Gender?Sometimes

(*Je sais que ce résultat est sujet à controverse du fait de la nette influence des tumblrinas non-francophones sur ce dernier vote, mais à moins que vous n'insistiez, je n'ai pas l'intention de faire un rematch)

I think part of what is making young people lonelier, in discussing why they're increasingly isolated, is that they're so afraid of meeting someone who doesn't hold their same beliefs, and instead of being just core beliefs it is kinda ancillary shit.

It's actually okay to disagree even on social topics! Even on some political ones! But I mean, online you can start with "i love this mutual but they have a really bad/uninformed opinion about x media"

I know this is IMMEDIATELY going to be taken in bad faith, and yes babygirl, you are so right, I DO want you to go make best friends with both the KKK grand wizard AND your nearest nazi leader.

But seriously, as someone who has spent two decades doing community organization: finding ways to connect with different people is so so so important. There are people i follow here who ate 80% smart and their brain falls out of their head 20% of the time and that is GOOD FOR MY MENTAL ECOSYSTEM AND GOOD FOR LEARNING HOW TO BE A PERSON

Why is the first thing so many people think to bring up to insult him "he was FAT and DISABLED EWWW!"

Like they'll be talking about his constant repeating leg ulcers and infections and the fact that he was "rotting alive from the inside out". They will talk about the fact that he suffered from mobility issues and required pulleys and assistance to get himself out of bed. They will talk about his smell and his weight in the context of how awful it must have been for his wives to sleep with him.

But if you dare say "hey, I agree he was an awful person but the rhetoric here is a bit ableist, don't you think?" suddenly no one knows what you're talking about and why you're "bringing up disabilities all of a sudden".

But the thing is I don't like doing that because ultimately this isn't really about Henry VIII for me?? I don't think fat and disabled people should need to have terrifying sports injuries to justify their own bodies. Even if they are just disabled purely because they're fat, and fat purely because they eat too much and don't exercise enough, they shouldn't have their fatness and their disability connected to their morality, or lack thereof.

Why is the first thing so many people think to bring up to insult him "he was FAT and DISABLED EWWW!"

Like they'll be talking about his constant repeating leg ulcers and infections and the fact that he was "rotting alive from the inside out". They will talk about the fact that he suffered from mobility issues and required pulleys and assistance to get himself out of bed. They will talk about his smell and his weight in the context of how awful it must have been for his wives to sleep with him.

But if you dare say "hey, I agree he was an awful person but the rhetoric here is a bit ableist, don't you think?" suddenly no one knows what you're talking about and why you're "bringing up disabilities all of a sudden".

Why is the first thing so many people think to bring up to insult him "he was FAT and DISABLED EWWW!"