just a city queer

TJ MIKELOGAN's HALLOWEEN HORROR 2025 EVENT DAY 7: Generational/familial horror — Grace and Anne Stewart, The Others (2001)

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Not every white person dating a POC is fetishizing. White people can be respectful and responsible when it comes to culture and relationships and not everyone has bad intentions.

Asian people can date Black people without you saying shit like “your kids will be so pretty” they’re not dating for pretty kids. They’re dating bc they like each other.

Someone can dress their partner in clothing from their culture if they want. Someone can take their partner to cultural events if they want.

People in relationships can share cultures, experiences and love without it being toxic or skin deep.

Their partner isn’t culturally appropriating. Their partner is being shown the ultimate form of love, bc their partner trusts them and loves them enough to share their history and heritage.

Yeah, dating someone from your culture is nice bc you automatically have similar experiences. But you’re not limited to dating people with the same experiences. Loving someone is sharing and growing and being together.

because this has been madi’s whole life!! or, nearly her whole life, since leaving nassau, training under her mother’s wing, for this very purpose. and maybe it would have failed. maybe she would’ve have lost her life, or silver’s or flint’s or any or all of them. but by robbing her of the chance (through flint’s end, whatever you believe it to be), silver denies any semblance of hope and agency. choosing between a war and a wife by placing her in a role she never once chose.