It is 2010, Anime Expo just passed, and I’m a wreck. Post Con Depression was hitting me hard and all I could do was lay on my couch while listening to copious amounts of The Pillows to get me through my day. The only thing I wanted was to return to Anime Expo but a reality was slowly sinking in which I just had to reluctantly accept. Con was over.
After an anime convention there are the inevitable stages that follow once it comes to a close. The first stage is hibernation, the deep feeling of exhaustion where even the idea of eating food is too daunting and the only thing your body needs is sleep. This stage can go on for a few days. Luckily this year my hibernation only lasted for one day, but my Tuesday after Anime Expo 2014 was a blur of naps and snacks. Another stage might be thrown in depending on whether or not you caught Con Plague. The illness that comes from pushing your body and immune system to the brink where it fails to fight off the onslaught of new germs from the thousands of other attendees. I count myself as one of the fortunate ones to not have caught anything. Thank you Vitamin C gummies!
Once your body has recuperated from the non-stop marathon of Con you eventually come to a point where you can’t help but feel devastated that this event which you’ve waited for all year, has ended. This stage is called Post Con Depression (PCD). You just had four or more days of catching up with old friends, making new friends, having in-depth conversations about very niche subjects, and people wanting to take a picture of you. It is an amazing and magical time but it does eventually end and that heightened state of elation tapers off and all you are left with is the feeling of being drained. But PCD is more than just physical exhaustion, it also has to deal with the fact that we must face the harshness of reality once again. For some people that means returning to work, or school, and yet for others it means returning to being alone.
According to Psychology Today, one of the best ways to fight depression is to not isolate yourself from others. This, for many of us Con goers, is difficult. Anime conventions are the few times of the year we actually get to not be isolated. We wait and prepare all year long for Con, counting the days till we get to be with our Con friends – the people with whom we can truly be ourselves. But the moment Con ends, it feels like we have been ripped away not only from the people we care about but also from our safe place.
Isolation is a definite problem in our anime community, but I want to remind those going through PCD right now, we are a community. We need to stop building our walls back up after a convention just because society is telling us to. It is time that we stay as vulnerable and confident as we were at Con, even after Con. Reach out to your Con friends (I know you all facebook friended each other or exchanged avatar names). If your Con friends live nearby, get them together, even the ones who don’t know each other, and have a night of food, fun, and anime. Talk about your Con memories but also get excited about the next Con together. Is your friend far away? Skype and plan a cosplay that you both can work on and wear together at the next Con.
Let’s face it, Post Con Depression sucks! It’s going to happen, but we don’t have to let it take over our lives. Our community needn’t only exist at Cons. For all of us who miss our anime community, make an effort and reach out. It will make things so much better. For all of you that don’t go to Cons or knows someone who just went to Con, keep this in mind; be kind and supportive. These stages happen to everyone so if someone is in hibernation, just let them get their sleep. They need it. PCD is very real and, for some, very difficult. It is something you can only truly understand once you experience it. But even if you don’t understand the exact feeling, it helps to know that we are accepted outside of Con life. The harsh blow of reality can be made less abrasive if those around us can create an inviting environment we want to come back to rather than something to fear.