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Intro:

During this program your little will go from being gently exposed to diapers to wearing them 24/7 and becoming dependent on always being in a diaper. By the end of the program your little will prefer being diapered over using regular adult undies as they will realize they will require a diaper to prevent embarrassing situations and enjoy the benefits that will come with being diapered all the time.

This program will work if using a caregiver or if self care is going to be used. You should also decide if your little will eventually use their diaper for both #1 and #2's or just #1's. If you are opting for #1's only your little will continue to use the toilet as needed for #2's.

Make sure both the caregiver and little have the same desired outcomes and know what to expect from the training program. Once diaper dependence is established it is almost impossible to regain 100% control of ones body functions again, diapers are going to become a necessary daily item for your little as the progam appraches completion.

I followed the program for 4 weeks solo and found myself bearly able to hold my pee after almost a month. I would find myself accidently start to dribble for several weeks after stopping and several times ended up with a spot on my pants. I wore a thin diaper for several weeks as I basically worked and strengthening my bladder again. One day I may return to the program and try for completion. For now I perfer bursts of wearing as desired.

Within a short time of completing the diaper training program and sticking with the new lifestyle for a while your little is likely to find that they may never be able to ever go without wearing a diapers again. Embarrassing accidents could happen at anytime when you train yourself to completely become dependent on diapers. A supply of quality diapers may have to be kept on hand at all times. If your caregiver goals and your little's goals aline after considering the potential permanent outcomes of the training program then it is safe to continue and begin the training program and continue to your desired level of dependence desired or go all the way to full dependence if you desire.

Each phase of the program has a recommended length of time recommended before moving to the next phase. If by the recommended phase periods your little has not quite met their goals it will be necessary to double the time period in each phase. Doing so will only increase the chance of continued success in the desired outcomes.

Once your little moves to the next phase they are not alloud to return to a previous phase. You little should be guided to embracing their new selves.

Sometimes it is nice to include a reward for your little such as a self masterbation session after the first diaper use and then at the successful completion of each training phase. Since they will be using a diaper daily by the end of this program your little should have something to look forward to and encourage them to stick with the program.

Phase 1: Exposure: 1 Week

This is the first step in exposing your little to the diaper training program. This is the first and most gentle step.

During this time your goal is to introduce your little to the feeling of a diaper, but not so much as to make them miserable and turn them away from the training.

During this phase it is recommended that you require you little to put on their new diaper at bedtime and wear it only until they wake up. A good time period to use is 10pm until your little wakes up. This will usually give a full 8-10 hours of wearing a diaper. Your little can still be alloud to use the potty as desired as long as they put the diaper right back on after doing so.

At this point in the program if you little does not use their diaper it is perfectly fine. The only purpose of this phase is to exposure you little to the new feeling of having something between their legs at night.

At first your little may have trouble falling asleep while wearing their diaper, but if consistantly repeated night by the last few days of the week your little should be able to sleep through the night. Your littles body will get used to the new feeling as they sleep. If by the end of the week your little is still not able to sleep through the night the duration of phase one can be extended another full week.

Once your little is sleeping through the night it is time to move onto phase 2. Remember though; once your little moves to the next phase under no circumstance can you go back a step in the program. Doing so will only slow down if not prevent the desired outcome you are hoping for.

Phase 2: Extra Time: 1 week

Your little is now ready to move to the next phase at this point in the program. Phase 2 is about extending the time spent in their new diapers and getting used to the feeling, look and sound of their new diapers.

During phase 2a it is recomended that your little consistantly wear their diaper from 6pm until the following morning. During this second week it is still ok if your little is not using their diaper, but that will soon change.

Also during this first week of phase 2a it is important that you not allow your little to wear anything at home to hide their diaper. Consistantly being able to see what they are now wearing will slowly normalize your little to the soon to be new them and help them build confidence with their new look.

Phase 2b: Starting to use: 1 Week

During this week you will continue with the steps above from phase 2a while adding one additional requirement. In order to be able to remove the diaper it must be used. This means that if your little goes the full night without using their diaper they are to remain diapered into the next morning until it has be used for at least a wetting.

Phase 2b's goal is to get your little semi comfortable with wetting in their diaper and becoming familiar with the feeling of wet diaper.

If the phase is completed correctly after the week of phase 2b your little will be ready to move to the next step. However, if necessary the duration can be extended an extra week. To help with encouraging use of their diaper you can always have your little drink a couple glasses of water before going to bed. By morning they will have no choice, but to use their diaper. This phase will also exposure your level to the protection level of their diaper. By the end of this phase your little will be able to trust their diaper for any wetting need and you will begin to remove the fear of leaks for your little.

Phase 3a: 1 week: All day wearing with exceptions.

Once you have made it to this part of the program your little should be becoming significantly more comfortable with the soon to be new them.

During this 1 week period it is required that your little wear a diaper from the moment they wake up in the morning until the next morning.

At this point your little will become used to using their diaper and be familiar with the wet feeling of a used diaper. During this phase of the program the care giver is required to start providing changes for their little. You should also order at least three types of diapers for your little to test what they like to wear.

The only time a diaper is not required at this time is when going to work, a doctors apointment or a family gathering. When running errands you little needs to be consistantly diapered.

In this phase you are showing your little that usually noone will notice anything about what your little is wearing. Even if someone knows they are wearing a diaper they will be a completely stranger making no impact on their personal lives.

Phase 3b: 1 week: Time for work

During this part of the program you are slowly pushing your little boundaries to continue showing them everything is fine. Your little is now required to continue everything from phase 3a, but now they are going to be wearing to work. To help in this phase your little may feel better wearing a onesie. This will help conceal their diaper while also holding it in place if used to help prevent leaks.

By the end of this week your little should be returning home wet and needing to be changed. If not coming home wet extend the period for an additional week until the desired results start to happen.

For doctors apointments and family events you may want to provide an alternative to their perferred diaper such as a pull up or thinner diaper as confidence continues to build.

Phase 4a: Becoming comfortable 1 week.

At this step your little has been wearing at least daily for over a month and at least wetting their diaper for a couple of weeks now. They should be more comfortable with their new look and comfortable with depending on their diaper to protect them from leaks. You will now destroy a remaining pair of underwear since they are almost no longer needed at all except for a doctors apointment.

During this time your little will be wearing a diaper for family events. The only time your little is not diapered will be at a doctors apointment. By the end of this week your little should be comfortable with their new self.

Phase 4b: 1 Week

At this time you will destory one of the two remaining pairs of underwear leaveing only one pair for a possible doctors apointment. By now you little should be consistantly using their diaper as need for wetting and may start to find themselves having difficulty holding back a wetting.

Everything from phase 4a will continue to apply to your little. If you and your little have decided to use their diaper for both #1 and #2's you will now start to require them to use their diaper for number 2's while quickly providing a change afterwords to promote trust and prevent skin irritations.

To facilitate this step you may want to start giving your little a laxative or two with breakfast. Quickly your little will continue to grow their trust in their diapers since they will be using them for any restroom need now. Start keeping a portable diaper bag when you travel or run errands for the inevitable accidents.

Phase 5a: Final stretch: Full Time

During this final phase your little has now arrived at the point that diaper are to be worn at all times; for everything. Now it is time to destroy the final pair of adult underwear as they will no longer be worn. By now your little may even not notice often if they are even wearing a diaper and may start to not realize they are wetting their diapers. As each following week progresses your little will become completely comfortable with being dependent on their diapers, trusting their caregiver for needed quick changes and oblivious to their diapered status unless needing to be changed.

During Phase 5a it is a good time to have your little help select their preferred diaper that they will continue to use. It is also a good time to have your little try on their clothes over their diaper and anything that will no longer fit correctly or thats makes your little uncomfortable by having to much risk of being discovered be removed from the wardrobe. New pants should cover the diaper well, but not be so tight that a swollen buldge or the diaper outlines not be visable when a change is needed. You little will not be worried about being discovered or even really care if they are.

Phase 5b: From Here On Out

This is the final phase of the diaper training program. Starting this week your little will be diapered full time and be comfortable wearing their diapers for everything. No adult underwear will remain in the home for them to use, only diapers now. From this point forward your little will be completely dependent on using their diapers for anything.

Each week from this point you will notice your little embracing their new self. You little will be consistantly using their diapers for everything and becoming comfortable wearing anywhere they go at all times. They should not notice their diapers by now unless it is significantly dirty and needing to be changed.

As the weeks continue on you should find your little no longer being worried about hidding their diapers as much and starting to dress for comfort. Your little should have lost the fear of being discovered by anyone and even if they are discovered realize that nothing bad is going to happen to them.

This phase of the program will last indefinitely since it will be almost impossible to regain 100% body control again. Your little will now be completely comfortable at anytime wearing a diaper and have no issues with using them as intended as the weeks continue.

Things for your little should continue to improve week after week as they continue to wear their diapers 24/7. You should always have a stock of diapers available now since your little may be approaching incontinence. Your little should notice the benefits of being diapered by now: not having to dash to a restroom, not using dirty public restrooms and enjoy the protection a diaper offers.

From here on your little will be comfortable with their new self most of the time and they will continue to improve confidence as time goes on. You should notice a big change in your littles life as they will have accepted their now dependence on diapers as a leak would be more embarrassing than being discovered diapered. When your little has completely embraced their new self you can make minor changes to dress requirements and institute new rules since you little will have no choice but to use their diapers now as needed and will even forget they are wearing a diaper, sometimes even if they need to be changed. The caregiver is now completely responsible for taking care of the littles needs.

By this point your little has been diapered daily for a few months and wearing 24/7 for several weeks. By this time your little will have completed the full diaper training program and be comfortable at all times with themselves and no longer be embarrassed to wear diaper anytime.

Since your little is now almost or completely incontinent your little will realize diapers are now always required at all times. If discovered by anyone: strangers, family or even a doctor they can legitimately say that their diapers are completely required.

You will know that your little has completely accepted their new life when you request a diaper check and regardless of where you are they lift up their shirt to be checked and not care if someone takes a quick glance. Frequest diaper checks will become common and will sometimes have to occure when out in public to prevent significant skin irritations.

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To celebrate hitting 4,500 followers I’ve created this mega post to link to our best articles for partners of ABDL’s (like me).

These are the resources and knowledge I wish I had when starting on the journey as a vanilla girlfriend of an ABDL and I love hearing from so many of you who have found it useful.

Essential reading:

Part 2, with some extra tips:

Recommended Reading:

How chastity helped my partner

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ABDL may be considered a weird desire by many but there is absolutely nothing wrong, bad, evil, worrying about it. Millions of people around the world enjoy this and it’s growing rapidly!

Your partner will likely be very scared to talk about what they actually desire. Make an effort to talk openly about ABDL with them to boost their confidence to share more openly, it will help you both.

You can have a HUGE impact on their life by accepting this part of them, encouraging / forcing them (with consent) to embrace it more and actively getting involved yourself (from diaper pats to changes to babying them).

These desires won’t go away and will likely only grow, if you’re hoping this is temporary unfortunately it will leave you both disappointed.

ABDL might feel like something you can’t see how you’ll enjoy but I’m testament to entering with an open mind and wanting the best for my partner and actually finding lots of enjoyment for myself along the way.

There are many ways to ABDL, I’m a huge advocate for normalizing diapers in their and your life by pushing for as close to 24/7 as you can manage. We’ve found this to help countless other couples too but don’t feel you have to take any of these articles as gospel.

A theme of questions I’ve been getting from partners is how can they can get more involved. Specifically, being that taking on the role of the person forcing their partner to wear/use diapers doesn’t come naturally and so they never seem to do it.

I can’t stress enough how important it is for you to be in control of your partner’s diaper wearing and babying. Being accepting is a great first step but they’ll never really feel accepted if you’re not actively involved.

The good news is it’s not that hard and using some of the ideas I’ve already shared I’ve put together this article as a guide to situations which you can leverage to take control.

This can be learned and become natural over time, I know as I wasn’t wired with a natural ABDL mommy role.

Scenario examples where you can get more involved:

Partner not currently diapered:

They come back from work

- Meet them at the door with a diaper in hand and take them straight to get changed.

- Check their underwear upon arriving home. Comment that it smells like they had an accident (even if a lie) and say you think it’s best you get them diapered to avoid any in the house.

You’re away

- If your partner is at home or will come home and you’ll be away, leave a diaper and maybe some ABDL clothes out with a note telling them to get changed into this.

- Leaving for a few days? Hide their underwear and replace it with a note saying diapers are their underwear while you’re away.

- Ask for a diaper check over a message or video call, if not diapered, tell them to put one on.

- Require them to ask before changing and deny it until it looks near leaking.

They ask not to be diapered

Maybe they’re embarrassed, just not feeling it today or it will be inconvenient for some reason, you have a few choices:

- Tell them that’s not an option and they’re getting diapered anyway (this should be the default)

- Tell them you’ll allow it but as a consequence they’ll get some form of punishment. This should make them think twice so might be something like “you can wear adult underwear today but you’ll be getting a smacking and suppository tonight” or “ok but you’ll be diapered 24/7 for the rest of the week”

- Tell them to prove they deserve adult underwear. (This one needs a few hours spare so is best when they’re resisting wearing as they’re bored of it, feel ashamed, etc.) Your goal here is to prove they need diapers = they have an accident. Make them drink 3-4 large glasses of water and then say that they can use the toilet in 3 hours time to prove they don’t need diapers. Most won’t make it near that and will either beg to use it or have an accident. If you’re feeling nice when they ask to use the toilet, say no and diaper them or alternatively make them wet their pants before diapering them.

- A variant of the above also works if they don’t want to mess their diapers. Swap the water for 1 or 2 suppositories and set a time of an hour. The consequence of resisting and then being proven to need diapers should be long term, e.g: “ok now we know you’re not a big girl you’ll be using you diaper for everything for the next few months and then maybe you can try again”

It’s bedtime

- Have a diaper and some cute ABDL clothing laid out waiting for them.

- Ask them if they’re ready for bed and if they say yes, tell them that it doesn’t look like it and babies need to be diapered for bedtime.

On the way to the toilet

Stop them and tell them babies don’t use that and to go put on a diaper or better still, diaper them yourself.

You notice the toilet isn’t clean

If you go to the toilet after them and notice some stray pee on the seat, toilet surround or floor (all common with boys) or if they’ve left skids, then tell them off for being messy. Most importantly tell them that if they’re not grown up to use the toilet you’ll put them back in diapers permanently.

The first time this can just be a threat but on the second time you should enforce this and diaper them 24/7 for at least a few days but ideally a few weeks.

Underwear Inspections

Another great way to trigger some diaper wearing time is to inspect their underwear. After peeing many males leak a small amount so checking their underwear after they used the toilet can yield a small wet patch. Equally check at the end of the day but this time focus on the rear, and tell them that you can smell poop (even if you can’t).

Then use these findings to tell them they’re obviously too little for adult underwear and take them to be diapered. Again as before, this should last a few days. You can also step things up more slowly by going to pull ups first and then diapers.

During Sex

Experiment with mentioning diapers or them being a baby during sex. You’ll likely find this turns them on more. Little things like saying:

- “Do you feel like a big boy/girl not wearing your diaper tonight”

- “I think I should diaper you after this”

- “I prefer you in diapers for this, maybe we’ll make that permanent”

- “Will you cum so we can get you back in your diapy”

- Etc

Going; on a drive, to see a movie, a day trip?

These should all be used as reasons for your partner to be diapered. Tell them that you want them diapered as it would be easier and pick an appropriate diaper for the occasion.

For long drives or movies I’d recommend a thick diaper. For day trips a thinner diaper, which can be changed, may be better. Remember they likely will object to wearing out of fear or it being inconvenient but this is exactly why this is a perfect opportunity to diaper them.

They’re already diapered:

They say they’re going to the toilet

- Stop them and tell them to use their diaper. Likely this means they need to a poop but don’t relent and tell them their diapers are for everything. This is one of the most powerful things you can do to show them you accept their diaper wearing and be actively forcing them to mess their diaper.

They walk past you

- Try give them a “diaper pat” when you’re nearby or if they pass you. This shows you know they’re diapered and that you accept it!

- Stop them and do a diaper check. You can do this by squeezing the front and back of their diaper through clothing but ideally get them to expose their diaper to you. This shows you accept them and are expecting them to have used their diaper.

You’re sitting together

- If their diaper is exposed, make a small comment about it, like “These diapers look cute on you”

- If the diaper is hidden by clothing, do a small diaper pat or squeeze it to show you know it’s there

- Make a comment on their diaper’s state, like “you’re already a bit wet”, “I might need to change you soon”, “it doesn’t look like you’ve used your diaper yet”

You’re about to head out of the house

- Quickly check they’re wearing a diaper either subtly by lifting a shirt to see the waistband or even better is to get them to show you their full exposed diaper by dropping their pants or lifting their skirt.

- If longer than an hour ask if they’ve got their diaper bag with them.

They need a change

If you notice their diaper is nearing capacity you have a few options:

- Tell them they need a change and guide them to the changing area to do the change.

- Say that it looks like their diaper is getting full but you’ll change them in a bit. Delay it an hour and if they do leak tell them how you might need to switch to thicker diapers

- Don’t mention it but just bring diaper supplies to where they are and without comment start the changing process. Make it as if this is the most normal thing in the world.

They’re smelly / messy

You notice that they’ve messed their diaper, this might be expected or a surprise but it’s very important you don’t react negatively.

Some options:

- Mention it in a teasing but not disgusted way; “oh, do I smelly a messy diaper”, “I think my baby might need a change”, “Is someone a messy baby”, etc

- Check their diaper by pulling back the waistband or if it’s not exposed, grab and squeeze the back of their diaper through their clothing.

- Ask them to come over and sit on your knee. This is one of the most embarrassing things as it will cause their mess to spread and they’ll feel very babyish. Cuddle and bounce them for maximum blushing.

- Tell them you’ll change them in a bit. Making them wait even a short while shows you’re in control. For even greater effect, tell them that you don’t think that diaper is full yet so you’ll check them again in an hour. Or my favorite is to say I’ll change them but after lunch, dinner or some other activity that means it will be at least an hour and they’ll have to sit in it.

- Shower them with praise. As I mentioned they’ll likely be feeling some shame so tell them how good they are for using their diaper as they’re supposed to.

- Ideally when the time comes, change them yourself, but if not, be waiting with their new diaper after they’ve cleaned up.

You’re in public

- Lightly smack or squeeze their bum to remind them they’re wearing a diaper and you know it.

- Ask them if they’ll need a change soon

- Check their diaper subtly, this works best when you’re out of sight of others such as in an elevator or on a secluded section of a hike.

- Comment that their clothes hide their diaper well, or point out their waistband is showing.

- See a sign for a restroom? joke that they won’t be needing that.

At bedtime

- Prepare a bottle for them (milk, juice or water) and feed this to them in bed. This feels incredibly loving and should become part of your daily routine. It’s especially good if your partner struggles to sleep or is stressed.

- Insert an adult pacifier into their mouth before sleep, perfect straight after their bottle.

- Make a comment that you hope their diaper will hold all their accidents tonight

- Place mittens onto their hands (ideal for partners who like using their phone in bed)

- Give them a teddy to sleep with or read them a bedtime story.

During Sex

- If they’re diapered then it’s likely you’re using a vibrator or similar. Try also physically interact with their diaper at the same time to make it so you’re more intimately involved in it.

- Most importantly after the orgasm DO NOT allow them to change out of a diaper. This is a time they’re most likely to experience shame so actively tell them they’re good for being diapered and keep them diapered. If they do need to change it must be into another diaper. This is probably one of the most important pieces of advice I can give!

In the mornings:

- Check their diaper physically by touching, squeezing etc

- Make a comment that you’re glad they’re diapered otherwise they’d have wet the bed.

- Keep them in their night diaper and ABDL clothes until after breakfast or longer if possible (normally at weekends).

- Tell or encourage them to mess their diaper as then they can shower to clean up. Or force the matter by inserting a suppository or fleet enema.

- Re-insert the pacifier and/or give them another bottle.

Having a meal:

- Make them wear a bib. For maximum effect wait until a meal where they spill something on themselves and then introduce this rule.

- Feed them a meal. This can be fun!

- Make them sit in a highchair! These can be made using a director’s chair and an accessible feeding table and it’s worth the investment as it will make them feel very babyish sitting in an exposed diaper eating with with their hands or baby cutlery.

- Give drinks in a bottle or sippy cup.

Other situations:

It’s their birthday, Christmas or you just want to get them a gift

- Buy them a diaper / ABDL related gift and ideally from now on at least one but potentially even all of their gifts from you should be ABDL related. This unprompted involvement from you will show them how accepting you are of it. They will be delighted I guarantee!

- Gift Ideas:

- New ABDL diapers; buy a few packs of adult diapers. I’d recommend ABDL ones as they’re prettier and also you can buy a few different styles which they might not have.

- ABDL clothing; onesies are the easy option but to really wow them try something like shortalls, rompers, footed onesies.

- ABDL accessories; bottles, pacifiers, bibs, mittens or a new changing mat are great choices. These are especially good if the ABDL side has been something you’ve shy’d away from to date.

- Sexual; Some bondage gear like a straitjacket, bed restraints or locking clothing is a great gift. Or a Chastity cage will fill a boy with excitement and fear.

- Small filler gifts: baby powder, rash cream, etc

- As part of their gift, change their diaper wearing frequency or rules. “For Christmas I’ve decided that from now on you’re always going to be diapered at night”. “You’ll see I’ve got you some new diapers and from now on you’ll only be in these ABDL diapers, even in public”

Clothes shopping

- When clothes shopping ask them if this will fit over their diaper

- Make comments about certain items being good for hiding their diaper or “I think this might show your diaper a bit much”

- Comment on items being too adult for them or things looking childish as being perfect

- Make them wear a diaper out shopping so they can make sure things fit well

Grocery shopping or at a pharmacy

- Buy baby essentials regularly

- Comment on the baby diaper aisle that it’s a shame you can’t buy diapers their size here

- If you see adult diapers stop and look and ask them if you should buy some.

- Add a pack of goodnights to your cart if they fit them and comment that these might be useful for when you’re not in diapers.

- Buy suppositories, laxatives, etc

You have a vacation coming up

- Check they’ve packed enough diapers

- When they’re not around remove any underwear and replace with diapers (if you want them 24/7 for the trip)

- Discuss how them being diapered will impact the vacation. “I wonder if they’ll be somewhere I can change you on this day trip”, “Can you google if there’s accessible restrooms available at …”, “I wonder if I should ask the hotel for a medical trashcan in the room for your diapers”

- Buy a swim diaper if you don’t already have one.

Summary:

- Find reasons to diaper your partner even at times where it will be inconvenient

- Try increase the reasons and frequency of their diaper wearing over time. I’s start with 25% of the time they’re diapered and work up from there.

- Encourage and force them to use their diapers

- Interact with their diapers and acknowledge the fact they are diapered

- Introduce baby elements as much as possible

Many couples I speak to the diapered partner has a desire to be forced to wear 24/7 but either this isn’t practical in their lives or their partner isn’t ready to get that involved yet.

So I wanted to put together a short guide on how you can implement diaper discipline and forced regression in a ad hoc and none full time way.

With 24/7 diaper wearing the discipline & domination parts come significantly by you removing their toilet privileges in a near total way which results in it being the discipline they need. If you’re instead only going to make them wear on an ad-hoc basis then you need to make some changes.

First although they’re going to be wearing a lot less you need to be more involved when they are wearing. Secondly it has to be unpredictable for them. And finally it should be more intense than 24/7 wearing to make up for the reduced regularity of it.

I did this to my partner before we decided 24/7 was the right path so here as some tips to get you started.

Look for opportunities to make them wear diapers where it will be more embarrassing while still protecting their privacy

- Going on a day trip? Surprise them by diapering them in the morning and packing a diaper bag for them to carry.

- Long drive? Thick diapers are required.

- Staying with friends or family? Diaper them up for bed!

Force them to use their diapers

- Once or twice a week force them to mess their diapers with the help of suppositories, enemas or laxatives.

- Use locking clothes or diaper covers to prevent them from removing their diaper so they have to use it.

- Lock the door to the toilet in your home

- Don’t give them permission to use the toilet in public

- Make them lose control in a semi-public way. You don’t want to expose others to smelly diapers but giving them a suppository and sending them to get groceries or go out for a walk is a favorite of mine. Or hand a suppository for them to insert at the end of a meal out or when on a drive and still an hour or two away from home.

Take control of their first diapering, checks & changes

- Surprise them by walking into the room, with diaper supplies in hand, and diapering them there and then.

- Tell them that they can’t ask for checks or changes and do these yourself

- Check them in a physical way, making them drop their pants or lift skirt

Vary the amount of time they’re diapered

- Sometime it might just be overnight

- Other times enforce 24/7 diapers for up-to a week

- Don’t tell how long each session will last

Throw in extended 24/7 periods

- Going on a 1 or 2 week vacation? Surprise them by diapering them and telling them that you’ve packed no underwear for them.

- Got a quiet month at home? Tell them you’re going to test them being diapered full time for a bit

Make it more embarrassing

- Tease them when they’re diapered

- Threaten then with being made to wear 24/7

- Force them to use their diaper in front of you

- Make them have their diaper exposed in the house or enforce abdl clothing only

- Don’t change them until they leak and then switch to thicker diapers

- Use more babyish diapers or make a male partner wear girly diapers more

Combine diapers with other humiliation elements:

- Male partner? Dress them as a girl when diapered

- Use bondage alongside their diapers; restrain overnight in a spare bedroom, use a straightjacket & suppositories to make them feel helpless, shackle their ankles to their desk in an exposed diaper while working from home, use locking onesies and covers regularly

- Chastity! Lock them up while diapered and experiment with pegging

- Butt plugs? Going out but don’t want them to mess? Plug them up.

- Role play. Nurse & patient or teacher & school boy/girl work great with diapers

- Pull ups or abdl underwear when not diapered

Use forced regression alongside diapers as much as possible

- When at home and in diapers they should not be dressed as an adult. Onesies, shortalls, exposed diapers, baby dresses, etc…

- Use pacifiers and bottles regularly

- Make them wear a bib while eating. Or step things up and feed them yourself

- Tell them they’re a baby, only babies wear diapers, etc

- Turn a spare bedroom into a nursery simply by replacing the sheets, adding some plushies and keeping a few piles of diapers and supplies visible.

How much and when?

With all of these ideas to try the question comes up of how often should they be diapered and how do I decide when that should be (especially if not a natural mommy/daddy).

As a minimum I’d recommend they’re diapered 25% - 50% of each month. In terms of deciding when you should make them wear, I used to do this at the start of each month and week.

At the start of the month I’d look at our plans for the coming month and see if there were any big events to add diapers to. These for example might be a vacation where they could be diapered 24/7, a weekend away, day trips, etc.

Then each week I’d decide how to get 2-3 days of diaper wearing in. Normally this would involve at least a full day at the weekend as well as some nights and maybe a day when he was working from home. Try pick a mixture of at home and in public diaper wearing time.

For forced messing I’d think when would be best for this. A weekend day at home works well especially when using laxatives where the effects can last a while. Suppositories are easier to plan around and can be inserted as part of a diaper check.

For the rest feel free to plan in as much or little detail as you like but keep it a secret from them. I started with very detailed plans which became less detailed as a gained confidence in the mommy dom role.

A tip from me is I setup a separate calendar on my phone to keep track of when he should be diapered and used a simple code to keep it discrete, naming the calendar “chores”:

- cook = they’re diapered

- garbage = forced messing

- clean = diaper change

- break = diaper check

- Etc…

The beauty of this is I could have notification reminders on for all of these and it doesn’t give anything away even if somebody sees it. In the early days, these reminders for me to check and change him were very helpful.