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You have to actually ACTIVELY unlearn all that shit. You can actually be trans AND hold TERF and racist beliefs, it is in fact very easy.

https://www.tumblr.com/doubleca5t/816429361072881664/there-is-something-personally-offensive-to-me

I’ve mainly seen the TMA/TME stuff used to justify excluding enby and trans masc folks from the community, which directly weakens us when we’re actively being persecuted by transphobic governments who don’t fucking care if we’re TMA or TME. They just see we're trans and that's it. The patriarchy is not trans inclusive, and transphobia directed at trans men often involves infantilising them as “deceived woman tricked into transitioning.” Trans men can’t fully benefit from male privilege if transphobes (AKA, the people in power,) don’t believe that trans men are men.

Like it's shooting us in the foot when TERF island is being funded by Joanne and the Republican party desperately wants us fucking dead. But instead we're treating trans men as an "oppressor class" whose the real threat, and not the transphobes who want us both dead? Like I'm sorry but I'm just so disappointed seeing you participate in rhetoric that damages any attempts at solidarity. The person who coined the term trans-misogyny even actively rejects the idea that trans men are "privileged."

https://www.juliaserano.com/av/Serano-ArticulatingTransmisogyny.pdf?ref=blog.potate.space (Page 71-72)

I don't even know if this will convince you. (It probably won't because people don't change their minds.) But seeing people who try and defend trans men's place in the community get harassed and falsely flagged anti-trans on Shinigami Eyes makes me scared to interact with anyone who participates in this discourse. Understand how this looks to any trans person who's not into online discourse seeing all this self destructive infighting and harassment. It scares us and it scares me.

Why would I take anything you said and that link in good faith when you both threw the classic "terminally online crazy man-hating bitch" strawman like anyone else?

If you can't look past a few people weaponizing the terms TME/TMA and engage with actual transfeminism, I don't trust you on other kind of activism, they're all probably too angry and divisive for you. It's a pretty easy red flag to notice, and to put on Shinigami Eyes.

1. Men are systematically privileged over women.

2. Men love to take advantage of that privilege while simultaneously denying that it exists.

Fighting your whole life just to survive tends to do that yeah. When younger you had to mask, tried to stay in line, be like the others just to be ostracized, harassed and excluded for being different, you end up growing up seeking validation/attention from any source.

And that's what dogs get right? Dogs, and a lot of other animals too. But dogs, they get our unconditional love, they're cute and innocent, you'd be ready to risk it all for your best companion, they're part of your family. And i think that's what a lot of us are looking for. A family. Unconditional love. Just to be carefree for once in your life. Not having to mask. Just, being yourself, allowing yourself to be vulnerable for once, to be taken care of. Drop the act. Because tbh, when you're neurodivergent just navigating life gets tiring. Like hell I'm barely functioning and i start to stress whenever i get a call or a mail. So yeah, just forgetting about all that stuff for a moment can be so liberating, and being a cute little animal from time to time can't really hurt right?

I know a lot of trans men want to be TMA reallllll bad because someone mistook them for a transfem once and called them a tranny, but the "Affected" in "TransMisogyny Affected" doesn't just mean you have been Affected by transmisogyny at some point--it means it affects you, inescapably, in uncountably many more ways than just random harassment, every minute of your damn life. and it worms into your brain and stays there, because you ARE the tranny they were talking about