pagan. I've been digging into psychology to understand why some people have no or just one or two friends? Psychology says it's not because they're unlikeable. It's because their mind works differently and that creates a gap between them and the social world, a gap most people misunderstand. If you've ever walked through life alone, Psychology says there are deeper reasons behind it, reasons that have nothing to do with failure. One, they have a deeper standard for connection. People with no friends usually aren't avoiding relationships. They're avoiding shallow relationships. Psychology shows that deep thinkers prefer quality over quantity. They can't tolerate small talk, empty conversations or friendships built on convenience. They want truth, depth and alignment. So, instead of forcing connections that feel fake, they stay alone until something real shows up. It's not avoidance, it's emotional precision. Two, their brain needs more recovery time. Some people naturally have a more sensitive nervous system that means social interaction drains them faster. Psychology calls this high social sensitivity. While most people recharge around others, they recharge in silence. After socializing, their mind needs longer breaks to reset. It's not that they dislike people, it's that their brain burns more energy processing them. Three, they're more self sufficient than the average person. People with no friends don't depend on external validation to feel okay. Psychology calls this low social dependency. They can entertain themselves, solve problems alone and regulate emotions internally. They don't need a group to feel grounded. They create their own world inside their own mind, and often they're happier alone than people expect. Four, Their past experiences shaped their trust threshold. Many people who walk alone share one thing, a past experience that made them cautious. Maybe it was betrayal, maybe childhood neglect, maybe years of being around the wrong people. Psychology shows that once trust is broken, the brain becomes selective, protective, slow to open up, not because they don't want connection, but because they've learned how much it costs when the wrong person gets in. Five, they have a deeper inner world. Psychologists say people who spend long periods alone often have richer imagination, stronger intuition, sharper clarity and deeper self awareness. They think more, observe more, feel more. This depth can make regular social circles feel unrelatable, while others enjoy surface level conversations. Their mind lives in the layers underneath. They're not distant, they're just operating at a different level of consciousness. So if you have no friends or very few, psychology says it doesn't mean something is wrong with you. It might mean your mind works differently with more awareness, more sensitivity, more depth and higher standards. It means you don't want noise, you want connection. You don't want crowds. You want resonance, and sometimes the minds that think the deepest walk alone the longest.

I know it's not a real photograph but it's funny 🙂

The right way isn't always the easy path.

That's a good one!