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  A friend of mine asked me yesterday if I could elaborate on why I was so upset by the Moon Moon meme. The post I made yesterday mentioned the use of the r-word in the OP that sparked off the meme, but that is far from my only problem with it. Ableism isn’t confined to the use of slurs. 

Basically, the meme isn’t as funny when you’ve been Moon Moon. 

I am autistic and have been bullied, ostracised, and mocked my whole life by neurotypical people who see me as laughable and/or annoying. When I was a child the only way other kids would interact with me would be if I’d perform a parody version of myself for them to laugh at. Eventually they’d get tired of me and I’d have to go off by myself, because I was only funny in small doses. “Who the fuck invited Moon Moon?” is not a million miles away from what I’ve heard my whole life.

Can you see why I might not chuckle at “the most r*****ed” wolf? 

I’m better at passing for neurotypical now, but even still the mask slips from time to time and I’ll flap my hands or infodump about one of my special interests or I won’t understand when someone’s speaking figuratively or I’ll use a “funny” tone of voice and all of a sudden I’m a fucking clown again and the people I’m with can’t get over how fucking funny I look and sound to them. 

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Any commentary they make in response to you raising the issue of someone else's diagnoses should be something to the effect of "it's possible that they have x disorder, but it's more important to focus on how their behavior affects you / the relationship."

If your therapist says "you parents are narcissists" or "your ex is a sociopath," that either didn't happen, or they're creating an ethical violation.

They aren't allowed to diagnose someone who isn't their client, i.e. has consented to treatment.

Even if they were allowed to do that, your secondhand account of that person doesn't constitute an assessment.

Even if they were allowed to do that and could use your secondhand account, they wouldn't be able to tell you about someone else's diagnoses because of confidentiality.

Further, your therapist can't diagnose you with "narcissistic abuse syndrome" etc. because it doesn't exist. There are no legitimate diagnoses based on the (speculative!!!) diagnoses of an abuser; you're likely talking about complex PTSD, which commonly results from abuse (including emotional abuse).

I don't trust therapists who slap diagnoses on their clients' abusers. You shouldn't either. You should know the basics of clinical boundaries and the correct terms for things so that you don't feed into stigma or put up with a therapist who's willing to engage in unethical practice.

The rush of serotonin I feel about seeing Taliesin play beloved Kingsley Tealeaf in a King character-driven oneshot. The potential for so much character and relationship development, seeing Kingsley really take up the mantle of Plank King, but also--finally really let his walls down. Letting himself finally admit he needs the Nein.

The fact that the campaign ends on so many hanging threads we never get to revisit. Kingsley still waking with nightmares of a, "primal, alien scream," black chains shattering in the Astral Sea. Will he ever admit that still haunts him...? Would he have the courage to tell any of them, instead of just running...? "And maybe those chains will find some quiet in piracy." (We also don't know anything about what Tealeaf was up to during C3 and the solstice--will we possibly get a glimpse of that...?)

Kingsley who refused to look into Molly's past at first, but finally, "reads that book. And goes to visit...and learn." Will we ever see the effect of that journey...? Kingsley resolving to embark on it...? Yasha and Kingsley still being so close and fond for each other--Yasha coming down to Darktow to visit from time to time. Kingsley taking the time to ask many of the Nein what they think of Molly, of Lucien--how he's tried to change for the better, to do right by them.

Kingsley falling for Caleb when he finally opens his eyes again for the first time; his first crush--potentially first love. Feelings that were mutual in the last episode of the campaign. Do they still linger...? Does King ever get to explore those feelings with him more, since he was so forward before...? And what does he think of Essek--?

Also, if Kingsley still has the Fang of the Spire King, then I'll just drop this excerpt from The Armory of Heroes here, because oh...the Nein were hunting followers of the Cloaked Serpent before Total Party Kill. How dangerous would it be for Kingsley if he still had the relic of such a terrifying god in his possession--