stop i’m so caterpilled rn

things will work out + it’s still early + not everything is lost + trees

I think the ideal mutual is someone with some solid common ground but who also has a bonkers niche interest that’s totally foreign to you. It’s like a friendly educational experience

Frankly I think a lot of Tumblr users think there is no overlap between trans women and gay men like there is between trans men and lesbians 1. because RuPaul did a great job intentionally convincing at least two generations of baby queers that gay men and trans women don't share culture because he's a transmisogynist piece of shit who intentionally kept trans women off Drag Race for years - shattering the perception of our community overlap in the eyes of the mainstream, 1.5. and that culture he cultivated in the mainstream made you afraid of drag as an art so you're uncurious about it, and 2. you're afraid of learning about balls because they're not sanitized white queer culture.

Once upon a time a huge proportion of trans women came out from the gay community. My trans mentor was one such person. It was a core part of our history, one of the only communities where we could experiment without (much) fear. Trans women who still ID as gay (for men) fucking exist, just like trans men who still ID as lesbians. It’s pretty normal to want to keep IDing with the community which gave you your life and stay part of it. Transitioning shouldn’t mean giving up that community, and the expectation that we should is transphobia.

Stop saying “do it scared” i do everything scared I sleep scared Boy i’ll kill u

hey guysss so unfortunately the rumors are true and im leaving the narrative. Buttt the good news is my absence will create such a gaping hole in your lives that it will become a sort of presence itself, and so in a way it will kind of be like i never left! But i am. Leaving just to be clear.