Mz.Squish

Absolutely not too heavy, I kinda love this kinda stuff. Too many hours arguing with conservatives on Facebook lmao.

In general when I'm hit with this argument, I don't even bother to try too hard, convincing someone that something they will never understand with nuance is just a losing battle. The bottom line is that ageplay requires adults, no matter anything that you throw at it, actions between two adults will never be pedophilia. It does not matter how you look at it and their reasoning, pedophilia requires a child and ageplay does not involve a child.

Though if you think you can reason with this person, I would offer some viewpoints:

1. If this person happens to be kinky ask them if they feel d/s is roleplaying abuse or sexual slavery. If roleplaying immoral things is wrong then like 95% of kink is immoral.

2. Ageplay normally doesn't actually really involve acting like a real child or a real caregiver. Like I will tell a partner "if you're gonna act like a child I'm gonna spank you and put you in a diaper". A little may ask to be touched but a child who wears diapers and drinks out of a bottle barely can create full sentences, not say dirty things. You don't say that to a child because they're a child, ageplay for a lot of people is about power play not like the actual reality of doing awful things to a child.

3. This is more from a specific point of view. But being very adult like in your real life is often a plus in ageplay than a minus. I don't think anyone can look at any of my partners and think "oh this guy likes children", my partners are very much adults in both appearance and intelligence and that's sooooo very hot. If I was a pedophile I think it would be the other way around.

4. People everywhere have always liked the taboo, moms reading smut, dads taking their kids out of school to go to a movie, normies devouring gay porn, rocking out to songs about doing drugs, rooting for the victim to brutally murder their abuser. If you aren't attracted to the taboo then you are simply not human, ours just happens to come in the version that happens to be super weird and outlandish.

Really? Fine? Your child, who gave up their potty training and adult lifestyle for the first person to treat them with parental love and care? Your child, who will never regain their potty training, emotional regulation, and attention span?

Your child, who lives life happily as someone else's little baby, playing toys in their living room with their crayon scribbles hanging on their fridge?

I had never touched a boob till I was 18 and now I run a semi popular kink blog

I had failed out of college at 20 but now I am a successful software engineer.

I did not work a full 40 hour job until 25.

Just last year I was calling out of work because I was too depressed to get out of bed.

AS A DOM. YOU DESERVE CARE TOO.

aftercare is often times sub-focused, and while that’s always great, it’s often seen as “only subs need aftercare because they’re the ones that took the brunt of the acts.” and as a disabled dom, that’s absolutely not true.

dom drop is very real. I often experience it as guilt for hurting someone, or being “too aggressive,” as trans women are often seen. especially for doms that take care of subs, pretty please take the time to take care of yourself too!!

and for all the subs out there, if you’re able, please please please go get your dom some water or a snack. even if neither of you can walk, it’s imperative that you *talk to each other.* in my past, even the smallest things made me feel so much better. I’m going to list off some great things to say to your dropped dom here (feel free to add in reblogs!!)

“I’m okay. You didn’t hurt me too much.”

“Thank you for doing (self care act) for me, do you need anything?”

“I liked everything you did.”

“everything was within my boundaries.”

“you did great, (name/nickname).”

“do you need anything?”

“would you like (self care act)?”

“can I help (task: clean up, get water, etc.)”

just doing something like talking, showing physical affection, kisses, comfort, etc, is so so so important, and everyone deserves it!