WHAT IS GOD TO YOUR WIFE

& like, "many people (especially men) give little consideration to their partners during sex, & this can manifest as an unwillingness to give head" is a true statement, in like a trivially obvious way. but it is not reasonable (or advisable) to accept the premise that head is unpleasurable for the giver, or to characterize it as some kind of like moral power-up. this is definitely shaped by the general (extremely odd) attitudes online toward penetration and top/bottom (or active/passive) actions. a lot of people seem unwilling to get over the idea that many (most? all?) sex acts place two participants into a dynamic of generous/freeloader, or enjoyer/sufferer, or agent/patient, or good/bad. it frustrates me from three different perspectives: the implication that it's not something anyone would choose to do without an extrinsic motivator (giving head can be pleasurable! you can do it because you like it!), the assertion that it automatically makes you the More Ethical Person in the exchange (giving head can be selfish! it can be inconsiderate & nonreceptive!), & most gravely: the suggestion that there is some volume of people performing sex acts they dont want to because they are The Sex Acts That Good People Are Supposed To Do

They fuck you up, your mom and dad. They absolutely mean to and they ruminate about it like emperors plotting sieges, for hours a day, they have excel spreadsheets called "quickest pathway towards Giving my innocent child borderline personality disorder,"... But they do.

if a man puts his hand on your lower back without asking it's literally ok to kill him

on twitter this got a bunch of responses like “wow even the evil fujoshis? the homophobic yet hypocritically fetishistic ones? what if the fujoshi is racist?” and like well no obviously not in that case.

“shoutout to everybody from new jersey!” “even the new jersey serial killers…?”

the "my favorite character did nothing wrong" mindset is completely unappealing to me because i love thinking about all the things my favorite characters did wrong