Everyone likes to receive gifts. Well mostly, and even if you donât like the gift, itâs the thought that counts right? So, going on that premise: if someone gives you a fragrance free gift, then obviously, there has been a lot of thought put behind it. Perhaps, even some desperation, prayers, tears, anxiety, and even, some pleading to the deities above, in the hope that youâll use the fragrance free products rather than the usual product the gift bearer has complained causes them painful symptoms? Yes? Cause everyone likes to receive gifts⌠Right?
This year, selfishly, thatâs all I gave out: baskets and baskets of fragrance free products. Take a look:
(I also bought a couple of Paleo cookbooks for the healthy ones amongst us. Oh, and a dinky-dy beginnerâs drum kit for my daughter, whichâeven though itâs out in the garageâmy ears are now paying an additional price for.)
My reasoning went like this: The more disrespectful the person, the more fragrance products they gas me with, the more conversations Iâve had to plan out, and then execute with military precision (All in the name of breathing and socialising at the same time!), the more that person has hurt my feelings while wearing a product thatâs made me sick (sometimes for days) when attending family events, well then, the more presents they received in their gift basket âĽ
Getting relatives who have a hard time understanding about chemical sensitivities to go fragrance free is one of the hardest things Iâve had to do. Ever. Getting a whole class of students I barely know, has been, at times, easier (with the support of teaching staff, who help set up the FF culture to begin with). So, when I blogged a couple of weeks ago about 20 Ways to a Fragrance Free Christmas, this was from my heart: trust me, itâs something Iâm really good at; cause I know my shit when it comes to this issue! (So, watch out for the specialised post: âHow to Get a Relative to Go Fragrance Freeâ, coming to your inboxes soon.)
And you know what? Christmas was a success⌠It was outside. It was fragrance free: Two relatives wore clothes I had washed previously for them; two others who I (and others) usually have to plead with to get it right, actually did (Out of respect for my boyfriend Iâm sure. But, hey? Who cares? So long as they didnât make me ill!) and the rest did it naturally because, bless their human souls, they understand: this is how it is for me.
So, Iâm happy to share this success with you. But Iâll also share this: the weeks leading up to it were filled with worry, and peace eating anxiety. And, perhaps, just maybe, I wrote that post to fill myself with the type of bravado that I donât think is in my genetic make-up (really, I think itâs something I have to fake); or, perhaps, that hair cut, I finally got around to having, added some spunk to my walk and talk, enabling me to just get things done? Really though, itâs probably none of those things thatâs led me to becoming an expert at getting others to go fragrance free; itâs all the failures that Iâve experienced while trying to get them to go fragrance free in the first place that has created this for me. Fear of pain is my motivator! (And there is no turning back now. Fragrance Activist, anyone?)
Coming up. âHow to Have a Fragrance Free Birthday Party!â (*That should be fun.*)
Making my way through the vast array of humanâs sensibilities can be like making my way through a labyrinthâand, Iâm pretty sure itâs not even the way out of here, just clearing the air amongst its tunnels, making it easier on myself (and maybe the next person they meet who suffers with this affliction!) to find the bloody way out of hereâŚ
Have you had to get anyone to go fragrance free lately? How did you go with it? If youâre not sensitive to fragrance, would you go fragrance free if someone asked you to (even if it was for a relative who you donât really like or admire much)?
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Birthday Parties: How to Have a Fragrance Free Birthday Party
Fragrance Free Gift Baskets Everyone likes to receive gifts. Well mostly, and even if you don't like the gift, it's the thought that counts right?
