the deeply misogynistic idea that a woman cannot make any mistakes before being worthy of love is so prevalent in elucien/gwynriel spaces is actually crazy.
elain should be with lucien but should beg for forgiveness before they get together.
azriel should be with gwyn because he deserves better than elain and gwyn is more worthy.
like these are both frequent talking points of gwynriels and eluciens and it genuinely baffles me how they cannot see such blatant sexism.
you do not have to be unflawed to be worthy of love. you should always strive to do better and apologise where you must, (both of which elain has done), obviously but these are things we should be doing anyway because we're human.
being worthy of love isn't a number above your head that deducts a point for every mistake you make. that's ugly thinking.
when characters are flawed it makes for better story. nobody adores katara or katniss or diana of themyscira because they were immediately perfect??? that's so boring i am yawning. why do i give a fuck if someone is perfect. what story is there left to tell.
give me elain archeron with all of her cowardice and all of her kindness. i want to see her meekness and the agency with which she grows. i want her to throw duty to the wind and own her defiance.
elain archeron is imperfect and that's why she's important.
