Naked in KC

i often receive “fan mail” from young subs who are seeking guidance as they embark on their journey into faggotry. “You’re my hero,” the young sub-lets gush. “I want to be just like you.” Although i welcome such messages and find them very flattering — i have even considered the possibility of taking on a young protégé at some point — i have noticed some upsetting patterns among the young subs who are approaching me. If i — a faggot — am noticing these upsetting patterns, i can only imagine what Doms and Alphas must be experiencing in their search for genuine, committed, high-quality subs. “Frustrating” doesn’t begin to do the feeling justice. i therefore thought it would be a good idea to address the young subs out there and offer some square-one wisdom that i hope will help them start their fag journeys off on a better foot.

If you’re a young sub who wants to live the fag-life, here are three rules you should keep in mind before you seek guidance, either from a Dom or from a more experienced sub:

Always approach with respect: “Hey,” “Hi” or “What’s up?” is how you greet your friends. It is not how you greet a Dom or a fellow sub. If you’re approaching a Dom, the proper greeting is always “Hello, Sir,” or some variant thereof. If you’re approaching a fellow sub, the proper greeting is “Hey faggot” or some variant thereof. Always include an appropriate identifier (Sir, Master, faggot, pig, boy, bitch, sub, etc.), and always include the appropriate capitalization (for Doms) or lack of capitalization (for subs) to indicate that you understand the person’s position. This seems small, but it’s important and sets a positive tone from the very beginning by indicating that you understand who you’re talking to.

Give in order to receive: Without fail, every time a young sub approaches me, he eventually asks one of the following questions: 1) Do you know any Doms who are looking for a new sub? 2) Maybe I could serve with you sometime; do you have any Doms you serve who would want two subs? The answer to both questions is an immediate “no.” First of all, you should understand that i am not a pimp or a dating service. Second of all, asking someone else to find a sex partner for you is lazy, and makes you appear as such. Admittedly, finding good Doms is hard and takes time, but laziness is one of the worst qualities there is in a sub, so you must learn to take more initiative, have more patience and work harder to find what you seek. Finally, if what you are really seeking is genuine guidance, this is a good opportunity for you to practice the fag virtues of selflessness and servitude. Because you’re asking me for a favor (i.e., to teach you my fag ways), you must ask yourself what’s in it for me? In my mind, supplying you with a Dom would be like paying you to rob my house. It makes no sense. Why would i do that? Instead of asking for something in exchange for nothing, you should ask yourself what you can offer in return. A young sub seeking guidance from a more experienced sub, for example, could offer to find a Dom for both to serve together. The young sub would watch the more experienced sub serve first, then they would have a debrief afterwards to go over what the new sub learned from watching. A second session with the same Dom could then be arranged during which they would serve together, with the more experienced sub giving instructions and/or guidance to the new sub during the session. This would be an appropriate exchange. The same logic, of course, applies to young subs who are approaching Doms. It is unacceptable to approach a Dom asking for something (e.g., “Please fuck me,” “Please let me suck your cock,” “Please use me”). Instead, you should approach Doms offering something (e.g., “How can i be of service, Sir?” “Would you like a hole to use, Sir?” “It would a privilege to serve You sometime, Sir”).

Have goals and objectives: Finally, if you’re seeking guidance — either from a Dom or from a fellow sub — it’s a good idea to have some specific goals and objectives in mind. There’s much to learn, and it shows initiative and commitment when a sub has an awareness of what their weaknesses are and how they would like to improve them. Are you a poor cocksucker? Do you need help learning to drink piss? Do you want to be a better bottom? Do you need need to be educated in proper sub protocol and etiquette? If you know what kind of guidance you need, it will make your interactions with Doms and fellow subs infinitely more productive. And, it shows that you are serious about receiving education and training (i.e., that you’re not just looking for someone to throw you an easy fuck).

As a Dom I’ll add the question I always get: Can you get me gang fucked by all of your top friends?  Typically this question comes up really quickly in the conversation and I almost always lose interest at that point.  Firstly, most guys a top will know are bottoms because that’s who they look for to fuck, they usually aren’t sexually involved with their top friends (why would they be?).  Second, arranging a gang bang is a fuck ton of work, why would I invest that time for someone I don’t know and has yet to prove themselves as reliable.  

OBEY YOUR ALPHA FULLY This means going beyond the letter of what he says & getting to the spirit of it. Any slave can follow orders. You should expect more from yourself. At times, that may even include…

FEEL FREE TO QUESTION One big difference between a beta & a slave is that a beta is expected to think for himself. That means you’ll have questions sometimes. Ask away. If he doesn’t feel like explaining it, he’ll say so. If your question bugs you, he may punish you for asking. If he tells you to just shut up & do it, you will. But always keep yourself open to him, including staying intellectually bright & available. One important caveat to this is how you behave in public. In front of others there should be no questioning of what he says. This is because…

RESPECT IS PRIMARY He shouldn’t have to come up with elaborate rules to display your submission to him. It should be clear at all times, though it may be casual & unobtrusive, that you respect & surrender to his superior masculinity. However, without a set of rules to govern every situation…

EXPECT THE UNEXPECTED You’ve spent the last couple weeks hanging out with him like a buddy? That doesn’t mean that tonight he isn’t gonna suddenly get off on embarrassing & humiliating you, or rough you up a little & tell you to just take it, or do whatever the hell else he wants. Variety is the spice of life. Be ready to be his buddy, bitch, lover, partner, servant, or wingman as the situation and his mood dictate. And no matter what position you’re in at the moment…

BE PROUD OF WHAT HE’S MADE OF YOU He’s put work into developing you the way he likes you. It’s taken some thought & planning on his part to figure out how you can best meet his needs. Be proud of him for the work he’s put in, and remember to…

BE THANKFUL You get to be part of something bigger than yourself & he deserves thanks for letting you in on it. You can express your thanks through affection, gifts, maintenance, praise, & service. Be creative. Surprise him. Make him smile. But while you enjoy your bond with him…

JEALOUSY DOESN’T LOOK GOOD ON ANYONE There will never be reason for him to be jealous because your sexuality will be decided by him. But there should never be a reason for you to be jealous either. The whole point is him enjoying his masculinity, which means as long as he’s having fun, it doesn’t matter if it’s with you or someone else. So long as he’s developing some part of you for his enjoyment, it doesn’t have to be the sexual part of you.

GET READY TO GROW You’ll probably learn new things about yourself as you serve your Alpha. He may help you develop skills you’d have never explored on your own. There are, of course, the basics he shouldn’t have to worry about…

TAKE CARE OF YOUR HEALTH A sick beta is a burden. Eat right, exercise, get enough sleep (except on those occasions when he doesn’t let you- then make up for it later.) You wanna keep it in good shape because…

HE GETS IT ALL Every inch of you is his and should be available to him anytime. He deserves the best. That may or may not mean that everyone else (or anyone else) knows about it because…

MEN DESERVE THEIR PRIVACY Once initial expectations have been set, don’t go whining for more than he has for you. If he’s married to someone else, you’re never gonna get treated like his spouse. If it’s understood that he dates other people, he may fall in love with them. It’s up to him whether or not the other people in his life know about you or not, & whether they know about your service to him or not. Alphas have a lot of people who want to be around them. It’s up to him to balance who can best meet his needs & desires, which comes down to…

LOVE, HONOR AND OBEY BUT STAY OUT OF HIS HAIR Of course he should have the ability to find out where you are & what you are doing when he wants to, but he has more important things to do than to supervise you 24 hours a day, 7 day a week. Be a man. Think for yourself. Make him proud. Make his day. Love, honor & obey. All glory to the Alpha.