Native Submission

Summary: Ari might be your dad’s best friend but that’s not stopping him from taking you every chance he can get.

Pairing: DBF!Ari x Reader

Word Count: 4K.

Warnings: Age gap (reader is over 18, Ari is 40), Ari is 6'6", smut, public smut, oral (fem receiving), praise kink, major size kink, slight spanking, choking kink, dirty talk, jealous, possessive Ari.

A/N: Beta’d by the wonderful @maladaptivexxdaydreaming, @soldatsass & @offcast-plus1 . Divider by @maysdigitalarts.

|Masterlist|Ari Levinson Masterlist|Coffee|

A breeze, salt-tinged and warm, sweeps across your face, carrying the fresh scent of evergreen from the tall, majestic trees lining the beach. The wind catches the bottom of your dress, sending it fluttering around your legs; the lacy material sways back and forth, ballooning out in a sea of lavender, the urge to twirl like a ballerina seeps into your skin and you rise on your toes.

Hearing your name, you settle back on your heels and spin around with a carefree grin, and wave at your dad.

“Really?” your smile falters at the sight of him struggling to carry all his gear, his ‘tools for success’ as he calls them. The bottom of his prized grill is hooked under his arm, spatulas, and knives precariously balanced in his hand, bags of god knows what are flung over both shoulders, making him waddle from the strain of their weight as he approaches you.

You try not to laugh. You really do. But then, you see he’s carrying a bottle of seasoning between his teeth and you lose it. Your bright laughter travels across the beach in loud spurts, almost snorting despite your efforts to rein it in.

“Help please,” he mumbles around the dented container of the old bay.

Sprinting across the warm sand, you manage to catch a few bags before they hit the ground. “You know I would have helped, right?” You ask, nudging him with your shoulder. “Or you could have made two trips.”

Your dad throws you an offended look as he pushes the legs of the grill into the sand. “Two trips? You know we aren’t a two trip household.” He puffs his chest out with pride. “I made it, didn’t I?”

“Barely.” More laughter spills out. You take the knives from his hand and set them down on a plate you rummaged out of one of the bags by your feet.

“And I accept help all the time. I even let Ari grab the steaks.” He mutters distractedly, too busy analyzing his setup to notice your eyes widening; brows nearly hitting your hairline. “He’ll be here any minute.”

You almost choke on your spit. Hitting the top of your chest, you swallow a few times to clear your throat. “Excuse me,” you croak out, leaning down to snag a bottle of water.

“Oh yeah, I told him about our annual trip and the poor guy was going to spend the weekend all alone and I-” he cuts off, waving his arm in the air. “Ari, we’re down here!”

“He’s going to be here the whole weekend,” you whisper, anticipation coursing through you.

Pick out their clothes / underwear for the day or make sure they check for approval in the morning

Take them out on a date without telling them any of the plans

Order their food for them when you go out to eat

Keep them gagged / cuffed while you watch a movie together

Have them kneel on the kitchen floor while you prepare a homecooked meal for the both of you. Keep em close by to be your taste tester.

Their body is yours. Touch, grab, or move it wherever you want, whenever you want.

Anon, I totally understand what you’re dealing with. I think the majority of us go through this at some point in our journey, especially at the beginning. I know I did. I was never a “listen up and do as I say” guy when I was younger. I always felt that it was important that my partners have agency, have the freedom to pursue their personal goals and do as they pleased. So the first time someone really explained to me what being a dominant was, I wasn’t sure if it was right for me.

It’s one thing to learn it, though, and another to understand it. And once I *understood* it, it became the most natural thing in the world. Let me help you understand the same way people helped me understand all those years ago.

See, it’s not about “bossing someone around.” It really isn’t.

It’s about leading. And bossing someone around is not the same thing as leading. Not even close.

Leading means to take someone’s personality and wants and needs and goals into account and to help direct them in a way that accommodates the personality, accounts for the needs always and the wants when appropriate, and helps them achieve their goals. Bossing would be telling someone to do things for the sake of your agenda or just for the sake of control. And that isn’t what this is.

Your partner is asking to be led. Not bossed. Led. She is looking at you and saying “I see in you the strength and honor and courage and character to match my own, and I am choosing to follow you, but I need you to make the choice to lead.”. And anon, that’s fucking powerful.

It is powerful when a strong person sees so much potential in you that they ask you to lead them. It is powerful when someone believes so strongly in who you are that they are that they are willing to give you some of their power because they trust you with it.

Your partner is intelligent and capable and formidable on her own, right? So are both of mine. @belovedsangi and @danipup are two of the strongest, most intelligent, most capable people I’ve ever met in my entire life. They trust me to lead them because they find meaning in it, and in me. They trust me to lead them because that leadership helps quiet their minds and sharpen their focus. They trust me to lead them because they understand that my every drive in life is to lift them up and help them be the very best version of themselves. And your partner wants the same. She wants you to lead. She *needs* you to lead because as amazing as she is, she is also self-aware enough to understand that her mind is busy and she doesn’t always see her path clearly. That’s what she needs from you. She needs you to help her see clearly. She needs you to quiet her mind. She needs you to encourage her growth and enable her to be the best person she is capable of being.

That’s the job. That’s the role. That’s the life. A leader. Not a boss.

And you do this by setting rules and structure that will benefit her and benefit your relationship together, and then keeping her accountable to them. Enforcing those rules and structure when appropriate (which is almost all the time) while still allowing for her to be human. You do this by living mindfully and asking that she do the same. You do this by making sure she always knows what she is supposed to be doing. You do this by always, always paying attention. You do this by doing everything you can to keep her mind quiet and focused on being her best self.

And you know what will happen? She will grow. And so will you. You will benefit from this as much as she does. You will find yourself more mindful, more confident, more assured. You will find that your mind is quiet too. By putting your focus on her, you will drown out the noise of your own life and live more purposefully. And that, in turn, will allow you to be a better leader for her, and the cycle will feed itself perpetually.

Dominance is not domineering. Dominance isn’t about being a boss. Dominance is about being a leader. And a leader leads by lifting up those around them, not stepping on them.

Lift her up. Lead. Grow together. Thrive.

And if you ever need to talk about it, anon, pop over into my messages and talk to me. I’ve been where you are and I’m happy to help.

His mind drifted to the previous evening, their session.  His cock stiffened as he thought about it, his hand, her bottom.  His fingers massaging her pussy between each loud and firm spank.  Her moans.  Her cries, her desperate wanton pleas.  The way when he finally granted her release, her eyes rolled in the back of her head, her body trembled, her legs shook even after.  He had held her for some time after, kissing her, cuddling her, quieting her mind.  

Imagine that you have a goal of getting in shape. After trying different diets and exercise programs, you find that you keep straying from them and inevitably you find yourself back at square 1.

You want it to be different this time, so you finally take the plunge: you hire a personal trainer.

You tell your trainer “ok, I have a goal to be able to run the Boston marathon by next year.”

“Ok”, says your trainer, “how much time do you have every week to devote to this, and are there any types of exercise you are unwilling or unable to do?”

“Well, I have an hour a day on weekdays and can make 3 hours on Saturdays and Sundays, and I have some shoulder problems so I can’t do too much upper body work and I’m unwilling to do stairs because I want to keep my knees healthy”.

So your trainer, working within those limits, draws you up a diet and exercise program, says “this is what I need you to do at minimum, and we’re going to start here work our way up”.

You start your program, and your trainer keeps you accountable. When you slip, your trainer reminds you of your goals and tells you how to make up for the missed exercise or the extra calories.

Now, the most important part of all of this is that even though the personal trainer may be the one giving the orders, ultimately that trainer works for you, not the other way around. And if that trainer steps out of line, you take your business elsewhere. You hold ultimate power, even if it doesn’t look like it in the moment.

Congrats, anon. You just described a power exchange relationship in completely vanilla terms!

Hope this helps!

Sorry. Completely undermines the entire slavery part of concept of consensual slavery.

A description can be a lot less weak-kneed.

If you were to start throwing terms like “slavery” around to someone who wasn’t in the lifestyle, you’d be shooting yourself in the foot. Nobody is going to ever believe that the lifestyle could be healthy at that point. You have to consider your audience. A personal trainer is a concept that people are familiar with, it’s an analogy that they can understand.

This description isn’t “undermining” anything. If someone has consented to being your “slave”, they are doing so because they trust you. They are doing so because you have proven worthy. If you cease to be trustworthy or you stop doing the things that made you worthy, that person is free to leave at any point because someone can call themselves a slave all they want, but at the end of the day, actual, legal, wholesale ownership of another human being is not what’s happening here. They are making a commitment to you based on what they believe you will do for them. If you fail to follow through, if you fail to be worthy of their service, they are not breaking any promise by leaving. If you don’t understand that a dominant only holds the power a submissive grants them, then you don’t understand this lifestyle. It’s easy to get a big head as a dominant. I’ve been guilty of it in the past, so I’m not coming down on you. But regardless of what we call ourselves and what our partners call themselves, we have to remember that we all serve one another.

My submissive partner and I absolutely keep our promises to one another. Through thick and thin, we do. I fall short sometimes of who and what I should be as a dominant. She falls short sometimes of who and what she wants to be as a submissive. But we work on things together, we stick it out, because at the end of the day she knows that I care for her and make every effort to act in her best interests, and I know that she respects my dominance and trusts that I take the power she has given me very seriously. And if I ever began to abuse that trust, if I ever began to act against her best interests, I would fully expect her to take her power back and leave, because at that point I would’ve broken my promise to her.

Everything. Treat women respectfully. Earn and spend money. Travel. Eat. Fuck.

Older men have patience, in and out of the bedroom. Foreplay doesn’t start (or only last) five minutes after you get naked. With us, it often starts hours in advance and never really stops. We understand that your mind and your heart are the most important sexual organs and we know how to expose and nurture them.

Older men want to draw out your pleasure. Not simply so that you can have a bigger, better orgasms (and you will), but because they enjoy watching what they do to you, and how your body reacts. There’s no wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am.

Older men believe in ladies first, and often. Our goal isn’t to simply cum and be done. And even getting that one orgasm out of you is not a goal. We love foreplay, we don’t mind working hard for your orgasms — plural. We take pride when we provide orgasm after orgasm that leaves you shaking, breathless and weak. Personally, I like when you lose count. And believe me… I will make you count them out. I’ll even let you pick the number you want ahead of time. And then I’ll obliterate it, no matter which number you pick.

Older men, in general also have better control over their bodies, whether it’s experience or maturity… we take longer to finish. Older men can give you multiple orgasms, spend hours on foreplay, have sex as long as you want, changing positions fifteen times, and still not have an orgasm of their own.

Young men don’t necessarily grasp that the point of sex isn’t necessarily to get yourself off. For us, sex is about the connection, the intimacy, and the shared pleasure.

For me, cumming is nice, but it’s not necessary for me to have an absolutely amazing time. For me, it’s all about my ability to provide you with pleasure and my absolute command over your experience, whether it’s a quickie or a six hour solid afternoon fuck session.

Taurus is waking up with a nice smell in your nose and the sun tickling you to wake. Taurus is finding new music, books, art you enjoy and humming to yourself while doing chores, singing loudly when home alone. Taurus is the satisfaction of having your hard work pay off, Taurus is hugging someone you love after a long time.

Gemini is stumbling across an old bookstore and losing yourself between the shelves. Gemini is throwing a mischievous smile at someone and obsessing over something for a day, then having a new obsession. Gemini is laughing about something unfunny and with that igniting it with humour, and Gemini is having 15 browser tabs open at 3am and having never felt as awake.

Cancer is having pets fall in love with you. Cancer is staying in on a rainy day with a good show, a cozy blanket and someone to snuggle up with by your side. Cancer is late night talks that go from laughing so hard you can’t breathe to philosophical and deep in a matter of seconds, and Cancer is the relief of plugging your headphones in after a stressful day.

Leo is going to your favourite band’s concert and having backstage tickets. Leo is receiving and giving the most wonderful compliments, and Leo is watching sunsets with someone to hold hands with. Leo is the proudness you feel after finishing a superb performance. Leo is the feeling of being on top of the world. 

Virgo is soft ‘good morning’s and whispered ‘sleep well’s. Virgo is the up-lifiting enjoyment of planning for a trip you’ve been looking forward to for a long time. Virgo is stretching in the morning and having detailed and highly challenging discussions, and Virgo is finding pretty flowers on the sidewalk, stopping to look at them in awe for a minute. 

Libra is putting make-up and pretty clothes on and feeling wonderful in your skin. Libra is making entertaining small-talk with new people, and Libra is the feeling of developing a new crush on someone. Libra is the satisfaction of being in an aesthetically pleasing environment. Libra is the sensation of having someone softly play with your hair and tracing your skin with their fingers.

Scorpio is taking a walk long after the sun has set. Scorpio is losing yourself in music, art, literature. Scorpio is feeling every emotion in a way you feel you’re flowing over - be it happiness or sorrow -, and Scorpio is looking the person you love in the eyes, forgetting time exists. Scorpio is feeling a fleeting connection to that one person that rushed past you in downtown. Scorpio is promises kept.

Sagittarius is looking up at the stars and being full of hope. Sagittarius is bonfire nights and spontaniously starting to run. Sagittarius is sitting by the fireplace thinking about everything all at once, and Sagittarius is climbing a tree and looking into the far horizon. Sagittarius is making bucket-lists, and Sagittarius is having deep conversations. Sagittarius is beginning to believe in yourself.

Capricorn is working towards where you know you will one day be. Capricorn is having black coffee in the morning and preparing yourself for the day, Capricorn is harvesting the fruits of all your hard work, and Capricorn is finding the person who can move your soul. Capricorn is resting when you need to and letting yourself recharge. Capricorn is the potential in everyone of us.

Aquarius is little giggles and the non-verbal communication between you and your best friends. Aquarius is talking about your favourite topic and searching for interesting things on the web. Aquarius is taking photos and collecting memories of your life, and Aquarius is your eyes widening in wonder. Aquarius is staying home with a good show. Aquarius is learning to be yourself.

You have adopted a title that should come with a giant heaping dose of honor, respect, and trustworthiness. 

1. Don’t make demands of submissive girls that don’t belong to you. You should know the difference between having the ability to control your own submissive, and how you should be treating all the rest that don’t belong to you.

2. Don’t talk intimately/woo other submissives behind the back of the one that belongs to you. All the time and energy you have to put into the submissive world should be aimed at your own submissive. If you want a different submissive, do the right thing, and break with the one you currently own first.

3. Don’t ditch submissives. How would you feel if the person you depend on for nearly everything suddenly went up in a puff of smoke, and was never heard from again? How would it effect your ability to trust someone else to take up the same role in your life? Stop ghosting, and ruining perfectly good submissives. 

4. Don’t cut your submissive out from contributing to your relationship. Yes, I know she put you in charge, but relationships evolve, and if you don’t attend to what she wants out of yours, your relationship is likely to evolve in separate directions. You can still be in charge, and listen to her wants and needs, I promise. 

5. Don’t ask someone you just met to be your submissive. It’s your job to inspire her to submit to you, by getting to know who she is, and showing her that you are the single most qualified man to be her Dominant. Don’t be lazy. Being a Dominant takes a lot of focus and energy. If you’re not up for that, go find another title to adopt. 

6. Don’t put your submissive on a shelf when caring for her is not convenient to you, and take her down off the shelf when it suits you. Submissives are human beings, and though some of them like to be treated like objects from time to time, they should not be ignored when you don’t feel like dealing with your relationship. If you don’t have to the time and energy to adopt the role of Dominant for someone, then don’t do it in a half-assed way.

7. Don’t compare your current submissive with past submissives. It’s not a competition. You should be making her feel like she’s the most important person in your current world, so don’t make her feel like she’s less than other submissives, or that you’re pining for something you no longer have, and feel you can’t have with her. 

8. Don’t skimp on the essential ingredients in D/s relationships. Don’t be that guy who limits your submissives safeword in any way. A safeword is the difference between consensual sex, and possible rape and abuse. Don’t skimp on aftercare. Let her know how much you appreciate all the control she continuously allows you to have over her, and how well she is performing for you. It’s the difference between a proud and happy submissive, and a sad and confused one. 

9. Don’t make unilateral decisions that your submissive is directly opposed to. You don’t get to decide your submissive needs a sister because it suits you to have a second submissive to play with, when it’s patently against her wishes. Once again, it’s her relationship too. 

10. Don’t lie to your submissive. It’s all about trust. It’s trust that inspires her to submit to you. It’s trust that inspires her to allow you to continue to hold her submission. One or two breaches of trust, and it all falls apart.