i love cheesy movies

My dad has 4 half siblings and two step siblings. They're all a decent bit younger than him. When I was a teenager, we went to a family reunion, and I realized something—my dad did not respect his siblings. He looked down on all of them. He saw them as fuck-ups and overgrown children. My dad had the American dream: well paying management job, suburban house, wife, and three kids. My aunt and uncles did not. Excluding my aunt, none of them were married or in serious relationships. They hadn't really settled into long term careers. Several of them were working the kind of jobs that get called "Unskilled labor." So he looked down on them because the youngest one was in his thirties (and several were much older), and yet none of them had "settled down" into what he saw as lifelong, permanent careers and relationships and lives. He was polite to their faces, sure, but I heard how he talked about them behind their backs, to my mother.

And then a few years ago, we visited his brothers again for Thanksgiving. And I realized something again--he respected them now. He saw them as equals. Why? Well. All of a sudden, every single one of them had serious, committed romantic partners. They didn't even need to still be with those partners—one of my uncle's fiance passed away from cancer before they could marry—just having had one showed that they matured into a real adult participating in society. In fact, at one point, my aunt was telling my mom about how one of my uncles was no longer living in an apartment she owned, but instead, after having a steady girlfriend for about a year, he moved in with her. And my mom literally said to my aunt, "wow. Look at that. He finally grew up."

One of the lines that frequently gets repeated about anti-aspec sentiment is "why would anyone hate asexuals/aromantics/etc? They aren't even doing anything." And that's exactly it. In the eyes of amatonormative culture, we aren't doing anything. Adults are supposed to do things. That's how you become a member of society.

It just like me frfr literally what an iconic move for it to be repulsed by romance and sex n stuff it’s so refreshing I need more of that in my life tbhhhhh

We could have had so much time to explore people's pasts, or just have episodes where they interact with each other, make relationships/friendships, or just do random stuff to make us feel like they're real people.

• Could have had Randall, Bakta, Elgin, Acosta, Sara's pasts. What they did before, what their lives were like. Elgin said "we're never going back to what we were", but.... WE DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY WERE LIKE BEFORE THE TRAUMA.

• Could have more time for flashbacks. What it was like for Marielle when Kristi was gone. What did Kenny do for a job. How was his relationship to his parents.

• What did Tabitha do before Thomas died. How was Sara and Jade relationships with Nathan and Tobey.

• How Fatima's first days were, and how did she fell in love with Ellis. How were the first days after Boyd found the talismans, how did Tian Chen became in charge of the food. How did Donna build the Colony House.

• How the fuck did Victor survive alone.

We could have had so much time to explore people's pasts, or just have episodes where they interact with each other, make relationships/friendships, or just do random stuff to make us feel like they're real people.

• Could have had Randall, Bakta, Elgin, Acosta, Sara's pasts. What they did before, what their lives were like. Elgin said "we're never going back to what we were", but.... WE DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY WERE LIKE BEFORE THE TRAUMA.

• Could have more time for flashbacks. What it was like for Marielle when Kristi was gone. What did Kenny do for a job. How was his relationship to his parents.

• What did Tabitha do before Thomas died. How was Sara and Jade relationships with Nathan and Tobey.

• How Fatima's first days were, and how did she fell in love with Ellis. How were the first days after Boyd found the talismans, how did Tian Chen became in charge of the food. How did Donna build the Colony House.

• How the fuck did Victor survive alone.