Everything Causes Pain

Not often does the astrology community discuss the negative traits of each Venus sign as Venus is often romanticized. We all carry a dark side when it comes to romance. None of us are perfect but awareness of our behaviors and actions can provide improvement and growth.

Venus in Aries: Aries Venusians tend to fall in love very quickly, often causing their romantic interests to become hesitant to continue the relationship. Those with Venus in Aries also enjoy any relationship that challenges them such as individuals already in relationships, individuals who do not share the same feelings, or individuals who are reluctant, need time, or space, and this can usually lead to dangerous persistence or major heartbreak.. or both. Those with Venus in Aries do not know how to give up when it comes to someone they adore because rejection and surrender makes them feel weak and powerless. They need to be in control. They feel the need to “win”, but at the same time, they tend to flee or express rebellion if a relationship ever does become serious.

Venus in Taurus: They are sensual beings - in constant need of some form of physical stimulation and a desire to acquire people, places, and things as their own. This is essentially their downfall. They attach themselves to others in an attempt to gain comfort and security, often holding onto people or things long after they have left or have worn down. Their attachment issues often lead to possessiveness, jealousy, and issues with valuing themselves and others. Once they are set on something, it can take them a long time to let go and move along. They are doomed to repeat this pattern of only finding value in themselves through their possessions until they learn self-love and self-worth.

Venus in Gemini: When boredom strikes, they look to a new direction.. And it doesn’t take much to bore them. For this reason, it is difficult for them to settle down completely. This isn’t necessarily their fault or anyone else’s, but they are very high maintenance and it can be difficult to decipher what they want or what they will do next. Sometimes, they don’t know what to do themselves. Gemini Venusians require intellectual stimulation, unpredictable fun, and a good bit of freedom and adventure to remain in a stable relationship. They can be entirely superficial and can seem emotionally immature due to their tendency to run from their more serious feelings. They need someone with patience, intelligence, and broad humor to guide and stimulate them.

Venus in Cancer: The thing about Cancer Venusians is that they expect everyone to automatically know how they feel even if they do not express their feelings aloud. They expect others to share the same intuition they have and become irritable or upset when their feelings are ignored. They are an emotional paradox never truly understanding that not everyone is as in tune to their feelings as they are. This can lead to arguments, miscommunication, disagreements, isolation, and emotional breakdowns. Like Taurus Venusians, they are also sensual beings that require comfort and security, so they can seem overbearing to those who are not as in touch with their feelings and their sense of empathy. 

Venus in Leo: It’s no secret that lions expect to be pampered and treated like royalty.. For this reason, their dark side can emerge in the form of egotism and laziness. They harbor high expectations but if immature or underdeveloped, they will not give the love and acknowledgement they receive. Leo Venusians could even produce dramatic stories or theatrical outbursts for attention. Attention makes them feel valued but not always will they see that others need recognition, as well. A developed Venus in Leo will realize that by giving attention and love to their partner and to their friends, they will receive healthy boosts of self-confidence and attention from doing so instead of expecting others to do all the work for them. You cannot expect a meal to come to you all the time.. You must hunt for it.

Venus in Virgo: Virgos are detail-oriented, helpful, and insightful. There isn’t anything they miss and no one they won’t help.. but this can prove to be an issue. Their focus on detail and their need for perfectionism makes them the perfect candidates to pick apart every flaw not only in themselves but in others, as well. They may believe they are doing a service to those they try to “help” or “improve” even if the people they assist never asked for their guidance and service. They have a tendency to pin themselves and others to a specific standard that is unrealistic. They must work on being supportive rather than controlling. They can still fuel their need to help others and “organize” the lives of their friends and their romantic interests but only when they are asked to do so.

Venus in Libra: Libras are known for being superficial with a hyperfixation for beauty and refinement, but what is normally overlooked is their need to feel accepted and admired by others. They may seem egotistical and shallow when in reality, they care more about what others think of them than they let on and this is usually their downfall. They may apologize too much for the smallest of messes or inconsistencies with their appearance and they may ask for approval and advice regarding their attire quite often. They value the opinions of others more than they value their own, which is something they need to work on. Their search for beauty cannot be found through others.. They must learn to accept their own unique appeal.

Venus in Scorpio: Those with Venus in Scorpio love deeply and passionately. Their intense feelings can turn into obsession, jealousy, and possessiveness. Even when they gain control of their “dark” behaviors, others can still find them to be over the top because of how violently emotional they are. They will not rest until they are intertwined with the souls of those they love and cherish. They NEED intimacy so deep that it will transform them and birth them into a new being. They are not everyone’s cup of tea - they can be too strong, too bitter, or too sweet. Too much of something but never not enough.

Venus in Sagittarius: Wild at heart, Sagittarius Venusians have trouble settling down. This does not necessarily pertain to commitment in relationships, but can represent rebellion and lack of devotion in other areas, such as keeping promises, showing up to events on time, completing favors, etc. It is difficult for them to stick to something because they despise the feeling of confinement and control. They’re the kind of people to do things on their own tems; if you ask them to do a chore they already thought to do, they will no longer want to do it. This behavior also leaves them prone to procrastinating and engaging in impulsive activities. 

Venus in Capricorn: Capricorn Venusians, with their cynicism and emotional apathy, often behave as though they await disappointment in platonic and romantic relationships like it’s their destiny to be betrayed or let down. They are masters of control and of constructing people and things to suit their standards. Some will not dare settle for someone who does not have a notable and proper reputation. They’re particular about who they indulge in - either they want someone well-liked and successful or they will want to boost their own reputation by improving and changing another person and settle for someone they feel could benefit from their structured ways.. Both of these scenarios can prove to be issues.

Venus in Aquarius: Aquarius Venusians thrive on their individuality, their superior intelligence, and their revolutionary trends. They need to feel different or they will unleash their egotistical, erratic nature within. To a certain extent, they could feel offended by friends who follow their style or interests - believing that their individuality is being ripped apart when their individuality is often created by observing certain traits and quirks in others. These Venusians also tend to only settle for rebellious or original individuals; often from different religious beliefs, cultures, backgrounds, or cliques. They can be deemed as picky and shallow for never settling for conventionality. 

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Aries: Hard to get close to. Pretends that they don’t care, when they really care more than anyone else. Passionate. Argumentative. Needs to just chill out sometimes. Stubborn. Likes to be busy, but can stress themselves out. Always up for a good time. Competitive. Can be blunt and has trouble with sugar coating things, which is sometimes very rude. Empathic. Childlike features. Selfish. Needs respect to give respect.

Taurus: STUBBORN. Actually really likes food. Will argue until they decide they don’t want to argue anymore, and then will close off. Pedantic. Worrier. Bit of a temper. Very set in their ways, values tradition. Very loving, very kind. Are extremely generous with those that they love. Good listener. They always smell nice??? Can get mad at the most irrelevant of things, and won’t shut up about it. Grudge holders. Hate confrontation.

Gemini: Bubbly, bright, confident. Quite flippant. How they feel is very based upon circumstance and who they’re with. GREAT people to bitch to. Good at keeping secrets. Never ever boring to be around. Can be quite snide at times, sharp at people. Will only hold a grudge if it’s serious. Great sense of style, whether that’s clothes or household things.

Cancer: Very in tune with their emotions, perhaps a bit too much sometimes?? Caring. When they become angry, it’s difficult to recognise until they hit the anger point. Good at putting things into perspective if impartial. Moody. Will be stubborn if they want to be. Big highs, small lows. Creative, a dreamer. Animal lovers. Protective of the ones they love, and they’re very open to all forms of love.

Leo: “But do I look good??” Insecurities masked by false confidence that sometimes escalates into vanity. Warm-hearted, compassionate, loyal. Fair. Temperamental. Stubborn. Deep eyes. Nice hair??? Quite a commanding presence, often centre of attention. Open with their feelings, but can disregard how others are doing. Leader. HATES lying. Can be manipulative and power hungry.

Virgo: Bad at taking constructive criticism. Smart, but terrible at cooking. Extremely loving and affectionate. Level-headed. Sometimes difficult to know where you stand with them. Generous. Values their relationships very well. Work-a-holic. Hard to tie down romantically. Very funny. Their temper can snap extremely quickly. Silent anger, it’s quite scary. ‘Mom’ friend.

Libra: Lively, energetic. They have a kind of magnetism to them. Flighty. Vain. Extremely bitchy when they want to be. Can manipulate a situation to ensure they’re seen in a good light. Storytellers, imaginative. Either very popular or a black sheep, no in between. Obscure senses of humour. Their happiness radiates off of them. Curious.

Scorpio: Loves to talk about themselves, but not in an egocentric way. Some of the most interesting people I’ve met. Sex drive is at 1000%. Shady. Judgmental. Stubborn. Very in their emotions that sometimes they don’t even know wtf they’re feeling. Can be cold, but does it to protect themselves from betrayal. Holds friendships to a high value, and doesn’t like perpetrators. Loves to a high degree. Easily jealous, which can cause anger and resentment. But they are some bold ass bitches.

Sagittarius: Fiery. Will get angry quickly but forget about it after an hour. Confident. Chaotic. Loves adventure. Can be selfish. Can be tactless, but straightforward and honest. Never beats around the bush. Compassionate. Philosophical, they have a very defined moral compass and will not shy away from it. Great cooks!! Have a need to surround themselves with people. OPTIMISTS. Arrogant, and they have an attitude that what they say goes, and that’s where they draw the line. But not unreasonable.

Capricorn: They always seem to have their lives together at all times wtf. Most organised sign. Stubborn. With their organisational skills comes a controlling nature if unchecked. Love to write. Sarcastic humour. Extremely supportive friends, very loyal. Can be quite cynical. Protective. Self-centred, fail to acknowledge other people’s opinions/feelings sometimes. But when matured are very inclusive. Logical and fair. Love reading and learning.

Aquarius: Difficult to understand. I’ve never been able to tell if this is just their nature, or them making an effort to seem complicated. Expects loyalty at all times, and will give loyalty in return. Hurt easily if trust is broken. S T U B B O R N, like, don’t bother trying to win an argument. Creative, philosophical. Socialists. Generous and giving. Adores family. Will only hug very specific people. Very organised bed spaces.