@iam-the-wild i think your heart is in the right place, but that youâre really missing the point
Youâre looking at this from a perspective of pro-choice reproductive rights on the womenâs part, which is good in general but is not the actual problem weâre discussing with surrogacy
Itâs not choosing to be a surrogate thatâs wrong, those women are either desperate or trying to do something kind. itâs the intent to pay another human being to rent their reproductive capacity that is wrong - no one needs a child that is biologically theirs, and only people with a slave owner mentality think its their right to buy one
Surrogacy is not a right or freedom that needs to be protected, itâs an act of reproductive and economic exploitation, and even when it is a choice freely made and compensated for (which it very often is not, in many places it is coerced or even forced, and it is always underpaid) the women involved face a tremendous physical risk to their bodies and their lives
Pregnancy is a nine month long 24/7 full body experience that is one of the most dangerous things you can do. Maternal mortality rights are on the rise and higher now than theyâve been in decades. There is always the very real chance of disability or death for women who carry to term, no matter how slim
With the harm it can cause in mind, much like the nordic model that criminalizes buying sex but not selling it, surrogacy should absolutely be harshly restricted. You shouldnât be able to legally inflict the harm of pregnancy on a person for money, and it should be a crime to try and do so. Consent canât be meaningfully purchased.
And I think your argument really falls apart even more in the second half
Because Iâm not by any means saying women arenât smart enough or capable enough to be able to make the choice to be surrogates. Iâm saying those choices are not made in a vacuum, and are rarely as truly voluntary as they would like you to believe. People knowingly make decisions against their best interests and well being every single day. We restrict things that cause great harm not because we think people are too stupid to know better, but to protect them from people who donât care about their safety. This is basics of society level stuff, laws and order and public health and welfare.
Anyone who wants to can make the choice to do hardcore party drugs or drink and drive or do target practice in your back yard, but those things are illegal because they can literally kill you.
Furthermore Itâs illegal to buy someoneâs organs on the black market, even if you really need a kidney and theyâre willing to sell you one. Itâs also illegal to keep someone as a slave and not pay them for their work, even if they donât seem to mind it and wouldnât try to escape. Itâs illegal to sell crack to addicts, even if they feel like they need it more than anything.
If women really want to make money off of their reproductive capacity, im sure there are still many places in the world where they would be able to do so and people would be willing to look the other way to purchase a child, no matter how unethical and harmful it would be to both the mother and the baby.
No matter where you go there are always people willing to hurt women for money