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Ok, it's finally done. Home is a place, home is a person.

This story is my first major piece after several years of art block, and I'm so glad I could finally get back to drawing.

Huge thanks to my dear friend @chancekey for the support.

people hype up popular new thing as uniquely flawless peak fiction

leads to

people start having some reasonable criticisms of it bc nothing is in fact perfect

Leads to

people flip to acting like literally every single about it is retroactively total dogshit and end up nitpicking the hell out of it ad nauseam

leads to

people move on to try and find something else “better” that won’t “let them down” the same way

which leads to the first part again (people hype up popular new thing as uniquely flawless peak fiction)

  A friend of mine asked me yesterday if I could elaborate on why I was so upset by the Moon Moon meme. The post I made yesterday mentioned the use of the r-word in the OP that sparked off the meme, but that is far from my only problem with it. Ableism isn’t confined to the use of slurs. 

Basically, the meme isn’t as funny when you’ve been Moon Moon. 

I am autistic and have been bullied, ostracised, and mocked my whole life by neurotypical people who see me as laughable and/or annoying. When I was a child the only way other kids would interact with me would be if I’d perform a parody version of myself for them to laugh at. Eventually they’d get tired of me and I’d have to go off by myself, because I was only funny in small doses. “Who the fuck invited Moon Moon?” is not a million miles away from what I’ve heard my whole life.

Can you see why I might not chuckle at “the most r*****ed” wolf? 

I’m better at passing for neurotypical now, but even still the mask slips from time to time and I’ll flap my hands or infodump about one of my special interests or I won’t understand when someone’s speaking figuratively or I’ll use a “funny” tone of voice and all of a sudden I’m a fucking clown again and the people I’m with can’t get over how fucking funny I look and sound to them. 

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Any commentary they make in response to you raising the issue of someone else's diagnoses should be something to the effect of "it's possible that they have x disorder, but it's more important to focus on how their behavior affects you / the relationship."

If your therapist says "you parents are narcissists" or "your ex is a sociopath," that either didn't happen, or they're creating an ethical violation.

They aren't allowed to diagnose someone who isn't their client, i.e. has consented to treatment.

Even if they were allowed to do that, your secondhand account of that person doesn't constitute an assessment.

Even if they were allowed to do that and could use your secondhand account, they wouldn't be able to tell you about someone else's diagnoses because of confidentiality.

Further, your therapist can't diagnose you with "narcissistic abuse syndrome" etc. because it doesn't exist. There are no legitimate diagnoses based on the (speculative!!!) diagnoses of an abuser; you're likely talking about complex PTSD, which commonly results from abuse (including emotional abuse).

I don't trust therapists who slap diagnoses on their clients' abusers. You shouldn't either. You should know the basics of clinical boundaries and the correct terms for things so that you don't feed into stigma or put up with a therapist who's willing to engage in unethical practice.